How I Got Over My Allergy to Men’s Work: An Ode to the ManKind Project
Oct20

How I Got Over My Allergy to Men’s Work: An Ode to the ManKind Project

I have a confession to make – through my first 12 years of being a psychotherapist in Seattle, I had assiduously avoided “men’s work”. I’d say I had an allergy to it. See I figured men’s work either meant a bunch of guys with ponytails and Birkenstocks banging drums in the woods and integrating being all soft with each other, or it meant a bunch of muy-macho guys yelling at me and trying to make me...

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Lessons from my Mom, Judy
Oct17

Lessons from my Mom, Judy

Guest post by Rob Peck, www.zestworks.com Judy Peck taught me (mainly by modeling) the efficacy of a few short phrases to instill trust, and inspire loyalty. To be fair, some of the following I learned from my old man, Art Peck- who thankfully is still alive and kicking, and continuing my education. And while I’m at it, a special shout out to my sister, Wendy- who is literally and figuratively the shining image of her beautiful...

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Need An Excuse Not To Change Your Culture?
Oct17

Need An Excuse Not To Change Your Culture?

Um, hold on a second, just let me close the door to my office. The conversation was about to get a bit more interesting. I was on the phone with the Jan, the head of Human Resources of a privately held consumer products company.  The company had notched 102 straight years of profit- until this last year.  It was their first losing year ever. I was working with them to assess their current state, with a special focus on the company...

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Undressing for Success in the Bedroom
Oct12

Undressing for Success in the Bedroom

Here is one simple thing you can do that will tremendously enhance your lovemaking and bond for each other… – – – See the author’s TEDx Talk on Creating Extraordinary Intimacy in a Shut Down World – – – What I’m about to share with you has led to countless hours of exquisite lovemaking and a deeper emotional bond and appreciation between my partner and me. It is so ridiculously simple...

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Why Do Leaders Lack Empathy?
Oct09

Why Do Leaders Lack Empathy?

Last Wednesday was a sunny, crisp, beautiful Fall New England morning. That’s when it all went terribly wrong. It was already 8:10 am, and I was hurrying to get Miranda, my nine-year old daughter to school on time. Her school’s about a mile from home, and thus far this school year, we’ve been riding our bicycles to get there and back most days. Wednesday, Miranda would have none of it.  She was upset, and cried out, I don’t want to...

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The Blue Flame of Anger
Oct09

The Blue Flame of Anger

In my world anger is expensive fuel. Despite its extraordinary cost anger is expedient when compressed and used sparingly with discretion. Caution! Storage is problematic. Anger expands when contained and pressure relief is critical. Increased levels of compression can be explosive. The popular myth that anger must be suppressed or “managed” needs serious rewriting. This strategy if adhered to rigidly can lead to toxic levels of...

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How do we ‘Shape the Future’ together? the 4 Story-Changes
Oct06

How do we ‘Shape the Future’ together? the 4 Story-Changes

by Chris Kyle Shaping the Future: Living Your Purpose in Chaotic Times live online training being held on October 11th at 5:00 pm PDT / 8:00 pm EDT (share this event with your friends here: www.purposefromchaos.com). First, let me explain what I mean by ‘shaping the future.’ We can either be in constant reaction-mode to whatever is happening in our world — both at the local level in our personal lives and at the global level...

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The Time Stamp
Oct05

The Time Stamp

I turn 65 this summer, if not a convenient act certainly symbolic. A life of high drama is running its final lap and the flowers in my garden are a constant reminder all living things have a season. My work has taken me into the townships of South Africa and behind the walls of maximum-security prisons. I’ve had the privilege of peering deep within the souls of the world’s elite military and challenged corporate giants at their own...

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PTSD: ‘After multiple combat deployments I had no idea what I felt.’
Oct04

PTSD: ‘After multiple combat deployments I had no idea what I felt.’

— Caught by surprise the Green Beret sitting across from me grasped that all his elite training hadn’t prepared him to confront his interior landscape. “I’m master of the outer terrain, now I discover an unfamiliar interior terrain?” His stunned expression said it all. Habitual suppression compromises our ability to be effective in relationships or in society. Excessive pressure and stress will eventually trigger an implosion....

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Sex is Everywhere, Just Don’t Talk About It
Oct03

Sex is Everywhere, Just Don’t Talk About It

We will all be living in the dark shadows until we can talk about sex openly and authentically –here’s why… – – – See the author’s TEDx Talk on Creating Extraordinary Intimacy in a Shut Down World – – – Want to know how to mess people up big time? It’s easy. Just constantly remind them of their second most powerful innate drive and then make it socially unacceptable to even...

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5 Important Reasons To Avoid Irony and Sarcasm
Oct01

5 Important Reasons To Avoid Irony and Sarcasm

Morons should kill themselves. When you read that, what’s your reaction? What do you think? How do you feel? What judgments do you make? That first sentence was tweeted, as was this one: Cyclist almost killed my dog this morning. He fell off and yelled at me. I hope he broke his f—ing arm. But wait, there’s more. This tweet was in reference to an allegedly neglectful mother: Tie her tubes. Now. All three tweets were...

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I Just Came Out and I’m Not Gay
Sep26

I Just Came Out and I’m Not Gay

Every single one of us has the opportunity to “come out” whether we are LGBTIA or not; here’s why… – – – I had the recent privilege of being one of the speakers at the University of Nevada TEDx event. Lesbian singer and song writer Jennifer Knapp was another featured speaker who I befriended. Her talk and music was about what it was like to come out as lesbian while catering her music to...

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6 Threats Keeping You From Innovating
Sep19

6 Threats Keeping You From Innovating

Innovation:  Creating value by doing something better by doing it a new or different way. That “something better” could be many things: A new product A refined process An improved way to collaborate Innovation doesn’t have to mean a radical change -incremental tweaks are innovative, too.  Given this broad definition of innovation, everyone can be innovative.  It’s not limited to a select, creative few. We both...

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Why Teaching Your Kids To Do Their Best Isn’t As Easy As It Sounds
Sep19

Why Teaching Your Kids To Do Their Best Isn’t As Easy As It Sounds

Embed from Getty Images As a parent I want my son to do his very best at everything he tries; not because I think it’ll make him the next super bowl MVP or the next highest-paid endorser for Nike, Reebok or Under Armor; more because it’ll help him achieve whatever he wants out of life – or at least walk away knowing he gave it his all. Asking your child to give it their best sounds pretty simple, right? I mean what’s so hard about...

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Arm Your Children
Sep19

Arm Your Children

by Snake Bloomstrand We are raising a generation of armored children. “Don’t talk to strangers,” we warn and for good reason. The polar bears are dying! – Black lives matter – Leaders are not to be trusted – and lets not neglect the daily wave of tragedy washing across countless screens at the swipe of a child’s finger. There are endless reasons for a child to armor-up and we encourage it. I’m a fan of armor God knows we...

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Do This One Thing to Become Her Best Lover Ever
Sep15

Do This One Thing to Become Her Best Lover Ever

Here is one simple shift in the bedroom that will transform your entire relationship… – – – See the author’s TEDx Talk on Creating Extraordinary Intimacy in a Shut Down World – – – Nature was kind enough to wire us guys for one thing sexually speaking. That is to spread our seed far and wide and often as possible. This is the reason we can be madly in love with our mate but still steal...

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Winter is coming to the Plains
Sep13

Winter is coming to the Plains

Editors Note: Tim Yakaitis is one of a number of #NewWarrior men actively collaborating to support the protests on the Standing Rock Lakota Reservation. The ManKind Project has a proud and long history of connection in the area. Learn more. by Tim Yakaitis,  I returned last night from my second trip to the Standing Rock Lakota reservation where now over 6000 people from more than 200 tribes are encamped. As I slept under the stars on...

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Tough or Nice? Which Should A Leader Choose?
Sep10

Tough or Nice? Which Should A Leader Choose?

There’s an archetype that’s been around for a long time in business:  the Great Man. It’s based on the belief that an extraordinary individual can save the day.  It’s personified by the work of the actor John Wayne:  the hero rides into town, and makes everything okay.  The End.  Fade to black.  Roll the credits. The Great Man is a Grit Man.  He’s determined to persevere through challenges no matter what....

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Why Women Leave Their Husbands
Sep10

Why Women Leave Their Husbands

This is for all those men who think their marriage is just fine… Divorce statistics hover between 50% and 73% (from first to third marriages). But, did you know that women are more likely than men to initiate divorce? Michael Rosenfeld, an associate professor of sociology at Stanford University, examined data from Stanford’s 2009-2015 “How Couples Meet and Stay Together” project, a nationally representative longitudinal study of...

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Why Are You Still Together?
Sep05

Why Are You Still Together?

How you define relationship “failure” may just help you stay together in a more fulfilling way –here’s why… – – – See the author’s TEDx Talk on Creating Extraordinary Intimacy in a Shut Down World – – – Not too long ago I received an email from a man who wanted some advice about his sexless marriage. He went on to say that his wife is not the least interested in...

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