The Way of Transformation
Nov23

The Way of Transformation

Excerpted from “The Way of Transformation: Daily Life as Spiritual Exercise” (London: Allen & Unwin, 1988) by Karlfried Gras von Durkheim The man who, being really on the Way, falls upon hard times in the world will not, as a consequence, turn to that friend who offers him refuge and comfort and encourages his old self to survive. Rather, he will seek out someone who will faithfully and inexorably help him to risk...

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Men’s Work is a Tug of War
Apr27

Men’s Work is a Tug of War

from the Lair of the Wildman If you had attended Elementary School or High School with me, you would immediately recognize me in this photograph – I am the one up front. In fact, I don’t think I was as cool as this kid. For me, those years in school were a nightmare. Sure, I was usually the last one picked for a team, I was clumsy and pudgy. We didn’t have much money and my mother made clothes for me that caused...

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The Price of a Cubicle
Feb13

The Price of a Cubicle

from the Lair of the Wild Man Some years ago now, I danced with a bawdy band of bough-brandishing brigands. We performed under the name General Hardware and danced Border Morris, an ancient English/Welsh men’s folk dance with sticks. There was a particular event that opened my eyes and this is that story. It comes back to me whenever men wonder about the nature of the Wild Man. The evening was a cold one in early November and we...

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Guest Post: A Blessing and a Challenge for the New Year
Jan07

Guest Post: A Blessing and a Challenge for the New Year

Republished with permission from Masculinity-Movies.com by Eivind Figenschau Skjellum (video greeting at the bottom) 2014 has been a year of enormous change and growth for me and most of the people I know and love. If you are someone who is in honest conversation with your life, I bet you’ve had the same experience. We are in many ways in over our heads, with lives full of activity. And while “activity” used to mean that...

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Sunlight Defeats Shame
Jan02

Sunlight Defeats Shame

by Dave Klaus I have a very different relationship with shame than I did a few years ago. Indeed, as I have learned to forgive and love myself, it rarely comes up at all.  But when it does, I choose to dig right in, glean any useful information from the feeling, and then let it go. But I used to feel a lot of shame. I truly believed that there was something terribly wrong with me;  that I was a freak, a weirdo, sui generis: truly...

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Loving Through My Shadow – a poem
Oct21

Loving Through My Shadow – a poem

by Les Gaines What is this shadow following me, damn? Just a lie of what I truly am. A mark from yesterday when some guy said I wasn’t good enough to play. That old stain has been like a stone locking away my heart in a catacomb. How can I live? How can I breath? With this mirage of limitation blinding my destiny. I pay the price to feel worthy. But still it’s clear that I’m not free. No, just a proxy of what I should be, offering a...

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