If You Want to Change – Go Deep
by Owen Marcus I, like the rest of us, would much rather do the minimum than work hard. Why do more than you need to? Well, there are times when our mental solutions don’t work. In this post on my blog I write about how the mantra of our groups is – “Take the man deeper” produces a level of change unattainable from any mental technique I have ever seen. We are trained to be smart, to come up with solutions to problems. We compete to...
A place inside for Fathers
by Herb Orrell Father’s Day would have been pretty much the same if it hadn’t been for the mud swallows. It was during my second coffee that I first heard their morning chatter outside on the porch. Peering out the window I saw the two of them, giggling newlyweds: he, doting and chivalrous; she, radiant and graceful. I had been warned about mud swallows. My neighbor, the veterinarian’s wife, said they were messy, and once they settled...
Do you ask for help?
by Owen Marcus I am learning. In this post on my blog I write about creating and then allowing your community to help you and how it is a challenge for us men. I see in many men, including myself that asking for help is difficult. We would rather offer than ask. Is that true for you? When was the last time you asked someone to go out of their way for you? A few weeks ago in our men’s group we had a man ask to have a whole...
Axial Grease Man
by Walter Stewart Mom needed help raising ten children You took us on jobs where Men brought water up from the earth They laughed and cussed at Each other in the Texas heat Lumbering tools bent deep Sweaty axial grease men Who shaped pipe, rope, Wrenches and steel Into surgeon’s wands Coaxing the nectar upward Men who long knew The value of Aqua Dulce Before it was bottled up Back when water and childrem flowed free Men who knew how...
What do you really want from food?
by Dmitri Bilgere “I want to eat whatever I want, as much as I want, whenever I want, and never exercise. That’s what I want.” My wife Fawn had asked me what I wanted my relationship with food to be like. Hearing me answer, I think she was starting to regret having asked. “I want to eat hot fudge sundaes. I want to eat donuts. I want to eat chocolate chip cookies — In fact, that’s such a great idea,...
Are you depressed?
I say yes – there is a good chance you are depressed by Owen Marcus Twenty-five years ago I was hanging out with my best friend, mentor and shaman, Nelita, when she casually mentions, “You are depressed.” Without thinking I said, “No.” Then I started thinking about my clients who were depressed and how I had many of their symptoms. The bottom-line was I had no energy. I would drive a block from my clinic in Scottsdale to the store...
A Father’s Love; a poem
by Shaky Shergill Not always shown but ever present A father’s love. Wrestled to the ground by a growing son A father’s love Tickling and laughing A father’s love Smiling and encouraging A father’s love Orders to do homework A father’s love Shouting to clear your room A father’s love Thinking about your future A father’s love Holding you close and kissing your forehead A father’s love Stepping back so you can follow your own path A...
Letting Go; a poem
by Richard Wiener What fathers bear when sons leave Beggars description. Empty rooms Still echo with the voices of the past. The vacant chair at table, silences That take the place of sharings With sons we loved so well, still love, But now in pain at their departing. Suddenly we’re old, or older at the least. Suddenly it’s only we, without illusions Of being young with them, playing that game. Sons’ leaving seems...
Coming to terms with an absence of elders
by Rick Belden I’ve been thinking recently about the deficiency of appropriate, effective male mentoring in my life and how it’s affected me. I’m 52 and it’s still affecting me, just as it’s affected me at every stage of my life. There’s a huge hole in my life where my father should have been (and still should be), but as big as that hole is, it’s merely the center of a much larger hole, the product of a male culture that is woefully...
Father’s Day Open Post
For Father’s Day 2011 – you are invited to share from the heart about what comes up when you reflect on the Father, the Dad, the Sovereign energy in your life. What are you ready to bless about your Dad? What will you bless about yourself? What are you ready to commit to in your fathering, or in your modeling of the healthy sovereign? Have a story or a poem to share? Share it here! At the ManKind Project, we help Dads be...
FATHERS: A Literary Anthology by Andre Gerard
by Sarah McGinnis Writer Andre Gerard, who identified and named the new publishing term patremoir an “essay, poem, play or film built around memories of the author’s father,” has just released Fathers: A Literary Anthology. In it, essays by a diverse group of beloved writers, including Alice Munro, Franz Kafka, E.E. Cummings, Sylvia Plath and E.B. White explore the idea of fatherhood and all its ups and downs — the...
The Little Boy Inside
by Paul Rogers The little Boy Inside, Holds his head in shame, The little Boy, Believes he is to blame, The little Boy Inside, Carries the weight of wounds, that last, The little Boy, Has not healed, from time past, The little Boy Inside, Lives with terror, lives with fear, The little Boy, Has No Mother close, No Father near, The Little Boy Inside, No one to hold, No one to ease his pain, The little Boy, Love’s lack, he feels...
Involving Fathers (How we do it in Canada)
I am encouraged by what I perceive to be more involvement between of men with their children.. .At the same time, I recognize how hard it can be for some of us to be involved in our children’s lives in a meaningful way
My Life with Iron Man
By Rick Belden A few months ago, I received an invitation from Eivind Figenschau Skjellum (who just completed the New Warrior Training Adventure in the UK in June, 2011) at Masculinity-Movies.com to write a guest review for the 2008 movie Iron Man. I was pleased and very honored to accept. You can read my review of the movie on his site. But there’s more to my relationship with Iron Man than a movie review. Much more. Iron Man...
Moving from Caveman Procreator to Caring Dad: The Father Myth
in Michael Chabon’s Manhood for Amateurs: The Pleasures and Regrets of a Husband, Father and Son by Eric Cravey Numerous studies conducted over different decades illustrate that the passage of time is the best cure for changing or re-shaping long-held public perceptions, which are sometimes referred to as the myth of what a culture believes is true. In literature, myth takes a given perception of human beings and makes them concrete...
The ULTIMATE Men’s Summit – HUGE FREE EVENT!!
Men! I’m writing to invite you to help spread the word about a huge and exciting men’s event – the Ultimate Men’s Summit. It’s a ten-day virtual event featuring more than 75 powerful leaders, including Robert Bly, Sam Keen, Jed Diamond, Chris Kyle, Owen Marcus, Jayson Gaddis, Michael Taylor, Dan Milman, John Friend, Neale Donald Walsh, Michael Kimmel, and our own co-founder, Bill Kauth. You can participate by phone or on the internet!...
5 Ways to Better Cope with Stress
ManKind Project Partners with Men’s Health Network for Men’s Health Men’s Health Month The Men’s Health Network is national not-for-profit with global partners that does education and advocacy on many men’s health topics. Each year MHN works with multiple national organizations and the United States Congress to promote Men’s Health Week and Men’s Health Month. You can take action by Sponsoring...
Five Friends, the Movie
Creating ‘Quality Male Relationships’ in an age of Bros by Boysen Hodgson Love ya, bro. These words come easily for many men. Uncommitted words that put little at risk, words now offered between men who barely know one another. Words that Seth Rogen might self-consciously mutter as the summit of his capacity for relationship in a film like The Green Hornet (we’ll assume here that Seth knows better, and is simply playing...
Groundhog Day
REPRINTED WITH PERMISSION from Masculinity-Movies.com. Masculinity-Movies.com is not associated with the ManKind Project, Inc. Posts from Masculinity-movies.com do not necessarily represent the views of the ManKind Project. Click here Masculinity-Movies.com Groundhog Day is a comedy far outside of the trodden path. The story of Bill Murray’s “Phil” and his journey to free himself from an eternity reliving the same...
How to Lead with a Broken Heart
By Joseph DiCenso I’m sitting in a circle of thirty-six women and men on the final morning of a three-day conference and I’m crying. Through my choked and wobbly voice I’m trying to name the ache I feel for the state of the world. My grief over the gap between what could be and what is. I speak of the beauty I see; of its growing poignancy the more it becomes threatened. The coral reefs, the pelagic fish. The...
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