Spice Up Your Relationship with a Blind Date
– – – See the author’s TEDx Talk on Creating Extraordinary Intimacy in a Shut Down World – – – My partner and I wanted to do something different and adventurous for Valentine’s Day. So she had this idea about us going on a “blind date”. Where we would meet at a restaurant and bar as if being set up by our mutual friend “Bill”. The idea was to stay totally in character (i.e. as if we had just...
Slow Way, Way Down for Extraordinary Intimacy
– – – See the author’s TEDx Talk on Creating Extraordinary Intimacy in a Shut Down World – – – As I write this I’m sitting in an airport on my way to give a TEDx talk titled: Creating Extraordinary Intimacy in a Shutdown World. One of the central themes of my talk is how, as a fully impotent prostate cancer survivor, I have slowed way, way down for my female partner and what doors to truly...
“Wifely Duty” and Why So Many Married Women Eventually Prefer No Sex
– – – See the author’s TEDx Talk on Creating Extraordinary Intimacy in a Shut Down World – – – Guys, I have bad news for you. You know the joke “If you want to have sex, don’t get married!”? Well, it’s largely true. And it gets worse. According to an analysis of U.S. Census data, 36% of women living with a same-sex romantic partner in their 40s had been married to a man at some point; among...
How to Eliminate Performance Anxiety Forever
– – – See the author’s TEDx Talk on Creating Extraordinary Intimacy in a Shut Down World – – – The idea of “performance” is part of the very fabric of our culture. It is a goal oriented, comparison based paradigm that affects our behavior on the playing field, at work, as a parent and most intimately, as a lover. It is in the bedroom however that the very notion of performance can wreak havoc...
There is No Such Thing as a Broken Heart
– – – See the author’s TEDx Talk on Creating Extraordinary Intimacy in a Shut Down World – – – A young female friend of mine who is helping me with one of my book projects came to me for some relationship advice. She told me she was scared to tell her boyfriend how she really felt about him – to open up and be authentic and vulnerable. “What are you afraid of happening if you tell him how you...
Netflix and the Demise of True Romance
Sharing a Netflix movie doesn’t have to be the highlight of your romantic evenings together. Here’s a way to keep the fires of intimacy burning ever brighter as your relationship matures… – – – See the author’s TEDx Talk on Creating Extraordinary Intimacy in a Shut Down World – – – About the Author Michael J. Russer is a prostate cancer survivor who was left completely impotent as a result of...