The (Almost) Inevitable Relationship Life Cycle
Jul25

The (Almost) Inevitable Relationship Life Cycle

Why most relationships simply won’t make it and how to avoid that fate…   – – – See the author’s TEDx Talk on Creating Extraordinary Intimacy in a Shut Down World – – – As is turns out, most committed relationships travel through a fairly predictable arc with respect to changes in partners’ mutual fulfillment over time. And if they make it long enough to reach retirement there are two basic outcomes: a rekindling of their...

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Relationships on Autopilot Will Crash Everytime
Jul18

Relationships on Autopilot Will Crash Everytime

The last thing you want to do when your relationship is going smoothly is put it on “autopilot”… – – – See the author’s TEDx Talk on Creating Extraordinary Intimacy in a Shut Down World – – – Anyone who commutes to work has had the experience of arriving at the office and not even remembering the process of getting there. The first time you become aware of it having happened, it is frankly a bit scary. However, our brains are wired so...

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Find Time or Find Someone Else
Jul11

Find Time or Find Someone Else

Nearly everyone is stressed for time and here’s how to avoid having your relationship fall apart because of it. – – – See the author’s TEDx Talk on Creating Extraordinary Intimacy in a Shut Down World – – – Recently I was interviewed on camera by a highly regarded relationship coach where we discussed many issues surrounding sex and intimacy. The part where things became, well… “interesting” was when I talked about how critical it was...

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How to Not Let Your Kids Destroy Your Intimacy
Jul05

How to Not Let Your Kids Destroy Your Intimacy

Here’s how to avoid your bundles of joy from absolutely shredding your relationship… – – – See the author’s TEDx Talk on Creating Extraordinary Intimacy in a Shut Down World – – – I remember so clearly how wonderful things were with my wife and I for the first three years of our marriage. Though we were working ungodly hours every day building a successful business together, we loved every minute of it. And, we NEVER fought. I also...

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Ditch Approach Anxiety Once and For All
Jun27

Ditch Approach Anxiety Once and For All

Here’s how you can turn approach anxiety into reach out success minus the cold sweats and furtive glances… – – – See the author’s TEDx Talk on Creating Extraordinary Intimacy in a Shut Down World – – – How many times have you been to a bar with a very danceable live band playing only to find the ones dancing are the women? My partner and I love to go out dancing most weekends and we typically find that we are the only “couple”...

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Sex, Lies and Menopause
Jun20

Sex, Lies and Menopause

When your partner uses menopause as the reason for diminished desire consider it your wake up call to something more serious… – – – See the author’s TEDx Talk on Creating Extraordinary Intimacy in a Shut Down World – – – I recently visited a dear friend of mine in the mid-West. On all outward appearances he is happily married with two incredible teenage children and an attractive wife in her early 40’s. For fun I gave him some of my...

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