I Dare You Scaredy-Cats
Apr10

I Dare You Scaredy-Cats

by Snake Bloomstrand My early civic education began with the transfer from Elementary  School to Junior High. Although we were young boys, a darker side of humanity began to flex its muscles. The majority of us were 11-14 and floating in a physical, biological and emotional stew we didn’t understand but were eager to taste. “I dare you” became a common challenge sorting out the courageous from the “Scaredy-Cats.” I dare you, was often...

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Real Men Feel: Ep. 88, Masculine Emotional Intelligence is Not an Oxymoron with Owen Marcus
Apr06

Real Men Feel: Ep. 88, Masculine Emotional Intelligence is Not an Oxymoron with Owen Marcus

Masculine Emotional Intelligence is Not an Oxymoron with Owen Marcus Episode 88, April 3, 2018 This week Andy Grant and Appio Hunter are joined by author, speaker, and coach, Owen Marcus, to talk about men and emotions, men’s groups, and other tools for men to build remarkable lives. Men are leaving behind the duality of being macho OR sensitive. It doesn’t have to be either/or. “What holds us back from being Remarkable is how we...

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Male Encounters with the Feminine
Mar21

Male Encounters with the Feminine

by Mothiur Rahman Reprinted with permission from ‘The Feminine and the Seeds of the Future Series’ There has been an absence of male role models in my life, ones I felt I could connect with and be inspired to follow into and through adulthood. That absence, I have been learning, has led to all sorts of entrapments by projections of what I felt being a man is about. I carried a sense of betrayal that the sex I was born into...

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Loneliness is killing millions of American men. Here’s why.
Feb21

Loneliness is killing millions of American men. Here’s why.

Reprinted with permission from Mark Greene via UpWorthy & The Good Men Project. When I was 7, my best friend’s name was George. He lived around the corner from me. George was tall and lanky. His elbows always akimbo, his cowlick stellar in its sheer verticality. He had an aquarium. He had a glow-in-the-dark board game. He had the 45 rpm of “Hang On, Sloopy,” and he was a Harry Nilsson fan, just like me. I can still...

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The Shooter(s)
Feb19

The Shooter(s)

The Shooter(s) Right about now You are asking Again Who is this shooter? Who is this boy? Who the hell is he? Who is he, really? I have heard it said He is a monster, a crazy monster Well, let me tell you who he is: He is angry He is sad He is lonely He is lost He is afraid He is ashamed He is wounded He is trapped He is hurt He is disconnected He is alone He is dead–inside He is desperate He is no monster He is no crazy man You...

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Real Men Feel: Ep. 77, Celebrating Masculine Power
Feb06

Real Men Feel: Ep. 77, Celebrating Masculine Power

As originally seen on Real Men Feel, with Andy Grant and Appio Hunter. Celebrating Masculine Power Episode 77, January 23, 2018 At a time when masculinity seems under attack, it is important to remember that good men owning their power can be a fantastic positive force for everyone. This week Andy Grant and Appio Hunter are joined by fulfillment coach and speaker, Sean-Patrick Maher, to discuss how men can embrace their power and...

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This is my Journey – Bruce Noll
Jan29

This is my Journey – Bruce Noll

by Bruce Noll This is the short version of what I hope to document fully in the near future. I choose not to compare my life with that of any other human being though I acknowledge having done so (wittingly or unwittingly) for most of this life. At this stage in my experience I am choosing to come to terms with what is, as I currently understand it, in an effort to change the result of the balance of my life by changing my...

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The Giant Cost of Faking Feedback
Jan09

The Giant Cost of Faking Feedback

by Alain Hunkins, reprinted from Pioneer Leadership. Saying you want feedback is one thing.  The willingness to receive it is something else. Research has shown that leaders who ask for feedback are significantly more effective than leaders who don’t ask for it.  Leaders who ranked at the bottom 10% in asking for feedback were rated at the 15th percentile in overall leadership effectiveness.  In contrast, leaders who ranked at the top...

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Real Men React: The Onslaught of Sexual Harassment Charges
Jan09

Real Men React: The Onslaught of Sexual Harassment Charges

Real Men React to Sexual Harassment, Episode 72, December 5, 2017 With the depth and speed of sexual harassment charges, firings, apologies, denials etc. RMF has been wanting a discussion with other men to talk about our reactions to all of this. Andy’s has continually been; “What the f*ck?!” Real Men Feel’s Andy Grant and Appio Hunter, lead a frank discussion with three guys from the private RMF Facebook Group; Anthony Simeone from...

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How Empowerment Leads to Engagement
Jan09

How Empowerment Leads to Engagement

by Alain Hunkins, originally published on Pioneer Leadership If it were you, which would you most prefer? No choice Someone else’s choice for me My choice The answer is obvious:  In general, we prefer to make our own choices. There’s a freedom that comes from making our own choices.  This is the heart of empowerment: the ability to be directly involved in our work. This involvement includes prioritizing the work,  as well as when and...

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Reprint: Men’s Rites of Passage & ManKind Project: FAQs
Dec09

Reprint: Men’s Rites of Passage & ManKind Project: FAQs

A special reprint from #NewWarrior Mike Morrell, reprinted with permission. When I wrote An Open Letter to my Brothers in light of #MeToo last month, it really struck a chord. It’s been shared more than just about anything I’ve ever written – over 21,000 times as of this writing. I think the reason that it’s resonating – among men, women, and nonbinary folks alike – is because the increasing cultural truth-telling about men in power...

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The Armor That Sinks Men
Nov06

The Armor That Sinks Men

Guest post by Snake Bloomstrand I accidentally discovered armor when my Father died. I’d been unaware until a confrontation with a neighbor revealed how guarded I’d become. She’d learned of my Father’s death and asked, “How are you?” “Fine,” I replied. “Fine?” She asked, “How can you be fine? Your Father just died.” The skepticism reflected in her eyes caused me to doubt myself and wonder if I was missing something. Her question...

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The Part of Your Brain That Can Make Work A Joy…or a Hell
Nov06

The Part of Your Brain That Can Make Work A Joy…or a Hell

by Alain Hunkins There’s a small part of your brain called the RAS:  Reticular Activating System. The RAS  is the gateway for nearly all sensory input entering the brain.  The RAS works like a bouncer outside a nightclub.  It decides what information to let in, what to keep out, and which information should be treated like a “VIP”.   Excepting smells, there’s no way to get into that brain without getting past the RAS. The RAS has a...

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Grandfathers & Grandsons
Nov06

Grandfathers & Grandsons

Guest post by Peter Clothier (for my grandsons) Tomorrow is your sixth birthday, Luka. In this morning’s meditation, my thoughts turned not only to you but also to my older grandson, your cousin, Joe; and to my own two grandfathers. I was thinking about how important grandfathers can be to their grandsons, and my own role as grandfather… I write down these thoughts for you both, so that you’ll have at least a passing acquaintance with...

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Dear Brothers, from Mike Morrell
Oct17

Dear Brothers, from Mike Morrell

Guest post by Mike Morrell, from MikeMorrell.org  Dear Brothers: Have you noticed it? We’re entering a sea-change. For generations, our unconscious actions and ways of being toward women went unnoticed, were accepted by default, or even celebrated. But in the public sphere, the tide is turning. These altered currents arguably started with Bill Cosby. Then Donald Trump, Roger Ailes, and Bill O’Reilly (“the conservatives”) crested the...

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Real Men Feel: Episode 69, Male Violence
Oct13

Real Men Feel: Episode 69, Male Violence

Guest post: Andy Grant: Real Men Feel Male Violence, Episode 69, October 10, 2017 In the wake of the Las Vegas Massacre, Real Men Feel’s Andy Grant and Appio Hunter, have an open discussion on male violence. All fans of the show were invited to take part. Is violence innate to being a man? Are white males particularly violent? If male violence is a problem is it primarily a mental health issue, a gun issue, something else? Can it be...

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Women in Men’s Groups?
Oct13

Women in Men’s Groups?

(or) Why Men’s Groups Need Women Guest post by Erin Brandt Bottom Line: Because AFTER men get tremendously powerful support from other men in digging through their deepest shit and celebrating their biggest wins, what’s crucial is practicing integrating your new skills… directly with women… – *with* the support and guidance of your brothers – with women specially chosen because of their love of, respect of and skill with...

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The Elements of a Personal Growth Plan
Aug28

The Elements of a Personal Growth Plan

by Jim Wolfson Reprinted with permission from http://jimwolfson.com/ The Elements of a Personal Growth Plan How to Set Your Life up for Change To be alive is to be growing and transforming. Once a person settles in to his or her patterns, tries to keep control, there is a certain kind of dying that begins. I’ve worked with many people who express a desire for change. They are somehow blocked in life, are suffering or confused, and...

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Lessons I Learned from Nightfall
Aug21

Lessons I Learned from Nightfall

by Keith R. Jarvis When I first learned about the solar eclipse of August 2017, I immediately thought of Asimov’s short story Nightfall, and the later novelization with Robert Silverberg. Of course the total eclipse that arrives on Monday won’t affect us in the same way as the residents of a world that has never experienced night. But the sense of catastrophe beyond control and my inability to prevent mass insanity has run...

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A “Rookie” Perspective of Connecting with the ManKind Project
Aug21

A “Rookie” Perspective of Connecting with the ManKind Project

By: David J. Galvagno “Grey Wolf” – Syracuse NY In February of 2015, I was asked by a friend if I wanted to come to his men’s group he had been telling me about. I knew these men got together and talked about their lives, and helped each other, and it was connected to this weekend he had gone on endlessly about previously. It was all connected to this MKP thing he first discovered on a trip to San Diego. I was curious enough to...

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