Mr. Sacco
This last four days I’ve been deep in the woods and water of Ontario. I was spending time with a man I first met in fifth grade at Earle Brown Elementary School. He was my teacher then and still is today … some 50 years later. Joe used to smuggle art books into school for me, from his own collection. Rembrandt, DaVinci, Van Gogh, Picasso, and my personal favorite Michelangelo were all represented and invited to share their...
Male Encounters with the Feminine
by Mothiur Rahman Reprinted with permission from ‘The Feminine and the Seeds of the Future Series’ There has been an absence of male role models in my life, ones I felt I could connect with and be inspired to follow into and through adulthood. That absence, I have been learning, has led to all sorts of entrapments by projections of what I felt being a man is about. I carried a sense of betrayal that the sex I was born into...
The Giant Cost of Faking Feedback
by Alain Hunkins, reprinted from Pioneer Leadership. Saying you want feedback is one thing. The willingness to receive it is something else. Research has shown that leaders who ask for feedback are significantly more effective than leaders who don’t ask for it. Leaders who ranked at the bottom 10% in asking for feedback were rated at the 15th percentile in overall leadership effectiveness. In contrast, leaders who ranked at the top...
Real Men React: The Onslaught of Sexual Harassment Charges
Real Men React to Sexual Harassment, Episode 72, December 5, 2017 With the depth and speed of sexual harassment charges, firings, apologies, denials etc. RMF has been wanting a discussion with other men to talk about our reactions to all of this. Andy’s has continually been; “What the f*ck?!” Real Men Feel’s Andy Grant and Appio Hunter, lead a frank discussion with three guys from the private RMF Facebook Group; Anthony Simeone from...
Real Men Feel: Episode 69, Male Violence
Guest post: Andy Grant: Real Men Feel Male Violence, Episode 69, October 10, 2017 In the wake of the Las Vegas Massacre, Real Men Feel’s Andy Grant and Appio Hunter, have an open discussion on male violence. All fans of the show were invited to take part. Is violence innate to being a man? Are white males particularly violent? If male violence is a problem is it primarily a mental health issue, a gun issue, something else? Can it be...
Thrive or Just Survive: Men’s Work Beyond Woundedness
by Jan Hutchins “Few among men are they who cross to the further shore. The others merely run up and down the bank on this side.” ― Gautama Buddha I no longer cry at ManKind Project graduation celebrations. At the first 20+ gatherings where our brotherhood welcomes home the new initiates and their families, I had the wettest hankie in the room, gushing as our “new brothers” spoke of their transformations, weeping as their families and...