Best Men’s Books

This wonderful resource was lovingly complied by Ryan Stanga

Warrior Suggested Reading

From June to August of 2011, an effort was made to develop a short list of “Must-Read” books for men by polling members of the ManKind Project Toronto and selected other Warriors. What follows is a summary of the feedback received.

The list is divided into books suggested by multiple men and those suggested by a single man. Within the first section, books are arranged by “mentions” and then alphabetically by author. Each entry includes the title of the work, the author, publisher, year and a “product description” from Amazon.com.

Updates, suggestions of other works, and/or corrections to the information listed are welcome to Ryan Stanga Please include “Best Men’s Books” in the subject line.

Section 1 – Books Suggested by Multiple Men (“Top 12”)

1. The Way of the Superior Man: A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of
Women, Work, and Sexual Desire

David Deida, Sounds True, Incorporated, 2006
Mentions: 9

What is your true purpose in life? What do women really want? What makes a good
lover? If you’re a man reading this, you’ve undoubtedly asked yourself these questions – but you may not have had much luck answering them. Until now. In The Way of the Superior Man David Deida explores the most important issues in men’s lives – from career and family to women and intimacy to love and spirituality – to offer a practical guidebook for living a masculine life of integrity, authenticity, and freedom. Join this bestselling author and internationally renowned expert on sexual spirituality for straightforward advice, empowering skills, body practices, and more to help you realize a life of fulfillment, immediately and without compromise.

2. Iron John: A Book about Men
Robert Bly, Da Capo Press, 2004
Mentions: 6

While the men’s movement was already well along at the time, Bly’s controversial 1990 bestseller almost single-handedly brought that movement into the national spotlight. Often lost in discussion of the politics of this book–real or supposed–is the fact that it may represent Bly’s high-water mark as a prose stylist. Bly sustains a complex, multi-faceted discussion of the Grimm Brothers’ fairy tale “Iron John” for over 200 pages, examining the story and its implications from mythological, psychological and everyday perspectives.

3. King, Warrior, Magician, Lover: Rediscovering the Archetypes of the Mature
Masculine

Robert Moore & Douglas Gillette, Harper San Francisco, 1991
Mentions: 6

King Warrior Magician Lover presents the four basic archetypes of the mature masculine. Robert Moore and Douglas Gillette address the increasing number of men searching for the foundations of an authentic, revitalized masculinity that is generative, creative and empowering. By identifying and awakening of the four basic archetypes—using dream analysis, meditation, “active imagination” and ritual process—the authors guide the listener to a fuller, richer, more mature masculine “self.”

4. Fire in the Belly: On Being a Man
Sam Keen, Bantam, 1992
Mentions: 5

A guide to establishing new personal ideals of heroism, strength, and potency for a fuller life examines the stereotypes, myths, and evolving roles of contemporary men, presenting an alternative vision of virtue and virility.

5. Manhood
Steve Biddulph, Random House, 2004
Mentions: 2

Exploring two critical social issues: establishing a healthy masculinity and how men can release themselves from suffocating and outdated social moulds, Biddulph addresses the problems and possibilities confronting men in their daily life. Women have found the book to be a profoundly moving and revealing read; while men acquire recognition and a sense of hope that life can be different. Topics include:–Seven steps to manhood–You and your father – breaking down the defences–Sex and spirit – coming alive–Being a real father -turning your love into action– real male friends – be proud of being male and much more.

6. The Hero with a Thousand Faces
Joseph Campbell, New World Library; 2008
Mentions: 2

Since its release in 1949, The Hero with a Thousand Faces has influenced millions of readers by combining the insights of modern psychology with Joseph Campbell’s revolutionary understanding of comparative mythology. In these pages, Campbell outlines the Hero’s Journey, a universal motif of adventure and transformation that runs through virtually all of the world’s mythic traditions. He also explores the Cosmogonic Cycle, the mythic pattern of world creation and destruction.

As part of the Joseph Campbell Foundation’s Collected Works of Joseph Campbell, this third edition features expanded illustrations, a comprehensive bibliography, and more accessible sidebars.

As relevant today as when it was first published, The Hero with a Thousand Faces continues to find new audiences in fields ranging from religion and anthropology to literature and film studies. The book has also profoundly influenced creative artists—including authors, songwriters, game designers, and filmmakers—and continues to inspire all those interested in the inherent human need to tell stories.

7. No More Mr. Nice Guy – A Proven Plan for Getting What You Want in Love, Sex,
and Life

Dr. Robert Glover, Running Press, 2003
Mentions 2

Originally published as an e-book that became a controversial media phenomenon, No More Mr. Nice Guy! landed its author, a certified marriage and family therapist, on The O’Reilly Factor and the Rush Limbaugh radio show. Dr. Robert Glover has dubbed the “Nice Guy Syndrome” trying too hard to please others while neglecting one’s own needs, thus causing unhappiness and resentfulness. It’s no wonder that unfulfilled Nice Guys lash out in frustration at their loved ones, claims Dr. Glover. He explains how they can stop seeking approval and start getting what they want in life, by presenting the information and tools to help them ensure their needs are met, to express their emotions, to have a satisfying sex life, to embrace their masculinity and form meaningful relationships with other men, and to live up to their creative potential.

8. Power vs. Force: The Hidden Determinants of Human Behavior
David R. Hawkins, Veritas Publishing, 1995
Mentions: 2

David R. Hawkins details how anyone may resolve the most crucial of all human dilemmas: how to instantly determine the truth or falsehood of any statement or supposed fact. Dr. Hawkins, who worked as a “healing psychiatrist” during his long and distinguished career, uses theoretical concepts from particle physics, nonlinear dynamics, and chaos theory to support his study of human behavior. This is a fascinating work that will intrigue readers from all walks of life!

9. The Elder Within: The Source of Mature Masculinity
Terry Jones, Bookpartners, 2001
Mentions: 2

This is a search both in the world and inside the soul. Jones encourages and celebrates the expression of eldership: an approach to the second-half-of-life that is apparent in expressions like active grand parenting, mentoring and stewardship. The man who embraces elder qualities makes himself available to the young, to his family and the community. He has confidence in the fruits of his long life experience, and wants to seed the future for the sake of the young. Jones imagines men as they enter the retirement years taking on roles such as mentor, mediator and a source of blessing. North American men, however, don’t have models for how to utilize the expanded life span we have today.

We lose ourselves in work for most of our adult lives. Like fathers before us, we have been emotionally distant from our children. We have not developed skills in nurturing our spirit. The elder within is a source of a spiritual and balanced expression of masculinity. The Elder Within shows the relationship between the acceptance of responsibility for stewardship both of people and the earth and the recovery of men from the damage done to their souls in recent history. In the 18th century men became detached from family and community as they moved from farm to factory. Competing for jobs and profit, men forgot the joy of collaboration. In order to survive men learned about asserting power in the workplace. They then returned home and allowed their power to darken the nature of fatherhood and grand-fatherhood. Today we have come to decry abuse by men who beat their wives, perpetuate violence and discriminate against people. These are not mature men. In The Elder Within we celebrate mature men who express mature masculinity.

The focus of the book is men, but women will also enjoy the hopeful potential of mature masculinity. Jones believes men are looking for a next step in the personal growth and healing many of them began in the men’s movement. The Elder Within offers elder, as an alternative to elderly: that stereotype of older people that frightens the young about aging. Eldership, the expression of elder qualities, is a second half of life adventure in modeling mature masculinity. Elder expression fosters consensus rather than conflict. The man or woman who expresses elder energy uses tools of wisdom like meditation, contemplation and active listening. The elder expresses confidence in their long life experience and wants to seed the future by being accessible to and holding the dream for the young.

10. A Circle of Men: The Original Manual for Men’s Support Groups
Bill Kauth, St. Martin’s Griffin, 1992
Mentions: 2

What is the men’s movement? Hundreds of thousands of men all across North America are forming councils, lodges, and participating in “wild man weekends,” inspired by the mythopoetic writings and personal testimonies of such authors as Robert Bly, Sam Keen, and John Lee.

What do you need to be part of it? Robert Bly’s practical advice to his gatherings of men is to go home and form small groups. This book, fifteen years in the making and written by one of the prominent forces in the men’s movement, is the original handbook for forming and guiding these small support circles.

Here’s what this book gives you: This step-by-step manual grows out of Bill Kauth’s two decades of experience with over 125 support groups. It will help the organizer or leader to start a group, find new members, solve group problems, and create rituals and activities that promote honesty, self–disclosure, and fun.

11. The Flying Boy: Healing the Wounded Man
John Lee, HCI, 1989
Mentions: 2

The Flying Boy: Healing the Wounded Man is a record of one man’s journey to find his “true masculinity” and his way out of co-dependent and addictive relationships. It’s a book for all men and women who grew up in dysfunctional families and are now ready for some fresh insights into their past and their pain.

The Flying Boy is a story about feelings – losing them, finding them and finally expressing them. Here you will find people you know; will discover a way out of the pain and see that it really is OK to express yourself without fear.

The book is about grieving, a very misunderstood process often confused with self-pity. The Flying Boy opens doors to understanding – men will understand themselves and each other, and women will more deeply understand men, learn how to be with wounded men and still take care of themselves.

12. A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life’s Purpose
Eckhardt Tolle, Penguin Audiobooks, 2005
Mentions: 2

Eckhardt presents readers with a honest work at the current state of humanity. He implores us to see and accept that this state, which is based on an erroneous identification with the egoic mind, is one of dangerous insanity. Tolle tells us there is good news however…

Section 2 – Books Suggested by individual men

1. Alcoholics Anonymous – The Big Book and the 12 Steps and Twelve Traditions
AA Services, Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, Inc, 2002

It’s more than a book. It’s a way of life.

Alcoholics Anonymous – The Big Book-has served as a lifeline to millions worldwide. First published in 1939, Alcoholics Anonymous sets forth cornerstone concepts of recovery from alcoholism and tells the stories of men and women who have overcome the disease. With publication of the second edition in 1955, the third edition in 1976, and now the fourth edition in 2001, the essential recovery text has remained unchanged while personal stories have been added to reflect the growing and diverse fellowship. The long-awaited fourth edition features 24 new personal stories of recovery.

2. Tuesdays with Morrie: An Old Man, a Young Man, and Life’s Greatest Lesson
Mitch Albom, Broadway, 2002

Maybe it was a grandparent, or a teacher, or a colleague. Someone older, patient and wise, who understood you when you were young and searching, helped you see the world as a more profound place, gave you sound advice to help you make your way through it.

For Mitch Albom, that person was Morrie Schwartz, his college professor from nearly twenty years ago.

Maybe, like Mitch, you lost track of this mentor as you made your way, and the insights faded, and the world seemed colder. Wouldn’t you like to see that person again, ask the bigger questions that still haunt you, receive wisdom for your busy life today the way you once did when you were younger?

Mitch Albom had that second chance. He rediscovered Morrie in the last months of the older man’s life. Knowing he was dying, Morrie visited with Mitch in his study every Tuesday, just as they used to back in college. Their rekindled relationship turned into one final “class”: lessons in how to live.

Tuesdays with Morrie is a magical chronicle of their time together, through which Mitch shares Morrie’s lasting gift with the world.

3. Naked at Gender Gap: A Man’s View of the War between the Sexes
Asa Baber, Carol Publishing Corporation, 1992

The celebrated Playboy columnist offers his slant on relations between the sexes in a collection of essays with such provoking titles as “Equal Rights for Men,” “Boss Ladies,” and “The L Word.”

4. Illusions: The Adventures of a Reluctant Messiah
Richard Bach, Delta, 1998

In the cloud-washed airspace between the cornfields of Illinois and blue infinity, a man puts his faith in the propeller of his biplane. For disillusioned writer and itinerant barnstormer Richard Bach, belief is as real as a full tank of gas and sparks firing in the cylinders…until he meets Donald Shimoda–former mechanic and self-described messiah who can make wrenches fly and Richard’s imagination soar….

In Illusions, the unforgettable follow-up to his phenomenal bestseller Jonathan Livingston Seagull, Richard Bach takes to the air to discover the ageless truths that give our souls wings: that people don’t need airplanes to soar…that even the darkest clouds have meaning once we lift ourselves above them… and that messiahs can be found in the unlikeliest places–like hay fields, one-traffic-light Midwestern towns, and most of all, deep within ourselves.

5. Mythopoetic Perspectives of Men’s Healing Work: An anthology for therapists and
others.

Edward Barton (Editor), Bergin and Garvey, 2000

Midlife is the stage of generativity versus stagnation. As a man realizes that he has lived more than half of his life, he will look for new ways to be generative with his family, as a father, in his community, and to others in general. Otherwise, he runs the risk of stagnation.

There is little-published theory, research, or evaluation of men’s programs for men at midlife. There is even less of these types of materials published about men at midlife involved in activities structured in a mythopoetic perspective or about men actively involved in mythopoetic men’s work. This volume fills that void.

6. Leadership from the Inside Out: Becoming a Leader for Life
Kevin Cashman, Berrett-Koehler Publishers, 2008

Leadership from the Inside Out is an interactive, reflective journey into the heart of authentic, personal leadership. It gives you the practical tools to grow as a whole person to become a leader for life. Leadership from the Inside Out was named the #1 best selling business book by CEO-READ in 2000.

7. Absent Fathers, Lost Sons: The Search for Masculine Identity
Guy Corneau, Shambhala, 1991

An experience of the fragility of conventional images of masculinity is something many modern men share. Psychoanalyst Guy Corneau traces this experience to an even deeper feeling men have of their fathers’ silence or absence—sometimes literal, but especially emotional and spiritual. Why is this feeling so profound in the lives of the postwar “baby boom” generation—men who are now approaching middle age? Because, he says, this generation marks a critical phase in the loss of the masculine initiation rituals that in the past ensured a boy’s passage into manhood. In his engaging examination of the many different ways this missing link manifests in men’s lives, Corneau shows that, for men today, regaining the essential “second birth” into manhood lies in gaining the ability to be a father to themselves—not only as a means of healing psychological pain, but as a necessary step in the process of becoming whole.

8. Channeling Biker Bob: Heart of a Warrior
Nik Colyer, Henrioulle Publishing Group, 2001

Channeling Biker Bob takes us inside the psyche of Stewart Chance a bewildered ‘new-age’ man who can’t figure out why his sensitivity is neither adored by his wife nor fulfilling to his own sense of manhood.

In a delightfully raucous manner, Stewart’s transformation is propelled via a charismatic yet irreverent Harley-riding spirit named Biker Bob. –This text refers to the Kindle edition.

9. Self-Defeating Behaviors: Free Yourself from the Habits, Compulsions, Feelings,
and Attitudes That Hold You Back

Milton R. Cudney & Robert E. Hardy, HarperOne, 1993

A guide to freeing ourselves from the inappropriate and crippling behaviors that sabotage our success.

10. The whole man program: Reinvigorating your body, mind, and spirit after 40.
Jed Diamond, John Wiley & Sons, Inc., 2002

You can take positive steps toward improving your health and maximizing your passion, productivity, and purpose. Written by the bestselling author of Male Menopause and based on the latest breakthrough information, The Whole Man Program offers proven techniques that will help you reach a whole new level of physical, emotional, and spiritual health. You’ll learn how to lose weight and meet specific fitness goals; prevent heart disease, cancer, depression, and other diseases; put life and love back into your sex life; find your calling and be happy with your work life; and achieve new levels of energy and vitality-and have fun while you’re doing it. So get with the program-start reading The Whole Man Program today and feel better than ever.

11. The irritable male syndrome: Managing the 4 key causes of depression and
aggression

Jed Diamond, Rodale Press, 2004

From the best-selling author of Male Menopause comes another life-transforming book for men-and the women who love them-on overcoming the mood and behavior changes caused by fluctuating male hormones. Jed Diamond presents the most up-to-date research from around the globe to reveal why so many normally loving husbands, fathers, and sons suddenly become irritable, angry, and withdrawn. He identifies the four common triggers of Irritable Male Syndrome (IMS)-fluctuating testosterone levels, biochemical imbalances, loss of masculine identity, and stress-and then shows how best to treat this condition that, research shows, affects up to 30 percent of males, especially those in adolescence and midlife.

Just as PMS is now acknowledged to be a problem in women, IMS-thanks to this book-is gaining recognition as an affliction among men. By revolutionizing the detection, understanding, and treatment of this condition, The Irritable Male Syndrome is bringing relief and happiness back to the lives of millions.

12. Breaking the Shackles
John Everingham, MPC/BEP Press, 2005

Shame is an emotion that many of us don’t recognize easily, and yet it’s usually the basis of addiction, violence, overwork, emotional shutdown, and adopting a ‘false self.’ The good news is that once we recognize it for what it is, shame loses much of its toxicity. Breaking the Shackles is a revised edition of our 1995 book, Men Healing Shame, in which several dozen men write of their experience healing the effects of toxic shame. Among our chapter authors are Robert Bly and Gershen Kaufman. It’s a book written by and for men–using our natural way of saying things, and yet a number of women have found it helpful. A very practical book, with occasional theoretical underpinning.

13. The Myth of Male Power
Warren Farrell, Berkley Trade, 2001

Farrell debunks the myth of male power. He dares to question the image of male-as-oppressor, arguing that this misconception has hindered not only men, but women as well.

14. Lord of the Flies
William Golding, Perigee Trade, 2003

William Golding’s classic novel of primitive savagery and survival is one of the most vividly realized and riveting works in modern fiction. The tale begins after a plane wreck deposits a group of English school boys, aged six to twelve on an isolated tropical island. Their struggle to survive and impose order quickly evolves from a battle against nature into a battle against their own primitive instincts. Golding’s portrayal of the collapse of social order into chaos draws the fine line between innocence and savagery.

15. Iron Hans (John)
The Brothers Grimm

This is the classic Brothers Grimm fairy tale about a wild man and a prince, sometimes
known as Iron John.

16. Owning Your Own Shadow: Understanding the Dark Side of the Psyche
Robert A. Johnson, HarperSanFrancisco, 1993

A bestselling author shows how we can reclaim and make peace with the “shadow” side of our personality. 

17. Good will toward men: Women talk candidly about the balance of power between the sexes.
Jack Kammer, St. Martin’s Press, 1994

A candid testimony about the powers of the feminine from twenty-two accomplished female therapists, scholars, authors, and leaders discusses the subtle tensions between the sexes and calls for a more balanced public discourse about sexism.

18. Heroes of the blue sky rebellion: How you and other young men can claim all the
happiness in the world

Jack Kammer, Healthy Village Press, 2009

Do you wonder why young males don’t seem as energized, motivated, determined, focused and optimistic as females the same age?

One major reason is that the past forty years have been one long, passionate, fierce and joyful pep rally for girls and young women. They can do anything! We adults haven’t provided any such support to boys and young men.

This little book, a quick and easy, boy-friendly read, aims to give young males the emotional boost they sorely need.

Read it for yourself. And let’s make sure boys know they, too, can do whatever they want.

19. At My Father’s Wedding: Reclaiming Our True Masculinity
John Lee, Bantam, 1991

This book is a ground-breaking work about the “Father Wound” and the pain men bear because of it. For most men, Dad was lost to work, routine, drugs, alcohol, wars, T.V., or the pursuit of money and all it could buy. The legacy of the missing father is a life of troubled relationships, addictive behaviors, crises, and a deep inner woundedness that leads to emotional numbness, rage, and unhappiness. In this moving, compassionate, and important book, Lee shows how to get past and over this wound as he shares his own struggle to come to terms with his father and to recover from a troubled childhood. He tells how all men can let go of the past, of false and hurtful images of men and manhood, and reclaim themselves, their sense of identity, and their self-esteem. Lee writes about the many different father types, the different wounds they leave and then points the way to self-understanding and healing.

20. Mastery: The Keys to Success and Long-Term Fulfillment
George Leonard, Plume, 1992

Drawing on Zen philosophy and his expertise in the martial art of aikido, bestselling author George Leonard shows how the process of mastery can help us attain a higher level of excellence and a deeper sense of satisfaction and fulfillment in our daily lives. Whether you’re seeking to improve your career or your intimate relationships, increase self-esteem or create harmony within yourself, this inspiring prescriptive guide will help you master anything you choose and achieve success in all areas of your life.

In Mastery, you’ll discover: The 5 Essential Keys to Mastery Tools for Mastery, Mastery and Energy, How to Master Your Athletic Potential, The 3 Personality Types that Are Obstacles to Mastery, How to Avoid Pitfalls Along the Path.

21. A Dynamic Philosophy: For Producing Optimum Health and Vitality Without Diets,
Drugs or Doctors

Wade T. Lightheart, Alliance Press LLC, 2009

This book contains easy to follow Vital Power principles that have been successfully put into practice by thousands of people from all ages, backgrounds and walks of life. Profound yet simple. Engaging the formula and mastery for a lifetime, incorporating just a few of these principles can radically change your life.

22. Men and the Water of Life: Initiation and the Tempering of Men
Michael J. Meade, Harper SanFrancisco, 1994

In the bestselling tradition of Iron John, this masterwork–now available in paperback–uses myths and symbols to provide keen insights into male initiation, power, ordeals, scars, wounds, passion, violence, love, and more. “Meade is a master of the mode.”–New York Times Book Review.

23. The archetype of initiation: Sacred space, ritual process, and personal
transformation.

Robert L. Moore, Xlibris, 2001

Derived from a series of lectures, colloquial discussions, and addresses delivered over a ten-year period, this book urges contemporary healers to utilize pre modern tribal principles of sacred space and ritual process long considered lost or inaccessible to modern culture. Properly prepared “ritual elders” can guide people through ritual steps from (a) the challenge of a life-crisis, into (b) sacred space and time for needed reorganization, and then into (c) a newly transformed personal and social world. Deep, transformative experiences release the energies of a mature commitment and fuel the vision of a global, nontribal community of justice and peace. The steps presented in this book are derive from key concepts in the scholarship of Arnold van Gennep, Mircea Eliade, Joseph Campbell, and Victor Turner, reformulated with new insights from extensive field research and psychoanalytic practice.

The materials presented in this book articulate Robert Moore’s conviction that our species has evolved to the point where we either must continue to provide conscious, creative, and responsible rituals of life that serve the maturation and healing of all its people, or face the alternative of unconscious and destructive participation in rituals of personal, social, and global death.

24.The King Within: Accessing the King in the male Psyche.
Robert Moore & Douglas Gillette, Chicago Theological Seminary dba Exploration
Press, 2007

In this pioneering contribution to masculine psychology, Robert L. Moore, a Jungian psychoanalyst, and Douglas Gillette, a mythologist, examine the inner King-one of the four archetypes of the male psyche. Asleep-as far as Ego-awareness is concerned-for untold generations, the King at the center of every man’s soul is now returning to consciousness. His return is heralded by many men’s growing sense of empowered masculine authenticity and by their enlarged capacity to empower others: other men, their friends and co-workers, the women in their lives, and their children. The inner King integrates power and nurturing, firmness and caring, courage and creativity, self-affirmation and self-sacrifice. From his central position between the world of imagination and the world of action, the King within challenges every man to take up his own scepter, to dream dreams, and to make them come true. This new revised and expanded Text Edition of The King Within recounts, as did the first edition, the many gifts the King can bestow on men. It also offers expanded discussion of techniques for accessing and regulating the King’s powerful energies. Most importantly, it presents, for the first time, a 47-page description of the 16 configurations in which the four archetypes appear in men’s personalities. This additional section includes newly created graphics that illustrate Robert Moore’s ground-breaking “Structural Psychoanalysis,” a new and vital integration of psychoanalytic and spiritual theories that will help men achieve a full and authentic maturity-so as to steward a new and better world into being.

25. Finding Inner Courage
Mark Nepo, Conari Press, 2011

In this book, Mark invites readers to explore their own inner core through the stories of ordinary people, political activists, artists, spiritual teachers from a variety of traditions. These are people who have faced themselves, their warts and weaknesses. They have stood by the courage of their convictions in all kinds of moments, great and small.

Nepo’s insights and commentary are spot on, and help readers relate the stories of others to their own lives. The book is divided into three sections–finding our inner core, standing by our inner core, and sustaining the practice of living from that place. Each of the nearly 60 brief essays and stories elucidates and inspires. Nepo’s broad range of stories and people, of traditions and insights, offers myriad ways for readers to relate to their own search for courage.

26. Letters to My Son: A Father’s Wisdom on Manhood, Life, and Love
Kent Nerburn, New World Library, 1999

In an attempt to gather what wisdom he could to guide his son into adulthood, Kent Nerburn published a powerful collection of essays that touched the hearts of parents and children everywhere. In this beautiful revised edition, Nerburn refines his advice and expands his thoughts.

27. Road Less Travelled: A New Psychology of Love, Traditional Values and Spiritual Growth
Scott Peck, Touchstone, 1998

With this first sentence, Dr. M. Scott Peck revolutionized the way we live our lives, and it is no less true today than when it was written twenty years ago.

In this guide to confronting and resolving our problems-and suffering through the changes-we learn that we can reach a higher level of self knowledge. Written in a voice that is timeless in its message of love and understanding, The Road Less Traveled can help us learn the very nature of loving relationships: how to recognize true compatibility; how to distinguish dependency from love; how to become one’s own person; how to be a more sensitive parent.

The Road Less Traveled, a national bestseller for twenty years, will show you how to embrace reality and achieve serenity and fullness in your life. In this brilliant, groundbreaking book, traditional psychological thought and spirituality are challenged and a new understanding is brought into everyday life.

28. Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance
Robert M. Pirsig, Harper Perennial Modern Classics, 2008

Arguably one of the most profoundly important essays ever written on the nature and significance of “quality” and definitely a necessary anodyne to the consequences of a modern world pathologically obsessed with quantity. Although set as a story of a cross-country trip on a motorcycle by a father and son, it is more nearly a journey through 2,000 years of Western philosophy. For some people, this has been a truly life-changing book.

29. Nature and the Human Soul, Cultivating Wholeness and Community in a
Fragmented World

Bill Plotkin, New World Library, 2008

Addressing the pervasive longing for meaning and fulfillment in this time of crisis, Nature and the Human Soul introduces a visionary ecopsychology of human development that reveals how fully and creatively we can mature when soul and wild nature guide us. Depth psychologist and wilderness guide Bill Plotkin presents a model for a human life span rooted in the cycles and qualities of the natural world, a blueprint for individual development that ultimately yields a strategy for cultural transformation.

With evocative language and personal stories, including those of elders Thomas Berry and Joanna Macy, this book defines eight stages of human life – Innocent, Explorer, Thespian, Wanderer, Soul Apprentice, Artisan, Master, and Sage – and describes the challenges and benefits of each. Plotkin offers a way of progressing from our current egocentric, aggressively competitive, consumer society to an ecocentric, soul-based one that is sustainable, cooperative, and compassionate. At once a primer on human development and a manifesto for change, Nature and the Human Soul fashions a template for a more mature, fulfilling, and purposeful life – and a better world.

30. The song of father-son: Men in search of the blessing
Peter Putnam, iUniverse, 2006

As a son, what words did you desperately want your father to say to you?

As a father, what words from you would change your son’s life?

Putnam’s struggle with the life and death of his own powerful father, his extensive reading of Jung, Bly, and other profound chroniclers of men’s lives, and his work in the New Warrior Training Adventure and the Mankind Project enable him to offer a portrait of the Unblessed son—and a path to The Blessing. The Song of Father-Son moves sons beyond their addictions, their old roles, and their deadened emotions…to their birthright as strong, loving men.

31. The Red Queen: Sex and the Evolution of Human Nature
Matt Ridley, Harper Perennial, 2003

Referring to Lewis Carroll’s Red Queen from Alice Through the Looking-Glass, a character who has to keep running to stay in the same place, Matt Ridley demonstrates why sex is humanity’s best strategy for outwitting its constantly mutating internal predators. The Red Queen answers dozens of other riddles of human nature and culture — including why men propose marriage, the method behind our maddening notions of beauty, and the disquieting fact that a woman is more likely to conceive a child by an adulterous lover than by her husband. Brilliantly written, The Red Queen offers an extraordinary new way of interpreting the human condition and how it has evolved.

32. The Saint, the Surfer, and the CEO: A Remarkable Story about Living Your Heart’s
Desires

Robin Sharma, Hay House, 2003

Once in a while, a book comes along that has the power and the wisdom to speak to the best part of us and awaken our highest selves to the miracle our lives were meant to be. In this truly unforgettable guide, Robin Sharma, author of the national bestseller The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari and a man whose life lessons are currently transforming the lives of many thousands of people across the planet, will show you how to access your inner gifts and reshape your whole outer life in the process. With brilliant simplicity and remarkable insight, The Saint, the Surfer and the CEO will teach you:

How to stop betraying your self and live your destiny
Simple ways to feel a rare amount of fulfillment and joy in your days
How to reconnect to your inner child like heart for a more passion-filled life
Lessons to conquer stress, balance life, and feel good about yourself
A proven process that will revolutionize your relationships and fill your life with love
How to restore adventure, simplicity, and prosperity into your life
Powerful principles to become strikingly successful at work
Practical wisdom to help see a gorgeous vision for your future and then make it a
reality

33. Conscious Communication – How to Establish Healthy Relationships and Resolve
Conflict Peacefully while Maintaining Independence

Miles Sherts, Langdon Street Press, 2010

Looking for a better, more effective way, to resolve conflict, have more meaningful
conversations and build relationships? This is it!

We humans spend a lot of time talking, and with cell phones and the internet our daily contacts with each other have exploded. Yet we rarely pay attention to how we communicate, and all this talk has not improved our relationships. Many of us don’t know how to share our feelings and needs without blame, or hear about another person’s experience without judgment. And often we leave a conversation without a deeper sense of understanding or connection.

Conscious Communication offers a new approach which leads to greater understanding instead of further division. Practical skills and basic relationship tools enable us to stay connected while recognizing our differences, and see other people as allies instead of adversaries. As we let go of our impulse to be ”right,” and focus instead on what we need to be happy, we see how joining with other people can dissolve our isolation and provide a real sense of belonging and security.

34. Three Prosperity Classics – The Science of Success: The Secret to Getting What You
Want

Wallace D. Wattles, Sterling Publishing, 2007

Written nearly a century ago, these life-changing 3 books in one have opened the eyes of thousands of people to these timeless, ancient truths guiding readers along a path to wealth, health, success and fulfillment.

35. The Shack
Wm. Paul Young, Windblown Media, 2011

Mackenzie Allen Phillips’s youngest daughter, Missy, has been abducted during a family vacation, and evidence that she may have been brutally murdered is found in an abandoned shack deep in the Oregon wilderness. Four years later, in this midst of his great sadness, Mack receives a suspicious note, apparently from God, inviting him back to that shack for a weekend. Against his better judgment he arrives at the shack on wintry afternoon and walks back into his darkest nightmare. What he finds there will change his life forever.

Contributors
1. Jason Bald (MKP-Toronto)
2. Ed Barton (MKP-Windsor/Detroit)
3. Azam Bhaloo (MKP-Toronto)
4. David Bowland (MKP-Toronto)
5. W. Rick Broniec (MKP-Wisconsin)
6. Marko Carapic (MKP-Toronto)
7. Lamont Daigle (MKP-Toronto)
8. William “Zev” Daniels (MKP-Toronto)
9. Alan Domb (MKP-Toronto)
10. Chris Derry (MKP-Toronto)
11. Bruce Erickson (MKP-Toronto)
12. Robert B. Feagan (MKP-Toronto)
13. Andrew Goad (MKP-Toronto)
14. Matt Hilliard-Forde (MKP-Toronto)
15. Ralph Johnson (MKP-Windsor/Detroit)
16. Alan Park (MKP-Toronto)
17. Bruce Rosove (MKP-Canada East)
18. Michael Schuyler (MKP-Toronto)
19. David Sherman (MKP-Toronto)
20. Paul Strick (MKP-Windsor/Detroit)
21. Morgan Toane (MKP-Toronto)
22. David Tuscany (MKP-Windsor/Detroit)

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