Living Heaven On Earth?
Apr03

Living Heaven On Earth?

Once upon a time, Buddha was quoted (or paraphrased) as saying, “Life is suffering.” In contrast, many years ago, someone taught me that “Suffering is optional.” Somewhere in between that observation and what we long for as possibilities in our lives is a middle ground that beautifully holds the tension and exhilaration of how to […]

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To Thine Own Self Be True
Mar28

To Thine Own Self Be True

I was facilitating one of my men’s groups recently, and one of the topics that came up as a “hot button” was how to navigate the slippery slope of getting needs met while not appearing needy, and what are even “appropriate” needs to look to your partner to satisfy/support. This gets so tricky, because we […]

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What’s Up With Men, Anyway?
Feb14

What’s Up With Men, Anyway?

  I was just reading a post on Facecrack that a dear friend of mine asked for some men to offer feedback on.  It was concerning an article she’d seen on a website discussing the differences between men and women, and how those differences made relationships challenging. The author was basically contending (and I’m in […]

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Being Seen – An Essential Ingredient In The Recipe Of Love
Dec24

Being Seen – An Essential Ingredient In The Recipe Of Love

A man who’s been in relationship for awhile happened to say, “She [his partner] really sees me.” After he shared that, another man in the group asked, “What does it mean to you guys to ‘be seen’?” What ensued was a close to 45-minute conversation about what “being seen” meant to various men in the […]

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Are You Willing To Be An Idiot For Love?
Dec07

Are You Willing To Be An Idiot For Love?

What’s your biggest fear, other than harm coming to someone you love?  Is it being out of money?  Is it being alone or unloved?  Is it that people will find you you secretly read Mad Magazine in the john when no one’s looking?  Failing? Odds are pretty high that your biggest (or one of the […]

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Who Are You, Anyway?
Dec01

Who Are You, Anyway?

One of the most common complaints or issues that people share with me that they are struggling with is along the lines of “I don’t know what I want to do with my life,” followed closely by “I have no idea what my purpose is, and I feel like I’m just drifting through my life.” The economic times seem to be adding to the distress of that kind of question. People who are getting clear that they are not living a life that is congruent with who they really are often describe feeling trapped, particularly in their careers (and often in unhappy relationships where financial stability is seemingly at stake).

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