我的诗310:会议智慧

我的诗310:会议智慧

萨满知道这些噪音...
他们有时会扰乱追捕他们......
有时是狩猎的结果...
你看,萨满一直
他的根,不喜欢巫师
芦笛岩,已经被切断,从
它的根,它的探测是
的破悲叹宛然
其中萨满知道,但他
也知道愈合心脏的...
知道冰爽grags和阴影
瓦莱斯......成为认识的歌曲......
音符间的空隙之间,
歌词,呼吸之间采取
并一口气开除......有
他发现智慧的了解...
在那里,他遇到了她......母亲索菲亚

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附录I54:王尔德说,

“啊! 不要说你同意我的意见。 什么时候
人认同我,我总觉得我一定是错的。“

难道我们的诗歌有
请大家?
我们有
责任挑衅?

是的! MEN!
我们有责任!

当然! 我们有责任!
王尔德说! 王尔德的生活!
我们的“现代”的情况下要求...
我们怎么能不...但邀请其他希特勒...

盖亚,地球母亲的要求!
创建大规模的风暴风雨后
超出了我们的经验...

我要求! ...的
我的兄弟和我的姐妹们!

电话已经取得了! 这是国际!
草扎根,但要求在走...
弹回成呼叫空中...
但再次调用......每一个社会......每个人心中
母亲和母亲到处都在呼唤......
父亲从你的意识下降战争。
它没有未来......它由此引发没有未来......

但...本身!
和土楼地狱结果...
一遍又一遍......一次又一次......

MEN! 还有什么需要证明比goriest被描绘
辉煌的20世纪...?

MEN ...我们是谁,我们可以“T SEE
在这一切的灯??? !!!

洼里库布丁洛伦RUH史密斯
2014年8月6日

库布丁罗兰RUH史密斯:我75岁了,出生在塔科马,WA,去高中阿克塔,CA. 我曾在美国陆军,遇见了我的第一个妻子和有我们的第一个儿子在法国。 我开始写诗我第一次大学英语课于1961年。我已经出版了一本书,叫做路径的宠儿,我有几本书准备发布。 我家住在山脉中的草谷30年搬到新墨西哥州之前,在2012年我的书关于父亲和儿子叫这个孩子和他的树将去出版商不久。

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少年时代:不完全是一个电影审查

类别: 男人和启动评测

GUEST POST:由彼得·CLOTHIER

最初发表在佛日记

(为卢卡,有点后来在他的生活)

我早上醒来想着奥巴马,以及他如何完美的男子气概在他的不公正的诽谤,并经常模仿诗提出吉卜林的模型拟合​​如果你不记得了,在这里是如何开出“如果”:

如果你能保持你的头,当你的一切
失去理智,你责备它,
如果你能相信自己,当所有人都怀疑你,
但是,体谅他们的怀疑;
如果你能等待,而不是等得累了,
或为人所骗,不要以牙还牙,
或者被讨厌,不要以恶报恶,
然而,看起来不太好,也不说太多聪明...

那岂不是很喜欢奥巴马?

首先,虽然少年时代,这引起了这些想法。 我们终于看到这个美丽和感人肺腑的电影昨晚。 我喜欢12年的历程,这些技术过硬,承诺演员,打出来的从事虚构叙事,因为他们自己身体年龄虚构人物的情感发展。 我喜欢一个家庭有生命的失败和婚姻失败的现实,在金融危机中挣扎的故事本身的“真理”,酒精和毒品,兄弟姐妹的爱和争斗,学校的滥用和与同学的关系,少年时期的痛苦,等等。 一直以来,开始到结束,这个故事有说服力的“感觉”生命因为我们大多数人的体验。

而电影是真实的标题。 它是关于少年时代。 即使到了最后,年轻的男孩,梅森,他的生活中,我们一直在关注,从上小学到大学还没有出现完全进入成年。 最后一枪显示他,硬是高,在美丽的自然环境的群山和高的蘑菇喂他通过他的全新的大学室友。 有了一个可爱的年轻女子在他身边,他们坐不住了羞涩地并排而不是一些虚假的,过早的拥抱,他看着眼前忘我的景观仿佛变成未来充满了诱惑力。 但它是非常清楚,他仍然是一个男孩。 少年时代依然焕发他的脸; 他所有的承诺,没有完成。

这不应该使我们感到惊讶。 他没有车型真正的男子汉气概的,因为他的成长。 梅森的亲生父亲是一个迷人的流氓早年,无法接受婚姻,工作和家庭的责任。 随后的关系他的母亲的形式是与男人的男子气概是因为质疑他的父亲:平稳学术的不安全感,导致他醉酒暴政; 一名前军人的不成熟显露在他的迟钝和缺乏灵活性。 有一个值得注意的例外,一个摄影老师谁试图将我们的梅森超出了他的固执,谁环绕正在成长的孩子昏昏欲睡青春期,强大的,成熟的数字是女性。 男人只是长大了的小男孩。

这使我反思,超越电影的参数,在这个问题:什么是男子气概的特质? 我们发现了什么,我认为作为一个真正的男人都太经常在我们当代世界。 我们对ungrown男人无处不包围:在醉鬼,施虐者的工作狂; 牧师和教师谁利用信任自己的立场,并发挥儿童的脆弱性; 恋人谁拿他们需要什么,拒绝责任; 谁没有脊椎执政和劝降太容易对那些谁也操纵他们的政治家; 持枪白痴谁坚持这样刺耳自己的“权利”,并迅速摒弃他人的权利; 体育英雄抽了违禁药物和假冒睾酮; 被宠坏的文化偶像,很多人并不比年轻人更多。

太多的时候,人性的,我们提供的车型的特点是力量的错误观念。 要返回到总统和他目前的困境,包围,因为他是好心进步的左侧和狂热分子被自己正直右侧蒙蔽,所有在咬他的脚后跟,并要求强度的显示。 他们不明白,真正的力量是素质不智僵化和皮疹,有勇无谋的行动(前总统和他的推动者来到必然在脑海中),但成熟后退一步,并采取长远的眼光,智慧,倾听,当必要时,发生变化。 甚至弯曲。 这也就是力量。 他们还没有学会古教训的橡树和芦苇

男子气概的特质,在我看来,是这些:诚信,使命感,一个奉献的服务。 我们知道如何教这些特质。 我们与我们的军人在新兵训练营做(女人也一样,这些天,当然,但我担心这里的人。)虽然我不是军国主义的任何形式的球迷,我会承认,在大多数情况下,甚至萌生这种粗鲁的形式可以产生令人钦佩的男人,男人谁不仅实力和技能,但目的大于自己的感觉。 我们的军队是值得他们得到的尊重。 为什么会出现男生的男人是这样一种仪式化的启动,一个是在谁的刻画在年轻人的发展显著缺乏过程的“童年”,因为它是今天我们大多数人。 我自己,如果我说实话,我必须承认,我只在我​​五十多岁的男子气概达到某种程度。 在我们的文化真正的开始,我们已经取代如不温不火仪式的基督徒确认和酒吧mitvahs。

他们不这样做的伎俩。 在传统文化中,转型是一个更为危险的旅程,涉及真正的威胁生命和肢体的男孩被送到了到荒野或丛林锤炼脆弱性和儿时的恐惧成为他们需要的功能作为一个男人的钢。 我们在现代西方世界没有野生动物打交道,除非我们算的范围内。 我们忘记,这些都是强大到足以统治我们的生活中,如果我们不学会承认和面对他们。 开始为我们的早期神话是骑士学徒的考验,谁骑了到森林检验自己对黑暗骑士或龙,并准备满足他的王后回报的勇气。

什么是诚信? 简单来说,它是刚毅无畏地说,正是我的意思是,做什么我说。 这意味着,当然,关于我是谁,我给什么明确的目标去做。 如果我有疑问或困惑,我缺乏决心。 我抖动。 答案不在于否认释惑,它们是人类本性的一部分。 没有人逃脱他们。 在拒绝他们,我冒险险峻和徒劳的动作,当我需要的首先是咨询,我已经纠结自己找到内在的智慧,并重新找回清晰之前,我的行为。 一个正直的人,因为他的行动是完全的一致性与他的话的意思是谁的男人“有他一起行动,”。 他已经“一体化”四大支柱他的存在:头脑和身体,感情和精神,他们是正确的平衡。 不是由所有这四个在缺乏统一思想行动,或心脏,或能量,或支持行动的目的,是为无效的不采取行动的。

从一个人的诚信是分不开的,那么,是理解,他留下了少年时代的纯真,以及伴随它的自由。 他住在问责的世界给他人,并承认他的责任(是的,对不起,一个古朴的老式概念!)服务别人比自己。 可悲的是,这是我们大多数人辜负这个理想的实现。 我们看看我们的周围,徒劳地寻找在大多数情况下我们的圣雄甘地,纳尔逊我们曼德拉,我们的马丁·路德·王,男人谁是肯定不会缺乏,使得他们的人的失败,但谁管理,是辉煌比他们的弱点更大,与壮观,历史服务,他们的人类同胞。

我们不可能都成为男人都喜欢这些,但我们可以男人。 如果没有传统启动仪式的挑战,我们需要寻找或创造,我们自己的旅程,从儿时到成年。 这是不容易的任务,面对黑暗,没有我们的意识,可以控制我们命运的内鬼。 我们都需要某种形式的支持,我们作出这样的旅程:一个教会,也许,一个精神导师,一个训练有素的治疗师......而旅程,对于我们大多数人来说,是永远不会结束。 谁可以坐下来他的月桂树,并肯定地说:我已经达到了我的男子汉气概的丰满? 即使在,充其量,我在这里生活之中最后一个季度,我还是用我自己的挣扎。

因此,我们离开我们的年轻主角,在“少年时代”的旅程进入成年仍然在他的前面。 他可能已经开始进入性和毒品,投入到工作中的苦差事,现在,终于,在大学宿舍,但这些都不打开了大门,以真正的,深刻的,内在的工作,他将不得不做,如果他是成为他需要的是,如果他履行了他一生的命运的人。 而且还在后头......

看彼得服装店的约阳刚性行为,“朝圣者的工作人员”即将出台的新(旧委婉的阴茎。)它告诉两位讲述,一个当代人物画家,和18世纪的英国绅士。 坦诚的性爱场面和potboiler兴奋! 彼得是1994年NWTA启动,一次性活跃仪式长老,以及著名艺术的作家。 他的最新著作,“慢展望:看待艺术的艺术”,探讨沉思和冥想的价值。 随便写了他在彼得clothier@mac.com

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日常礼仪的变革力量

由贡萨洛·萨利纳斯

据查尔斯Duhigg作者习惯的力量:为什么我们做什么我们做在生活和商业我们做什么,每天大约有40%,我们做的不自觉。 我们已经形成,我们倾向于每天重复一个习惯,它使我们的选择我们。

所以,想想所有的事情你做的每一天。 有些人可能不为你的最高宗旨,但仍,你复述宗教......甚至不知道具体的行为是把你带走,你想要的生活的现实。 Duhigg解释说,每一次你重复这些习惯你的大脑巩固了他们......所以渴望,后来,这种重复。 即便是不利于,你会得到一个神经化学奖赏在你的大脑,不仅会造成某种瘾,但也加强你已经为自己创建的身份。

我曾试过很多次,改变不良生活习惯,创造新的。 用真诚的心脏,我必须承认我失败了更多的时间比我成功。 但我注意到事情发生了每一个我是成功的时间; 积极的新习惯是每天的仪式。

是。 我有仪式。 仪式- “一连串的动作或行为的类型定期总是其次是一个人”我每天都在重复某些仪式,并相信我的MKP杂志亲爱的读者,每天都在重复一个动作,是不是一件容易的事,特别是当我试图创造一个全新的自我。

让我分享一些日常礼仪希望这将激励行动,加强生活。

我做我的礼仪第一件事就是在早上我醒来,我去跑步。 正在运行的部分是简单的。 我已经告诉自己,只要我听到报警,我必须跳出床。 在开始的时候很辛苦,现在是自动的。 我的建议是为了避免处理任何物流 - 让您的运动服必须准备旁边床上的前一天晚上。

上升,太阳

第二个仪式是:我把在我的钱包1页手写的。 页面一侧分为两个:左边我有几个语句:我的缺点或弱点意识到什么,我想改变,并且在右侧我的素质和美德,以提醒自己的工具,我对我自己的成长。 故意这个第二列表是大于第一个。 在纸张的另一面我已经写了谁,我想成为一个简短的成分。 我已经包括目标和项目以及我如何看待自己在未来三年的描述。

我读本文,一天三次。当我醒来时,在午餐时间,在此之前,我去睡觉。 这需要我两分钟每个读数。 当我读到它,我专注于呆在目前:只是阅读。

第三:在早上,我也做了简短的可视化...之前,我来运行我停下来,我想象回来:我花了三到五分钟。 我想象同样的三个进球我已经写在我继续我的钱包纸。

最后,是我的感激之情的时间。 在笔记本电脑上我得到了专为感激,之前,我去睡觉,我写的三件事情,我很感谢那一天。 如果是那样简单不要紧,“我看到有一些冰淇淋林肯路南海滩的孩子。”如果我觉得自己写的话,我把它写。 然后我说一个简短的祈祷,我去睡觉。

这四个仪式已经改变了我的生活   急剧的最后两年。 我一直跟他们100%一致?......绝对不是。 我曾经给自己一个内疚之旅,这通常导致我放弃我经常练习了一段时间。 而不是自我惩罚,如果由于某种原因,我想念我的仪式,现在,我而已矣。

就是这样。 只是一对夫妇的事情之前,我完成:您可能注意到,我的仪式是很简单的; 他们是简单的,因为当我创建一个复杂的计划,我觉得我计划失败。 从小事做起,坚持下去; 这是一个很好的锻炼自我的爱。

最后,与您的仪式的创意! 有些人创造一个愿景板的图像,别人做的咒语或咒语,别人幽思或做呼吸运动。 仪式会因重复的习惯,日常实践导致转型。

我有更多的从我的2年仪式不是从我的整个以前的生活没有他们。 使用它们,然后你告诉我!

贡萨洛照片

贡萨洛萨利纳斯是一个助理编辑为人类工程杂志,出版物人类项目,一个非盈利性的指导和培训机构在人生的任何阶段提供的男子的个人成长机会,功能强大。 萨利纳斯文学研究在秘鲁首都利马的圣马科斯大学,并一直生活在美国自2003年以来,他住在迈阿密,佛罗里达州。 萨利纳斯致力于自己的个人发展,并传播有关的愿景和使命的话,人类工程

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你分心涡-用块#3

由克里斯·凯尔

如果你错过了特殊的现场Q&A调用4月15日为上的宗旨课程的人 ,想要听音频,转到故意场人网站收听。

在过去的一周中,我与您共享前两个核心目的块,分别是:

用块#1 =恐惧三合会
用块#2 =怀疑的声音

现在是时候去探索3块目的的三分之一。 用块#3是分心漩涡

在我们的现代,媒体饱和和技术驱动的文化,我们有事情,我们可以在我们的日常生活中做的,让我们忙我们的日程安排非常满一个永无止境的名单。

每天的选择是令人难以置信......电视节目,书籍,上网冲浪,体育,电话,色情,电子邮件,电影,爱好 - 和和和。 而这一切是除了我们日常工作(即希望支付账单)。

所有这些活动可能构成分心涡:常数和看似无尽的东西漩涡池操作,可以大吃了我们所有的宝贵时间。

所有这些活动中,在和自己,本质上是“好”或不过,如果我们花费大量时间在牵引涡 “不好。” -有一个很好的机会,我们也自己分心从我们不妨最希望在我们的生活:更深的联系,更大的喜悦,更多的意义和目的的更清醒的认识。

而且由于旅途入这些国家能够更加微妙和不明确的,它的坦白更方便,更容易舒缓麻木出或退房具有多汁分心像电视节目,一系列的YouTube视频,或没用的小说。

我们面临的挑战和问题是:“我如何有意识地浏览这个分心漩涡,所以它不吸了我所有的时间 - 反而解放了我的时间专注于生活更充分地进入我的目的”

这里有三个步骤,你可以采取以帮助您设置从分心涡免费。

1.放慢脚步,观察你的活动
第一步是使用任何静止的做法,你有,像冥想或正念,每天要慢下来自己(如果你还没有一个,然后开始一个),并开始观察什么拉你的注意力转移到你会考虑不健康的分心。

然后拿上一个星期的“分心意识的做法”,通过跟踪,你花费你的时间,你认为分心的活动。 这使我清醒的意识你用什么活动,分散注意力不面对你的生活别的东西。

2.注意什么你避免
第二步是要注意你可能会避免在你的生活中分心帮助你不必面对。 它通常是你不想看的东西,并让你感到不舒服......你在你的生活与奋斗的东西。

更加自觉的活动,感觉还是,你避免了能量,有助于破灭了你分心的模式。 现在你有意识做出是否参与具体的分心,或不是一个新的选择。

3.重新作出与支持
正如你更清楚地看到你是如何特别分心不为你服务,你现在可以再次作出自己的行动和活动,真正支持和为您服务 - 你自己的成长和你的目的。

通过声明的承诺,即养活你的激情和目的,以另一个人接近你的活动,帮助您保持交代不重新陷入不健康的分心。 这种支持是关键,突破分心漩涡。

在人故意课程,从明天开始(2014年4月17日),我们花两个7周看着那带我们出去我们真正的权力,创造力和目的的更全面的表达方式和习惯。 这有助于清除的方式带来更多的能量和力量,我们的宗旨。

你的分心自由的目的,
克里斯

。PS的人故意课程明天开始,4月17日,并还有时间来注册和锁定在过程中你的座位。去这里注册的过程中有一个人谁拿的过程中,去年说:

“课程开了我的欲望和激情重新开始生活作为一个男人谁住更加服务于生活的各个方面。 不是“什么是我的目的是什么?”,而是如何生活的目的!“ -爱德华Werger

克里斯·凯尔

克里斯训练和执教数百人实现他们的业务和他们的生活更大的成功。 在与人类PROJECT®美国的合作伙伴关系,他最近创建的目的峰会的力量和人在目的在线课程。 正在进行远程系列,新人,新女性,新生活的同时,他也是共同创作,艾米阿勒斯。

除了他的领导力发展的工作,克里斯已经花了超过24年作为一个行政,企业家,顾问和企业教练,在世界500强企业工作,拥有自己的生态探险旅游公司。 克里斯毕业于斯坦福大学,他研究政治学。 他与他的妻子在北加州。

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好奇你为什么在这里? 特殊的Q&A的来电!

特殊的Q&A呼叫今晚&重要公告

我们已经收到了很多重大问题,在过去一周左右的目的的话题,想知道更多有关我们即将到来的过程中- 文安用途:基本7周的在线课程男性这开始于4月17日。

正如我在最后发表的文章提到,乔治Daranyi,我将举办一个特殊的互动Q&A的呼叫今晚 - 周二4月15日。 我们将回答一些关于过程中最常见的问题,而且也涉及如何访问您的隐藏力量来激活你的激情和宗旨的世界。

如果您对过程中的任何疑问,请加入这个特殊的Q&A的呼叫今晚,3月15日下午5:30(太平洋时间),以获得您所需要的答案。

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以下是如何进入Q&A会议与乔治和我说:

今晚在下午5:30太平洋/下午8:30东部/凌晨12:30 + 1 UTC

要通过网络直播在线收听,请访问:

http://InstantTeleseminar.com/?eventid=54169320

要收听电话拨号:
号码:(425)440-5100
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许多谁经历过与我们工作的男人们渴望分享如何得到改善,改变了他们的生活:

“他们告诉我如何我已经睡了我大部分的生活,我怎么需要”唤醒“并负责我的生活,承担责任,并为自己的行为负责。 在节目中,我收到的工具来重新进入诚信与我的家人,我的朋友,主要是与自己...我了解到它为了有所作为在这个世界上,活到我的目的,我首先必须改变我自己。“ - 乔A.

“克里斯”的方式帮助我看到我没有出现完全在我的生活,而且是拖我的阴影。 他的直觉和意识引导我面对这些阴影并帮助我保持目前,即使是不舒服。 与克里斯的帮助下,我找到了我的成长优势,学会了如何采取什么我经历了会话到我的专业和社会生活中,我的亲密关系,最重要的是,我的内心旅程。 通过体验这个地方的“深knowingness”,宗旨和激烈的爱情,我经历了我的真性情的本质“ - 蒂姆C.

我也想让你知道,我们的3付款方式结束这个星期五。 所以,如果你打算报名参加课程,将受益于散布在三个月付款的选项,请务必在明天要报名参加这个机会。

要了解更多信息并注册访问过程信息页面。

要住你的目的,
克里斯·凯尔和乔治Daranyi

克里斯·凯尔

克里斯训练和执教数百人实现他们的业务和他们的生活更大的成功。 在与人类PROJECT®美国的合作伙伴关系,他最近创建的目的峰会电力和人在目的在线课程。 正在进行远程系列,新人,新女性,新生活的同时,他也是共同创作,艾米阿勒斯。

除了他的领导力发展的工作,克里斯已经花了超过24年作为一个行政,企业家,顾问和企业教练,在世界500强企业工作,拥有自己的生态探险旅游公司。 克里斯毕业于斯坦福大学,他研究政治学。 他与他的妻子在北加州。

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什么是你的疑古声音让你的? -用块#2

如果你错过了第一篇:这里有3个用途块:
恐惧三合会
怀疑的声音
分心涡

随着我们进一步待着我们的目的的旅程路径,我们很可能会碰到的第二个目的块:怀疑的声音。

这疑古声音里面,你可能听起来是这样的:

  • 你真的认为你能忍受你的目的 - 怎么样挣足够的钱为家人?
  • 这听起来太危险了,现在却将事业......为什么你要这么做?
  • 你会在哪里得到的支持,承担这项新的项目?
  • 如果它不工作了怎么办?
  • 你认为你有才华写你的书,真的很难......

从本质上讲,这种内心的声音是我们的思维模式是负面质疑,我们说什么或做的一切的那部分。

而问题是,当你的疑古与语音呼叫的碰撞,你展开的目的,那么它要找到所有的方式,让你从去到“未知的边缘” - 来,你会不得不延长自己的地方,冒险和成长的可能性不舒服的方式。

怀疑的声音的任务是消除风险,让事情变得“安全”,并且不舒服。 这显然​​使你违背了自己在时间,以及为什么它是一个核心区块生活的目的。

那么,如何与我们合作,中和我们的疑古声音?

我发现,与疑古语音工作的最好方法是用它交朋友。

我知道,谈何容易。 但这里是我的BE-好友的过程中,或者说另一种方式,整合我的内心多巴酚丁胺。

首先命名疑古声音在你身上。 你可以把它叫做:多疑的哥们,或者脾气古怪凯蒂,或者干脆多巴酚丁胺先生。 这样做是双重的:

使亮度和幽默的自己那部分是相当沉重,一个限制器,以我们的充分,真实的表达
让自己的见证一部分到达,所以你可以看到更大的角度超出你的恐惧,怀疑自我心中的想法/声音。

那么它的时间与您多巴酚丁胺一个简短的对话。 它流是这样的:

“先生. 怀疑者,你有一些真正的智慧对我来说,我应该知道的?“在这里,我们调查的,可能是在怀疑的声音的重要信息。 真理,你觉得一粒可能是重要的问题就在眼前。 听什么回来。

然后对自己说:“谢谢你的分享。 我不需要你在这个时候。 我现在要腾出空间的选择是对我最高的善 - 我有权选择“

现在有空间让你做一个新的选择对你的目的,向着那它给你带来更多的活力。

故意课程的人 ,乔治Daranyi,我将如何把你的负面内心的声音(我们称之为内霸王)到盟友的增长和扩张说话。 所以,我鼓励你让你的疑古声音是自己的成长的新的燃料,进行更深层次的自我接纳,这将带来更多的能量和清晰度,你的目的的工作。

你的目的的冒险,
克里斯

PS乔治和我正在主持一个特殊的现场Q&A呼叫周二,4月15日下午5:30 PT /下午8:30 ET回答所有即将到来的问题上目的课程的人 ,这开始于4月17日。 马克现在日历和我们将派出周一访问细节。 去这里了解更多信息并注册课程。

克里斯·凯尔

克里斯训练和执教数百人实现他们的业务和他们的生活更大的成功。 在与人类PROJECT®美国的合作伙伴关系,他最近创建的目的峰会的力量和人在目的在线课程。 正在进行远程系列,新人,新女性,新生活的同时,他也是共同创作,艾米阿勒斯。

除了他的领导力发展的工作,克里斯已经花了超过24年作为一个行政,企业家,顾问和企业教练,在世界500强企业工作,拥有自己的生态探险旅游公司。 克里斯毕业于斯坦福大学,他研究政治学。 他与他的妻子在北加州。

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是什么阻止你声称或更充分的生活你的目的?

我看到不断地与谁想要明确的目的,还是希望把更多的精力还是集中到它的人所面临的挑战,是,有至少 一大块   (如果不是几个)在他们的生活中的保持他们完全接合,并照亮了他们的目的。

我想与大家分享前3用途块   我已经通过目的的工作,我已经有数百人多年来所付出发现; 然后如何将通过这些块。 今天,我将专注于用块#1。

这里有3个目的块:

  1. 恐惧三合会
  2. 怀疑的声音
  3. 分心涡

用块#1就是怕黑社会 我一直认为人的脸时,在深入发掘他们的目的,或者当他们试图把他们的目的的愿景转化为行动在世界上三个特定的恐惧。 这三个核心目的的担忧是:

  • 生存恐惧(主要是金融)
  • 失败的恐惧
  • 调侃的恐惧

生存本能深深植根于我们的老脑,爬行动物的大脑,而现在,在我们的现代文化,大多是与我们的财政资源连接。

生存如此恐惧   展开这样的:如果你选择去后,你的目的,完全活它,那么它可能会耗尽你所有的资源和/或不可持续的,在未来,你会不会“使其” - 你将无法生存。 你将无法支付账单,并养活家人。 因此,它只是更容易避免对目标的问题完全不是面对你可能不被生活的宗旨,把“奇幻”生存的可能性。

失败是我们宗旨探索里面的恐惧会变得更加明显,因为我们的目的,通话可能舒展我们进入未知的领域,或用新的方法或概念考验我们。

它可能展开这样的:如果你去你真正想要的,你的目的和失败; 那么你已经失败了的真正的大之一的生活 - 住你的目的“这不只是失败的项目或任务,但可能有一个意义上的”全人失败。“ - 消息之中:”我在我的生活是失败的。“
嘲笑的展开是这样的:如果你的目的是叫你做不同的事情在你的生活,采取了新的视野为您的生活与一套新的动作,你会发现自己误会了家人,朋友,同事和甚至你的伴侣。

这暴露了你的人的反应,自己的恐惧和他们的嘲笑。 可能出现的恐惧,你会被人嘲笑,轻视或拒绝,因为你的想法似乎非传统的或者干脆怪别人。
所以,在这里是如何在恐惧三合会这些天然的恐惧上班的3步流程

>的恐惧意识
注意和承认的恐惧。 它停下自己,并采取更深入的看看里面什么这些担心都是对你来说是很重要的。 命名他们自己的方式和你的话。 使他们走出阴影,进入你的意识光线的第一步。

>允许和拥抱
一旦你知道你唯一的担心味道,那么你准备好接受这种恐惧是简单的一部分,你和你的自我心灵用来保护你的安全机制。

这意味着接受的恐惧与自悲,看到它作为你的成长和发展作为一个人的自然组成部分。 这是非常重要的,你看你的倾向,恐惧推开,拒绝,或假装它不存在。

>打开一个新选择
正如你可以拥抱你的恐惧,它开始失去其持有和力量你。 它可能仍然存在,但它已经看到的,命名和接受。 所以,现在是时候让支持你的最高增长,并呼吁在当下的新选择。

你以为是不可能的了,因为之前这些担忧之一,现在看来可能。 做出新的选择,供应你和你的激情,创意表达。

用途上的7周的在线课程的人 ,我们教你一个强大的工具,称为重新定义流程,将帮助你重新塑造你的恐惧消息,并将其转移到新的可能性和新的选择。
去我们的课程信息页面 ,以了解更多信息。

克里斯·凯尔

克里斯训练和执教数百人实现他们的业务和他们的生活更大的成功。 在与人类PROJECT®美国的合作伙伴关系,他最近创建的目的峰会的力量和人在目的在线课程。 正在进行远程系列,新人,新女性,新生活的同时,他也是共同创作,艾米阿勒斯。

除了他的领导力发展的工作,克里斯已经花了超过24年作为一个行政,企业家,顾问和企业教练,在世界500强企业工作,拥有自己的生态探险旅游公司。 克里斯毕业于斯坦福大学,他研究政治学。 他与他的妻子在北加州。

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敲响了警钟

类别: 回忆录

由贡萨洛·萨利纳斯

我在沙滩上奔跑,我的早晨仪式后,每天早上,我开车上班,我看到从南滩小学过马路的孩子,我看到到处都是人购买他们的早晨咖啡馆CUBANO古巴窗户,我看到了很多瑜伽爱好者背着他们垫了早上练习,我看到海边的魔法气息唤醒,并开始新的一天。

我越过麦克阿瑟堤道欣赏美景,与迈阿密的天际线和迈阿密一侧的端口,在海洋和另一个迈阿密海湾前面的豪宅。 我走I95,我平时快捷方式在珊瑚路的道路去我的办公室。

我感谢所有的事情我能看到每天早上。 为什么呢? 因为一切我能看到的每一天都是一件幸事。 我亲身知道...

南海滩

当我还是个孩子的时候,我绝对喜欢玩。 我总是组织的比赛。 我记得总是与我的哥哥玩,跟我的朋友或我的表兄弟。 发明游戏,跑,跳,尖叫......我的最爱之一是踢足球用球纸盖在胶带。 我一直忙于做一个孩子。

有时候在学校里,钟比往年提前响了起来。 我很高兴,因为我有机会去家里玩,但是,在那个年纪,我不知道的原因,多么危险,为什么他们学校的一天结束前回家小时都向我们传输。

我的小学是威胁光辉道路图帕克·阿马鲁革命运动的恐怖活动这已经采取了我的城市,利马,并摧毁一切都恐怖组织,他们感动。 When they threatened the school, the only solution was sending everyone home for the day. Most of the time, these were false alarms, somebody calling for no reason, but in the rest of the city, you couldn't go to a cafe or a restaurant because the terrorist were bombing the commercial areas, public offices, banks, private companies and every public place you could possibly imagine, spreading chaos and terror all over Lima and the rest of the country.

I grew up on that environment, without being aware of the constant risk that was just walking on the streets of my city. In 12 years of horror from 1980 to 1992, the result was approximately 70 thousand people killed. Fortunately the Peruvian government was able to bring the terror to an end.

There are many places in the world right now, like Pakistan, Iraq or Somalia where terrorism is part of the daily life. I feel so blessed to live where I live now. And I am awake – awake to the reality that not everyone experiences the world I live in. And I am also responsible for staying awake.

So every morning, I am grateful for what I see on my way to work. Gratitude, for me, is the opposite of fear. Be grateful for what you have and send your positive energies or say a prayer for those places where terror is the reality. I pray for a world where all the kids can go to the streets, and play.

贡萨洛照片

贡萨洛萨利纳斯是一个助理编辑为人类工程杂志,出版物人类项目,一个非盈利性的指导和培训机构在人生的任何阶段提供的男子的个人成长机会,功能强大。 萨利纳斯文学研究在秘鲁首都利马的圣马科斯大学,并一直生活在美国自2003年以来,他住在迈阿密,佛罗里达州。 萨利纳斯致力于自己的个人发展,并传播有关的愿景和使命的话,人类工程

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Lighting the Darkness – Lumos

Guest Post

New Warrior Brother Michael Marlin from Hawaii will enlighten audiences with his stage production of LUMA: Art in Darkness during a ten-city tour at performing art centers across the country beginning March 28th.

A top comedy juggler who played Las Vegas and opened for the likes of Jay Leno, Jerry Seinfeld, George Carlin, and REM, Marlin walked away from his successful solo career in 1986. He sold his house in Redondo Beach, CA and moved to the island of Hawaii to co-found an alternative community while building and living in a tree house with no electricity.

In 1989 while standing on an active lava flow he noticed the hypnotic effect it had on people and had the epiphany, “All life is drawn to light.”

This was the genesis of LUMA, a show that has now appeared in 15 countries, 44 states and has been touring since 1998. LUMA, with a cast of seven, is a show about the subject of light that combines all manner of physical disciplines from rhythmic gymnastics, puppetry, magic, dance, acrobatics, physics and experimental methods.

Fused with a myriad of light technology from incandescent to bioluminescent, from LEDs to lasers, the tour will take it from Arizona to Massachusetts over a five-week period.

“Three years ago Marlin came to Houston and opened with his juggling act,” Sonny Elliot, a ManKind Project ritual elder recalls, “[LUMA] was a brilliant and over-the-top performance. With the 'visual' music and 'technical' dancing, along with the crowd's enthusiasm, it was a home run.”

In manifesting his vision of LUMA, Marlin encountered a lot of skepticism. He has stayed true to his brainchild, expanding the show and building on new technology as it has evolved, watching as other artists have recently flirted with some of the theatrical light elements he has pioneered, popularizing it on shows like “America's Got Talent”.

Marlin has long been a pioneer and visionary. His work in the field of comedy and juggling back in the 70's and early 80's influenced a generation of jugglers who followed. Barry Friedman from the ManKind Project in Northern California and half of the juggling duo “The Raspini Brothers”, reports, “I remember standing in our family kitchen when I was 18 years old and seeing Michael Marlin on a TV show called Real People.”

“It showed me a bigger picture of what was possible if I stuck with juggling: the possibility of having fun and making people laugh. Marlin has continued to raise the bar both artistically and professionally. His show LUMA has brilliantly merged the visual appeal of juggling with the mind-boggling technology of electronically controlled lighting.”

COME SEE LUMOS

Come see LUMOS this spring.

“The journey to take a vision bigger than one person can pull off and turn it into a physical manifestation with so many moving parts was daunting,” says Marlin. “The work I have done in the ManKind Project has helped me in an incalculable way in my ability to lead others in a clean way and not pull my hair out, (or theirs) when things don't go as planned.”

“I have no doubt that the ripples Marlin is making in the lives of both his audiences and the members of his cast will spread out and touch millions of lives,” said Friedman.

Ticket information and videos of LUMA can be found online at http://www.lumatheater.com .

Show Schedule:

March 26th Gilbert, AZ – Higley Center
April 4th Ft. Collins, CO – Lincoln Center
April 6th Santa Fe, NM – Lensic Theater
April 7th Las Vegas, NM – University of New Mexico Highland Center
April 11th Chippewa Falls, WI – Heyde Center
April 12th Madison, WI – Barrymore Theater
April 13th Schaumberg, IL – Prairie Performing Arts Center
April 20/21st Roanoke, VA – Jefferson Center
April 27th Storrs, CT – University of Connecticut Jorgensen Center
April 29th Queens, NY – Queens College
May 2nd Worcester, MA – Hanover Theater

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Video: “The Revolution is Love” with Charles Eisenstein

shared by Chris Kyle

This powerful 4-minute video features Charles Eisenstein, author of Sacred Economics , from a documentary about the Occupy Movement. Charles will be a featured speaker at the ManKind Project USA's upcoming Power of Purpose Online Summit in March 2014 (more details are coming soon).

I love Charles' last line of this video clip: “…Everybody has a unique calling and it's really time to listen to that. That's what the future is going to be. It's time to get ready for it, and contribute to it, and help make it happen.”

Charles Eisenstein is a teacher, speaker, and writer focusing on themes of civilization, consciousness, money, and human cultural evolution. He is the author of 6 books includingSacred Economics, The Ascent of Humanity and The More Beautiful World Our Hearts Know Is Possible.

“Remember that self-doubt is as self-centered as self-inflation. Your obligation is to reach as deeply as you can and offer your unique and authentic gifts as bravely and beautifully as you're able.”
— Bill Plotkin, author of Soulcraft*

* Bill is also speaking at the Power of Purpose Summit in March.

克里斯·凯尔

Chris has trained and coached hundreds of individuals to achieve greater success in their businesses and their lives. In partnership with The ManKind Project® USA, he recently created The Power of Purpose Summit and the Man On Purpose online course. 正在进行远程系列,新人,新女性,新生活的同时,他也是共同创作,艾米阿勒斯。

In addition to his leadership development work, Chris has spent over 24 years as an executive, entrepreneur, consultant and business coach, working in Fortune 500 companies and owning his own eco-adventure travel company. 克里斯毕业于斯坦福大学,他研究政治学。 He lives with his wife in Northern California.

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My Elder Soul ~ a poem

Category: Men as Elders , Poetry

by Reuel Czach

Elders, we are losing our Soul.
We are so caught up individually in petty offenses
and bickering and wounded-ness,
that we are letting our civilization and our planet die.
But most importantly,
we are letting our souls die.

When I chose to be wounded,
and walk through life withdrawn in my cave,
or I choose to be over-armored,
to the point of being weighed down,
with such heavy baggage,
nothing else matters,
…..my soul is lost.

I chose to take a step toward claiming,
my lost soul,
when I chose to meet with men in an honest, open circle.

I choose my soul,
when I decide to be so humble,
that no one can offend me.

I choose my soul,
when I chose wisdom,
over being right.

I choose my soul,
when I chose service,
over selfishness.

I choose my soul,
when I chose looking within,
to find all the evil I see outside myself.

I choose my soul,
when I walk the path of life,
where I am nothing,
and I am everything,
in sacred balance.
My choices mean everything,
my offenses mean nothing.

My offenses mean I still have inner work to do
and for the sake of generations to come,
I better get it done as quickly as possible.

My choices mean I have the power to save myself,
my loved ones, my friends, and possibly many more people,
from a mean, selfishness and a lonely death.

I feel great sadness and sorrow,
for all that is being lost.

While the distractions of hurt,
wounded-ness and bickering,
suck so much energy out of my soul,
…..and the soul of my people.

Every hurt and wound and chance to be right,
is a mirror of my soul,
and an opportunity to heal.

Do it! Choose healing.
Then choose wisdom and kindness,
and be the Elder you were meant to be.

Distractions are my enemy,
anything that tries to pull me off,
my narrow mission.

I just need to let Spirit control my life,
where my spirit joins and serves,
a much bigger wisdom,
than I could ever fully understand.

I am asked this day to request of myself,
and men who call themselves Elders.
A humble request,
that we focus on the wisdom to light a path,
for those who come after us.
Humble man, Jan 2014

Reuel Czach

Reuel Czach is a 60 year old, Christian man with a wonderful wife and two sons, a daughter and a stepson. He has lived in San Luis Obispo County, California for over 30 years and practiced architecture for most of those years. Czach is an I-Group Coordinator for the Swallow Creek Coastal Circle in Cayucos. He actively supports and builds the Elder community in San Luis Obispo and is the Co-Elder Chair of the MKP Santa Barbara Community. Czach leads a weekly men's circle in my church and is a leader in the men's ministry.

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My Purpose Over My Relationship?

由克里斯·凯尔

I came across this quote from David Deida (author of Way of the Superior Man ) a couple of days ago:

“Admit to yourself that if you had to choose one or the other, the perfect intimate relationship or achieving your highest purpose in life, you would choose to succeed at your purpose. Just this self-knowledge often relieves much pressure a man feels to prioritize his relationship when, in fact, it is not his highest priority.”

I have to say right off the bat, that when I first read this quote I thought to myself… do I have to choose one OVER the other?

And then another part of me stood up (in my head, of course) and said “that's right, achieving my highest purpose would definitely rock!”

Clearly there's a conflict running inside me regarding how I prioritize living my purpose as a man, and where I place my relationship.

So, as I look at my own life to investigate this question of the priority of purpose, I do see that I am most alive, engaged and passionate when I'm doing what I love, giving my gifts and bringing my purpose forward to serve others.

And if I decided to choose my relationship OVER living fully into my purpose, I think a part of me would shrivel up. And I know that my power and confidence would be diminished in the world.

And at the end of the day, I don't want living my purpose to hurt or damage my relationship with my wife. I know that I can give my full presence and heart to my relationship without sacrificing my purpose.

But real juice and fire in our relationship comes from me making bold choices to follow my heart and gut, and give my gifts, my purpose with passion and without apology. And my wife finds this super sexy and is proud of me even during the times I am putting my purpose work above our relationship time.

The twist here is that in my experience living boldly into my purpose, with all the triumphs and failures that goes with that, my relationship thrives.

And of course, my purpose as I shared it above applies to my wife as well (she's a “being” too), and so I can be in my purpose through supporting her on her path of growth.

What I hear from many men that I work with is that they are trying so hard to make their relationship work or to please their partner so they can have a more harmonious and “easy” life.

The challenge of putting their relationship above the full expression of their purpose, is that it diminishes the energy, fire and confidence in themselves that could infuse the relationship with much needed passion or juiciness.

So here's how I have learned to hold this priority tension between relationship and purpose. I give my full presence, attention and heart to my relationship whenever we are together. I am not half-there or checked out because I'm thinking about work, or half-listening to her because my purpose work is invading my thoughts and it's THE PRIORITY.

Rather, when I'm engaged in my purpose work, I'm there fully and making that a priority in my life even if it means making some difficult choices about the time I spend with my wife.

I find that the natural balance arises when I am passionately engaged in my purpose AND I bring that juice and fire into my relationship with full presence and an open heart — regardless of how much time we have with each other (days or minutes).

And you know, I still reserve the right to make my relationship the focus of my purpose at any given time if it needs it and demands more of me for a period of time. How's that for a slick caveat — and it's been true at specific times in my life.

Keep working your purpose edge, bring full presence to each moment, keep your heart open and you'll see your life soar… in both your purpose AND your relationship.

CK

PS What do you think? 发表评论!

克里斯·凯尔

Chris has trained and coached hundreds of individuals to achieve greater success in their businesses and their lives. In partnership with The ManKind Project® USA, he recently created The Power of Purpose Summit and the Man On Purpose online course. 正在进行远程系列,新人,新女性,新生活的同时,他也是共同创作,艾米阿勒斯。

In addition to his leadership development work, Chris has spent over 24 years as an executive, entrepreneur, consultant and business coach, working in Fortune 500 companies and owning his own eco-adventure travel company. 克里斯毕业于斯坦福大学,他研究政治学。 He lives with his wife in Northern California.

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The World Needs More Elders

By Donald Clerc

什么是作为一个长辈和老人正在之间的区别? 我从来没有想过这个问题,直到两年前加入了人类的项目。

I'm 57, have three grown children, one young grandchild, and own my own business. 所以我“一直是各地块”了几次,学会或两个一路上的事情。 But no one had challenged me on what I can do with that experience and wisdom in this second half of my life.

What are the characteristics of an Elder? 我们都知道老年人不表现得长辈的方式谁的。 And we also know of younger people who already exhibit Elder-like qualities. 这是我看到的是一些长辈的素质和行为:

•谈到与权威和智慧的真相。
•谈到与善良,一场激烈的真实性的同时。
• Having a gracious and open heart.
•站在更高的价值观念和行为的强有力的标准。
•对绘画的行为适得其反行。
•捐赠,服务,尊重和祝福别人。
• Standing in responsible support of leaders.
•知道什么时候你需要做的就是出席并聆听。

老人们 作为一个长辈是不一样的是老年人。 仅仅因为你年纪大了不会使你聪明。 And if you don't share that hard-won wisdom with others, then you are not benefiting society as an Elder.

Being an Elder is not the same as being a leader. The Elder looks out for the leaders and the lead alike. 长辈用他的智慧和经验,为大家的利益。 他的诚实和价值观帮助年轻走向成熟,并帮助已经成熟,以保持联系与他们的核心价值。

其他许多社会孝敬长辈。 这似乎是我们的物欲横流的社会只表彰那些人(年轻或年老)谁买东西,做事情,或做的事。 怎样才能获得表彰是和共享的智慧? Elders can help the younger generations focus on developing their core values and stop being overly focused on material things.

Where can today's Elders practice their craft? 我在一个长老会教堂,这是通过运行长老设计长大。 但宗教组织,学校和企业之外,还有什么地方可以长老给他们的礼物呢? If our communities can learn to utilize all of this elder wisdom in an organized way, everyone benefits.

What stops older people from stepping into the role of the Elder? The first obstacle to overcome is the assumption or lack of awareness that one is already an Elder simply because one has already experienced a half-century or more of life. 第二个障碍是缺乏对老年人般的行为训练。 These behaviors are not difficult to learn – what most people need to learn are how to undo the negative habits that inhibit or cover their natural Elder qualities from coming out.

In conclusion, young people need more Elders in their lives. 他们长大后更容易,更成熟。 我认为这是一次为老年人需要步入他们作为长辈的角色。 这让他们履行与贡献更大意义上的社会不是继续当他们是年轻的消费主义行为。

我们仍然需要有一种方式来培养更多的人在其一生中的第二个半拥抱自己内心的长老。 And we need to develop more avenues in society where Elders can give of their gifts to others.

唐纳德·克莱尔是计算机技术专家和企业家。 他拥有超过30年的经验,使用电脑工作,并开始了自己的计算机咨询公司16年前。 在此之前,他是副学校心理学家。 Donald is married (for over 35 years), has three grown children and one grandchild. He completed the New Warrior Training Adventure in 2011 and is a declared Elder in the Houston MKP Community.
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How we feel emotions in our Body

由百胜霍奇森

from Discover Magazine

Research done by a group of scientists, recently published in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences reveals some interesting facts about how human beings experience emotions in their bodies. For men involved in the ManKind Project, it was a nice affirmation of what we've been teaching and practicing for nearly 30 years.

In the ManKind Project, we see and hear men struggle to describe or name what they're feeling. Mad? 难过? Glad? Afraid? Ashamed? They frequently have an easy time saying what they think, or making statements that express judgment about what is happening around them, but when asked to name the emotional state they're experiencing … many men are stumped. For most of us, this is a result of being raised in families and in a culture that doesn't teach or model emotional literacy.

To help men learn what they are feeling and be able to name it; without expectation of changing it or shame for feeling it, we teach men to look their bodies for clues.

“What sensations are you feeling?”
“Where are the sensations in your body?”
“What color (shape, size, texture) might it have?”
and finally …
“If you were to give it a name … mad, sad, glad, afraid, ashamed … what would you call it?”

This basic template for exploration begins to tease apart the stories and narratives in our minds from the raw physical experience we are having in our bodies. Often this is the first step in decoupling habits of reaction so that men can make changes in their behaviors and beliefs about themselves and the world.

Emotion – the felt sense, the hormonal and neurological chain-reaction set into motion by thoughts and experiences of the world – is one of the most powerful sources of information we can harness to improve ourselves and have a positive impact on the world. Many of us create habits of denial, repression, and avoidance of our emotions that have wide ranging personal, interpersonal, and cultural impacts in our communities.

This is a great time to bear witness to the cultural awakening that is underway.

Men's Work – the difficult and fantastic process of waking up, growing up, and showing up in the world for the benefit of humanity – is main-stream. As soon as this article was published, ManKind Project men from around the world were sharing it with quips about printing it out as a quick reference guide for men beginning the exhilarating process of connecting 'head' and 'heart.'

Here is the link to the article:
How we feel emotions in our body

Boysen Hodgson

Boysen Hodgson is the Communications and Marketing Director for the ManKind Project USA, a nonprofit mentoring and training organization that offers powerful opportunities for men's personal growth at any stage of life. Boysen received his BA with Honors from the University of Massachusetts at Amherst, after completing 2 years of Design coursework at Cornell University. 他一直在帮助公司和个人设计的,他们希望看到在世界15年的变化。 He's a dedicated husband.

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20 Diagnostic Signs That You're Suffering From “Soul Loss” . Article by Lissa Rankin

由贡萨洛·萨利纳斯

I'm extremely grateful to Dr. Lissa Rankin. I think she saved me by helping me understand what was happening in my life. I was training for a triathlon, and I wasn't feeling good. My body couldn't take it anymore and when I went to three different doctors, they each ran some tests, and the result was the same: Everything was all right.

But I wasn't feeling good. One night as I was leaving work, checking my email, I found a video in my inbox, I can't recall now who it was from. The title was The shocking truth about your health by Dr. Lissa Rankin. It was a TED talk from 2011 (I included it below). After watching the entire video, I was hooked. I ordered her book Mind Over Medicine , and I started a healing process that was more related to a daily practice of my passion than to a pathology.

Lissa Rankin is a brave soul fighting against a system that treats our bodies like machines. Her armament to fight the battle: LOVE. She says her mission is to highlight the “ care in the health-care.” I consider her work an amazing opportunity for every doctor, healer, therapist, shaman, people involved with medicine or any kind of healing practice to learn and grow in their practice.

She is on a mission. And she is being recognized. I pray that she continues healing humankind.

Here is a link to a great article she wrote. Check it out, and consider getting involved:

20 Diagnostic Signs That You're Suffering From “Soul Loss”


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贡萨洛萨利纳斯是一个助理编辑为人类工程杂志,出版物人类项目,一个非盈利性的指导和培训机构在人生的任何阶段提供的男子的个人成长机会,功能强大。 萨利纳斯文学研究在秘鲁首都利马的圣马科斯大学,并一直生活在美国自2003年以来,他住在迈阿密,佛罗里达州。 萨利纳斯致力于自己的个人发展,并传播有关的愿景和使命的话,人类工程

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McDonald's Drive-Thru, 8:23am

Category: Fatherhood , Memoir

by Wentworth Miller

麦当劳
威廉姆斯,加州
2013年12月23日
8:32 AM (approx.)

I pull into the drive-thru, empty except for the giant white Suburban ahead of me, coming abreast of the callbox, like a yacht docking. When the window rolls down I can see the driver in his side mirror. Male, bald, mid 30s.

The intercom crackles as a McDonald's employee pitches whatever it is he/she's been ordered to pitch at the top of the order. Given the season, presumably something holiday-ish. High on fructose.

My window's rolled up so I can't hear their exchange, but I can see the man's lips moving, his eyes grazing the menu. He turns away from the callbox, addresses someone inside the Suburban, asking what they'd like for breakfast. Presumably.

That's when I notice how many people he's got with him. A literal carload. I see multiple heads. Most of them small. This guy's got four or five kids in there. At least. Plus the wife. All of whom want breakfast. None of whom have ever been to a McDonald's, apparently, because the man behind the wheel is talking them through the entire fucking menu. Every last item. 显然。

The intercom crackles again and I glance in my rearview mirror, see two cars waiting behind me, their exhaust commingling with mine as the seconds tick by.

I look back at Suburban Dad, silently willing him to hurry it up. He does not. He's smiling, taking his time, making sure he's getting everybody's order right.

I imagine his voice in my head.

“Yeah… can I get a Bacon, Egg & Cheese Biscuit? No wait – Lexie's allergic to cheese. Can I get a Bacon & Egg Biscuit no cheese? No wait – can you make that a McMuffin? Can I get a Sausage McMuffin with Egg? No cheese. Lexie can't have cheese.” (McCetera.)

All I want is a large coffee with 2 creamers on the side.

Unfortunately for me, Dad, Mom, Lexie, and Lexie's thirty-six brothers and sisters are going to need several more minutes to make up their minds.

I sigh and look to my left, try to distract myself with the view outside my window. But there's nothing to see. Just a flat, dry expanse stretching to the horizon, a bleak winter vista of grays, browns and beiges in this Dust Bowl Created By Congress (if the billboards lining the 5 are to be believed).

I turn my gaze back to the Suburban, zeroing in on Dad (again), still framed in his side mirror. He's stroking his chin, looking over the menu (again). Considering His Options. I didn't know people still stroked their chins.

I look in my rearview mirror, see there are now three cars behind me. Here comes the fourth.

几种方案,通过我的头跑。

第一个场景:我敲击两次我的号角。 哔哔。 看着爸爸的眼睛见见我的倒车镜。 他的额头皱起。 我微笑。 耸肩。 就像,“你能不能快点起来,好吗?”

第二个场景:我猛烈地刺我的车喇叭。 BLAP。 看着爸爸的眼睛见见我的倒车镜。 他的额头皱起。 我举起我的手。 耸肩。 像“哎呦 - 并不意味着打了号角。 不过,虽然我有你的注意力,你能快点起来,好吗?“

第三个场景:我猛烈地刺我的车喇叭。 并保持它。 BLAAAAAAAAPPPPPPPP。 看着爸爸的眼睛见见我的倒车镜。 他的额头皱起。 我盯着他。 就像,“是啊。 你听我的。“他坚持他的头伸出窗外,回头看着我。 “你得问题呢?”也许他居然打开了他的门,失控,走回到我的车,想找出我的问题是面对面。 (这种情况可能会导致暴力。拳头,拳的McFlurry。)

第四场景:我身后有人水龙头及其号角。 哔哔。 爸爸的眼睛见见我的倒车镜。 他的额头皱起。 我举起我的手。 耸肩。 像“嘿 - 那不是我,哥们。 但是,尽管我们有你的注意力......“

我的手指鼓方向盘。

然后,在去年,他做了。 奇迹中的奇迹。 我扫了郊区背后向前移动第二,殖民这么近期所占用的空间。 如果它是一个座位它仍然是温暖的。 现在是我的。 所有地雷。 我有我的窗口滚落下来。 我气喘吁吁不耐烦。 准备订购。

“你好,欢迎来到麦当劳! 你想试试我们的新 - “

“我可以得到一个大的黑咖啡与侧面2奶精?”

“这会不会完成你的订单吗?”

“是的。 谢谢。“

“你总为f - ”

我赶过去的callbox和最多的第一个窗口,在那里你付出的窗口。 或者至少我尝试。 但郊区仍然存在。 空转。 当然。 我不能,如果爸爸的付出和等待的变化告诉或者如果他还在挖四处寻找确切的铸币。

我抬起疲倦的眼睛,他的车的顶部,发现屋顶货船。 黑色。 相当大的。 我不知道里面有什么。 身体部位可能。 或圣诞礼物。 车身零件包装成圣诞礼物。 他们很可能在他们的方式来奶奶家。 或度假小屋。 (“提斯的季节。)

我看到动静了我的眼角的,赶上麦当劳的员工移交爸爸回到他的信用卡和收据。 爸爸说一些回报(感谢你呢?)。 微笑。 这家伙的都他妈的笑容。 定期chucklehead。 显然。

爸爸说点别的员工(圣诞快乐?)。 而不是向前行驶,保持路线移动,而不是呈现出一定程度的认知和/或尊重事实,他/他们不是一个人在这得来速和/或世界的话,爸爸留他在哪里。 我看见他低头看着他的腿上,用什么大惊小怪。 他的信用卡可能。 他把它放回他的钱包。 然后,他会向前迈进。

他妈的的缘故。

其中一个孩子说,意有所指的东西很有趣,因为现在爸爸在笑,硬,头后仰。 我看到在倒车镜,一个黑色的小食道被洁白的小牙齿牙龈环纹。

首届情景浮现在我的脑海再次,一个在那里我敲击两次我的号角。 哔哔。 看着爸爸的眼睛见见我的倒车镜,皱着眉头。 我微笑,耸肩。 “你能不能快点起来,好吗?”爸爸给我的臭眼,但向前拉,让我在第一个窗口支付我的咖啡。 一分钟后,我回到了5,护理我一杯咖啡,听一些曲调,内心独白回复:家庭在白色郊区正在迅速被取代的想法重新:我。 和午餐。 然后,我再。

同时 - 还是第一个场景 - 在路上郊区的背部为好,但现在爸爸的情绪已经恶化。 他还在思考(耿耿于怀)约他身后那混蛋在麦当劳,谁按喇叭他的角之一。 谁想要他的人/他们快点他妈的起来。 这按喇叭觉得个人。 像一种侮辱。 爸爸认为也许他应该已经得到了车,走回那里,发现了什么那家伙的问题是面对面。 是啊。 也许他应该有。 爸爸知道他应该让它滑,但不能,从来没有在耸耸肩东西了,一直很好。 他的手指鼓方向盘。

爸爸的妻子坐在他旁边,紧张,眼睛前面,肩膀爬上了她的耳朵。 还有的是天气的变化,她知道这一点。 她以前也听说过这个纪录。 她给丈夫看,评估的情况下,手指的风,等着看这哪里会去。 但她能猜到。

少了些和她的36兄弟姐妹坐在他们身后,现在制服。 还有的是天气的变化,他们知道这一点。 他们静静地吃,尽量不起皱的香肠松饼鸡蛋包装太大声。 无济于事。

其中之一是一小时42分钟,从得到耳光。

它可能会发生更早。 它以后可能会发生。 但它的发生。

我坐在驾驶通过与我的脚在刹车上,凝视着在郊区的小脑袋在我面前的背影,想知道这其中便。

我知道肯定鸣喇叭我的角是指那些孩子一个耳光得到?

当然不是。

我真的会负责,如果前者导致了后者?

号这是荒谬的。

伊什。

如果少了些和她的36兄弟姐妹们都长大了在拍打时的环境中,会发生打耳光,不管他们怎样悄悄地吃他们的早餐。 无论司机鸣喇叭的父亲有多少避免,手掌将脸颊见面。

保证。

但我不希望在链中的一个环节。

所以,我还是我的手指在方向盘上,并留下我的号角unhonked。 我会等额外的5分钟,我的早晨咖啡。 我会让爸爸 - 仍然笑着,顺便说一句 - 拉动着回升窗口时他的好,并准备。

我无所谓。

当他做我跟在别人后面,下5英里每小时移动很好。 当我停下旁边的薪酬窗口,我刹车让我轻轻地勉强能告诉我刹车都没有。 或者说,我是曾经感动。

我有我的账单和详细的变化做好准备。 4.34美元。 我向我的拳头朝着窗口,因为它滑开,露出一个ponytailed小将在麦当劳的遮阳帽和褪皮大衣。 她歉意地微笑,在我面前点头朝郊区。 耸耸肩。 说,“对不起期待。 那家伙永远了,是吧?“

温特沃斯·米勒

出生于英国,在纽约布鲁克林,和普林斯顿大学的毕业生提出,温特沃斯·米勒是一个引人注目的广受好评的年轻演员,其作品跨越这两种电视专题片。 了解更多关于温特沃斯·米勒在IMDB 米勒是人类USA项目,洛杉矶社区的成员。

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拥抱不好的经验,就像一个战士

by Shawn Rhodes

What I remember most about the first time someone tried to take my life was how good the water tasted.

It was spring of 2004, and I was in a cargo vehicle full of infantry Marines. We headed out to protect an overpass used as a supply route to Baghdad. It was being shelled regularly by the local Jihad constabulary. The big, clunky vehicle pulled under the bridge and we waited for further orders. Apparently, it's a bad idea to park a vehicle in a spot the enemy has plenty of experience hitting. We immediately began receiving incoming mortar fire.

I heard the order to abandon the vehicle, and I was two people from the rear hatch. The man closest to the back jumped the 12 feet from the truck bed to the ground, rolled on the pavement and ran for cover as the rounds rained around him. The second man followed, and was peppered by shrapnel along the right side of his body. The rounds came in half-second increments, and when they hit the pavement around us, it was like geysers opened. Smoke, gravel, and pieces of steel sprayed up and out like jets of black steam. I jumped from the vehicle and a mortar exploded underneath me.

The next thing I remember was swinging from the rear tailgate of the huge truck as it lurched forward. One hand gripping the steel while the rest of me banged around against the bumper. I dropped to the ground and checked myself – no wounds. When we finally settled in for the night, I realized I'd never been so thirsty. That lukewarm, stale, chlorinated water tasted like it had come from the Swiss alps.

I share this story because I want to jog your memory. I want you to remember the elation that comes from surviving. More importantly, I want to share with you a key principle of living a life with Shoshin, Beginner's Heart:

The best moments occur when you push yourself (or are pushed) beyond what you think you can handle. It is what you do with that victory, however, that defines the rest of your life.

Trauma is a well-recognized and ancient way of bringing oneself to the brink of what we think we can handle. If someone survives, it changes them forever. Many of the veterans I fought with are still coming to terms with what they experienced on the battlefield. These folks were certainly physically stronger than I was, most were smarter, and our training desensitized all of us to violence. So why do some of us return after these experiences re-dedicated to fulfilling our life's purpose, while so many leave their life's passions in the desert sands?

People hurt us. Others are taken too early. What do we do with the emptiness echoing within? The solution may surprise you – it's not forgiving and forgetting, and it's certainly not pretending it didn't happen. If an event in life challenges your reason for living as fully as possible, pick up the mantle of the warrior again. Even if you've never thought of yourself as a warrior, the spirit of service lives within you. It is your human calling and it's a way to embrace challenge in life.

Think of the most traumatic events in your life, and the details involved. Remember of how things felt or smelled. Record it on a piece of paper. If these memories don't feel like an unhealed wound, you've already done the healing work of a spirit-warrior or your life is blessedly free of trauma.

What do you want to invite back into your life? Playfulness? Unbridled joy? 相信? Write it down. If it's stumping you, ask friends or family who knew you before and after the event noticed any changes.

If the event re-played itself in your mind every hour (and it does for some of us, doesn't it?), what would you do to make the memory bearable? This is assuming you're tired of avoiding the memory and are ready to regain what you lost.
Warriors are called to live a life of excellence. Striving to be fulfilled brings lessons of both victories and defeats. What separates a warrior from a victim is what they choose to do with the rest of their lives. Like all life-issues, the faster you run, the faster they pursue. Warriors don't run, hiding behind alcohol, drugs, or pretending something didn't happen. A warrior does what they love – they revel in playing on the battlefield of their lives.

Of course, the events that shaped us no longer exist, except in the past and in our memories. You see, the place warriors reclaim lost parts of themselves is within their present moments. It's there we walk the path. Remember, a warrior is one who serves a higher calling. If you're reading this and you've survived the traumatic events of your life, it's safe to say you want to make the most of your present moments. Your higher purpose, your passion, your call to live with your own beginner's heart is echoing through you into your empty spaces so that you can act on it. You deserve to live an excellent life.

So how do we bring what we're missing back into our lives? As any martial artist will tell you, once you learn a 'difficult technique' it's a forehead-slapping experience when you think of how much you struggled to perform something so simple.

But that technique, that missing piece and that life you dream about will never materialize unless you begin practicing. You have to send out what you want to bring into your life. 现在就开始。 Laugh at every opportunity. Trust in small increments until you can turn your life back over to the universe. Practice giving others the things you're missing and savor the return as it flows back into your life. Seize those moments and taste them; drink deeply.

As John Turturro said in O Brother, Where Art Thou:

“Come on in boys, the water is fine.”

Shawn Rhodes

As an award-winning Marine war correspondent, Shawn Rhodes traveled to more than two dozen countries fighting alongside US Marines. His stories and photos have been featured in TIME , CNN and MSNBC in addition to major wire services. He was a top combat reporter in the military and recognized by Congress for sharing the warrior's lifestyle with the public. He then lived and trained at a martial arts temple in Japan, learning how the warrior's mindset could be used for victory in battles and boardrooms. Currently he is a successful speaker and coach, teaching people to achieve success and happiness using the methods he learned from warriors around the world. He was initiated at the NWTA in October of 2013. Find out more about Shawn Rhodes at his web site: Shoshin Consulting

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Resolutions? Changes? A New Endeavor? Remember this…

Category: Men and Mission

guest post: by Patricia Clason

Thinking about “growing” some goals, making some changes, starting something new? Whether you are making changes for growing your business or a having a more satisfying personal life, you may want to remember this story.

Wanting to fill his yard with the smell of lilacs, the man planted several bushes in his garden. After a few weeks, he was frustrated because they hadn't blossomed and he pulled them up and replanted them in another part of the garden. “Perhaps they'll get more sun here and then blossom,” he thought. A month later, they still hadn't blossomed.

So he pulled them up and replanted in another area of the garden, this time angrier than before. In the fall, the bushes still hadn't blossomed so he pulled them out and threw them away!

Immediate gratification. American society is programmed for it – a pill to take away the headache, a candy bar for instant energy, a credit card so you can buy what you want right now. We want what we want and we want it when we want it.

We forget that the world is made of cycles and processes. The lilac bushes needed a season to settle into the earth and send down roots. Nature gives us the wonderful example of seeds needing to build root systems before they sprout above ground and grow into the plant they were meant to be.

In your business or personal life, have you been pulling up the roots, replanting in what you thought might be sunnier spots, only to find that you aren't getting the blossoms you yearn for? Perhaps it would be best if take the time to nurture a root system.

Get grounded. Explore through books and seminars the possibilities and potentials available to you. Make sure that you are not operating out of anxiousness, frustration, anger, stress or fatigue. The choices we make at emotional times are often not well processed through our “root system” and therefore don't usually reflect Who We Were Meant To Be. Instead those choices reflect the chaos of the storm going on around us. Allow the storm front to move through. Just notice the emotions, feel them at the moment. There is no need to take action, other than to protect yourself if necessary from the elements that might be dangerous to you. When the storm has passed, the calm settles in. Review what has happened.

Before making decisions to sprout into the new business, relationship, home or whatever new directions you are choosing, remember the Chinese bamboo, Moso, takes several years to build it's root system before ever appearing above ground. However, it's root system is so strong that it will grow to 60 to 75 feet tall in the five years following it's appearance. The bamboo will grow to a strong and powerful eight inches in diameter.

Gib Cooper is a bamboo gardner. He offers this saying for us to ponder…. The first year they sleep. The second year they creep. The third year they leap!

When you approach a new endeavor, you would do well to consider the wisdom of the Moso gardner. Take the time to plant and nurture the seeds of your new endeavor, choose wisely the plant you wish to become and then watch as your power and strength grow in proportion to the root system you have developed. Give up immediate gratification for the long term pleasure, satisfaction, and strength of the moso forest!

A professional speaker since 1975, Patricia has created over fifty workshops, speeches, and keynote presentations highlighting the skills of Emotional Intelligence. A host for both radio and television interview shows for ten years with an extensive background in business and education, Patricia makes strong connections with participants from private, public and non-profit sector organizations, as well as associations. Emotional Intelligence is at the core of all of her work, helping people develop their self-awareness and social awareness skills to build effective, collaborative relationships personally and professionally. Her website gives more details and contact information.

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Emotionally Closed Off: Healing Pain and Learning to Love

Category: Men and Love

由贡萨洛·萨利纳斯

太阳 On the Tiny Buddha site, I found an amazing article by Joanna Warwick, a writer and a therapist who writes about Love, Emotions and Relationships. The article talks about the brave action of opening your heart, even when life has taught you to close it. Great reading!

Letting go came with what seemed like an ocean of tears and unchartered anger, which I shouted, screamed, swore, prayed, talked, and physically used to punch my bed; but gradually the light started to creep in.

Click Here to read “ Emotionally Closed Off: Healing Pain and Learning to Love. ” Enjoy!

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'Man Up' and Beyond … Malik Washington

Tarik Washington

Malik Washington

由百胜霍奇森

When Malik Washington joined the “ Man Up ” program at Howard University as a freshmen, it was because he wanted to make sure he had what he needed to succeed. “ Man Up ” was a space where Malik, and many other young men like him, could get things off their chests that might distract them from being successful in their studies.

For many men, this makes a big difference. When Malik started at Howard it was expected that nearly half of the young African American men who were starting school wouldn't finish. And often it's not academics that get in the way, it's added stresses outside of school that push many young men to drop out.

Man Up ” is a place to deal with those extra stresses and get support from mentors and peers. As New Warriors , the format for the circles would seem very familiar, with some similarities to our I-Groups.

Now, only a few years later, Washington is using some of what he learned in those men's circles, and his subsequent MKP experience, to break the cycles of violence and poverty in communities all over the northeast as the CEO of the William Kellibrew Foundation .

From the Kellibrew Foundation's website:
The William Kellibrew Foundation is an advocate, bridge and community driven partner dedicated to breaking the cycles of violence and poverty. The WKF harnesses and provides resources to both victims and similarly focused organizations through prevention, intervention, education and outreach. By sharing the stories of survivors we give voice to victims, raise community awareness and empower people working to rebuild their lives, families and communities.  

Washington now manages and creates groups for both men and women, with a focus on providing trauma informed care and needed services to a large network in the DC area. He is also traveling to other cities in the northeast to setup similar programs. William Kellibrew's story is intense, heart-breaking and hopeful .

Congratulations to this Peaceful Warrior – on living a powerful mission of service in the world.

The Howard University 'Man Up' program has had deep involvement from a number of New Warriors in the Greater Washington DC community including Lincoln Brown Jr. and former DC Center Director Darryl Moment.

Boysen Hodgson

Boysen Hodgson is the Communications and Marketing Director for the ManKind Project USA, a nonprofit mentoring and training organization that offers powerful opportunities for men's personal growth at any stage of life. Boysen received his BA with Honors from the University of Massachusetts at Amherst, after completing 2 years of Design coursework at Cornell University. 他一直在帮助公司和个人设计的,他们希望看到在世界15年的变化。 He's a dedicated husband.

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