我们如何感受的情绪在我们的身体

由百胜霍奇森

从探索杂志

研究由一组科学家最近发表在美国国家科学院学报上做了揭示了他们的身体是如何的人类情感体验一些有趣的事实。 对于涉及人类工程的人,这是我们一直在教学和实践近30年来一个漂亮的肯定。

在人类的项目,我们看到和听到的人很难描述或名称他们感到什么。 疯了吗? 伤心? 高兴? 害怕吗? 惭愧吗? 他们往往有一个简单的时间说他们怎么想,或进行表达正在发生的事情在他们身边,但当被问及姓名的情绪状态,他们正在经历...很多男人都难倒的判断语句。 对于我们大多数人来说,这是正在成长于家庭和文化,不教或型号的情感素养的结果。

为了帮助男性了解他们的感受,并能够将其命名为; 在不改变它,或者羞耻感吧期望,我们教男人看自己的身体线索。

“你的感觉是什么感觉?”
“哪里是你的身体的感觉?”
“可能它有什么颜色(形状,大小,纹理)?”
终于...
“如果你给它一个名字......疯狂,悲伤,高兴,害怕,羞愧......你会打电话吗?”

为探索这个基本模板,开始梳理出在我们的脑海中的故事和叙述,从我们有在我们的身体的原始物理的经验。 通常这是在去耦反应习惯让男人可以在他们的行为变化和信念对自己和世界的第一步。

情感 -毛毡意义上说,激素和神经系统的连锁反应套入由世界的想法和经验的运动-是信息的最强大的来源,我们可以利用来改善自己和对世界产生积极影响的。 我们中的许多创造否定,压制,并避免我们的感情已经广泛的在我们的社区的个人,人际和文化影响的习惯。

这是一个伟大的时刻见证了文化觉醒是正在进行中。

男人的工作 -苏醒,成长,并显示在世界为人类造福起来的困难和梦幻般的过程-是主流。 当这篇文章发表后,人类工程的人来自世界各地的人用妙语连珠分享它有关打印出来作为一个快速参考指南,男性开始连接“头”和令人振奋的过程“心脏”。

这里是链接的文章:
我们如何感受的情绪在我们的身体

百胜霍奇森

百胜霍奇森是通信和营销总监人类工程美国,一个非盈利性的指导和培训机构,提供了强大的机会,在人生的任何阶段,男性的个人成长。 百胜接受了他的荣誉学士学位,从美国马萨诸塞大学阿默斯特分校,完成2年设计课程的康奈尔大学之后。 他一直在帮助公司和个人设计的,他们希望看到在世界15年的变化。 他是一个专用的丈夫。

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20诊断迹象表明,533。你“灵魂损失”。 文章利萨兰

由贡萨洛·萨利纳斯

我非常感谢兰利萨博士。 我想她救了我,帮助我了解发生了什么事在我的生活。 我被训练了铁人三项,我是不是感觉不错。 我的身体不能再忍受了,当我去到三个不同的医生,他们每跑了一些测试,结果是一样的:一切都没有问题。

不过,我并没有感觉很好。 一天晚上,当我离开工作,检查我的电子邮件,我发现在我的收件箱中的视频,我不记得是从现在谁。 题目是关于由利萨兰博士您的健康令人震惊的真相 这是从2011年的TED演讲(我把它下面)。 看完整个视频后,我就迷上了。 我点了她的书心灵在医学 ,我开始认为更多的是与我的激情的日常工作,而不是病理愈合过程。

利萨兰是一个勇敢的灵魂,对一个系统,把我们的身体就像机器的战斗。 她的武器战斗的战斗:爱。 她说,她的任务是要突出“ 关怀保健。”我认为她的作品为每位医生,治疗师,治疗师,萨满一个惊人的机会,人们参与药物或任何形式的治疗实践中学习和成长中的实践。

她是一个任务。 她被公认的。 我祈祷她继续治疗人类。

这里是一个链接到一个伟大的文章,她写道。 检查出来,并考虑介入:

20诊断迹象表明,533。你“灵魂损失”


贡萨洛照片

贡萨洛·萨利纳斯是一个助理编辑的人类工程杂志,刊物的人类工程,一个非盈利性的辅导和培训机构在人生的任何阶段,为男性的个人成长强大的机会。 萨利纳斯文学研究在秘鲁首都利马的圣马科斯大学,并一直住在美国自2003年以来,他居住在佛罗里达州迈阿密。 萨利纳斯致力于他自己的个人发展,并传播有关的愿景和使命的话,人类工程

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麦当劳得来速,上午08时23分

类别: 回忆录

由温特沃斯·米勒

麦当劳
威廉姆斯,加利福尼亚州
2013年12月23日
上午08时32分(约)

我拉进得来速,空的,除了巨大的白色郊区在我前面,未来掌握在callbox,就像一艘游艇停靠。 当窗口滚落下来,我可以看到他的侧视镜的驱动程序。 男,光头,30年代中期。

对讲机裂纹作为麦当劳的员工足球场不管它是什么,他/她被勒令在订货前一分力。 鉴于本赛季,想必一些节日十岁上下。 高果糖。

我窗口的卷起来,所以我不能听到他们交流,但我可以看到那人的嘴唇在动,他的眼睛放牧菜单。 他转身离callbox,解决别人的郊区里,问他们想要的早餐是什么。 据推测。

这时候,我看到有多少人他有他。 一个文字整车。 我看到多头。 他们中的大多数小。 这家伙有在那里四五个孩子。 至少。 再加上妻子。 所有的人都希望早餐。 没有一个人曾经去过麦当劳,显然,由于方向盘后面的人是通过整个他妈的菜单谈论他们。 每天最后一个项目。 显然。

对讲机再次爆裂声,我看了一眼在我的后视镜,看到两辆车在等待我的身后,用我自己的废气混入由蜱秒。

我回头看爸爸郊区,默默愿意他快点起来。 他没有。 他面带微笑,以他的时间,确保他得到大家的订单的权利。

我想他的声音在我的脑海。

“是啊......我能得到一个培根,鸡蛋和奶酪饼干? 无需等待 - 少了些的过敏奶酪。 我可以买到培根鸡蛋饼没有奶酪? 无需等待 - 你可以让一个松饼? 我可以得到香肠松饼鸡蛋? 没有奶酪。 少了些不能有奶酪“(McCetera。)

我要的是一个大的咖啡与奶精2的侧面。

不幸的是我,爸,妈,少了些,而少了些的36兄弟姐妹们将需要一些更多的上场时间,以弥补他们的头脑。

我叹了口气,望向我的左边,尽量分散自己与窗外的景色。 但是,有什么可看的。 就在平整,干燥无垠延伸到地平线,中灰色,棕色和米色在此尘暴黯淡的冬季Vista的创建者大会(如排队5个是广告牌可以相信)。

我把我的目光回到了郊区,在爸爸(再次)归零,还诬陷他的侧镜。 他抚摸着自己的下巴,看着菜单(再次)。 考虑到他的选择。 我不知道的人还抚摸着自己的下巴。

我期待在我的后视镜,看到现在有三辆车在我后面。 这里谈到的第四位。

有几个场景在我的脑海中运行。

第一场景:我敲击两次我的角。 哔哔。 看着爸爸的眼睛见见我的侧镜。 他的额头皱起。 我微笑。 耸肩。 如,“你能不能快点起来,好吗?”

第二个场景:我猛烈地刺向我的汽车喇叭声。 BLAP。 看着爸爸的眼睛见见我的侧镜。 他的额头皱起。 我举起我的手。 耸肩。 如,“哎呦 - 不是故意打喇叭。 不过,虽然我中有你的关注,你能快点起来,好吗?“

第三个场景:我猛烈地刺向我的汽车喇叭声。 并保持它。 BLAAAAAAAAPPPPPPPP。 看着爸爸的眼睛见见我的侧镜。 他的额头皱起。 我盯着他。 如,“是啊。 你听我的。“他坚持他的头伸出窗外,回头看着我。 “你要什么问题?”也许他实际上是打开他的房门,失控,走回到我的车,想找出我的问题是面对面的。 (这种情况可能会导致暴力行为。拳头,拳的McFlurry。)

第四场景:在我身后有人轻拍他们的角。 哔哔。 爸爸的眼睛见见我的侧镜。 他的额头皱起。 我举起我的手。 耸肩。 如,“嘿 - 那不是我,哥们。 不过,虽然我们有您的关注......“

我的手指鼓方向盘。

然后,在最后,他做了。 奇迹中的奇迹。 í扫在郊区背后向前移动,第二,它的殖民不久前所占用的空间。 如果它是一个位子它仍然是温暖的。 现在是我的。 都是我的。 我有我的窗口滚落下来。 我气喘吁吁不耐烦。 准备点菜。

“你好,欢迎来到麦当劳! 你想试试我们的新 - “

“我可以得到一个大的黑咖啡就在身边2奶精?”

“那会不会完成你的命令?”

“是的。 谢谢。“

“你总为f - ”

我开车过去callbox和最多的第一个窗口,在这里你付出的窗口。 或至少​​我尝试。 但郊区仍然存在。 空转。 当然。 我不能当爸爸的付出和等待改变或者说,如果他还在挖四处寻找确切的铸币。

我举起我的疲惫的眼睛,他的车的顶部,发现屋顶货船。 黑色。 相当大的。 我不知道里面有什么。 身体部位可能。 或圣诞礼物。 身体部位包裹圣诞礼物。 他们很可能在他们的方式来奶奶家。 或度假小屋。 ('提斯的季节。)

我看到移动了我的眼睛的余光,赶上麦当劳的员工派发爸爸回到他的信用卡和收据。 爸爸说一些回报(感谢你呢?)。 微笑。 这家伙的都他妈的笑容。 定期chucklehead。 显然。

爸爸说点别的员工(圣诞快乐?)。 而不是向前行驶,保持路线移动,而不是呈现出一定程度的认识和/或尊重事实,他/他们不是一个人在这得来速和/或世界的话,爸爸留他在哪里。 我看他低头看着自己的腿上,用什么大惊小怪。 他的信用卡可能。 他把它放回了他的钱包。 然后,他就往前走。

他妈的的缘故。

其中一个孩子意有所指说了一句很有趣,因为现在爸爸在笑,硬,头向后仰。 我看到在侧镜,一个黑色的小食道被洁白的小牙齿牙龈环抱。

首届情景浮现在我的脑海再次,在这里我要敲击两次我的号角。 哔哔。 看着爸爸的眼睛见见我的倒车镜,皱着眉头。 我微笑,耸肩。 “你能不能快点起来,好吗?”爸爸给我的臭眼,但向前拉,让我在第一个窗口支付我的咖啡。 一分钟后,我回到了5日,护理我一杯咖啡,听一些曲调,内心独白回复:家庭中的白色郊区正迅速地被取代的想法回复:我。 和午餐。 然后,我再次。

同时 - 还是第一个场景 - 在路上郊区的背部为好,但现在爸爸的情绪已经恶化。 他还在思考(沉思)对他身后那混蛋在麦当劳,谁拽住他的角之一。 谁想要他的人/他们快点他妈的起来。 这鸣喇叭觉得个人。 就像是一种侮辱。 爸爸认为也许他应该已经得到了车,走回那里,发现了那家伙的问题是面对面的。 是啊。 也许他应该有。 爸爸知道他应该让它滑,但不能,也从来没有在推卸掉的东西是好的。 他的手指鼓方向盘。

爸爸的妻子坐在他旁边,紧张,眼睛前面,肩膀爬上了她的耳朵。 还有的是天气的变化,她知道这一点。 她以前也听说过这个纪录。 她给她的丈夫一看,评估的情况下,手指的风,等着看这个地方会去。 但她能猜到。

少了些和她的36兄弟姐妹坐在他们后面,现在制服。 还有的是天气的变化,他们知道这一点。 他们静静地吃,尽量不起皱的香肠松饼鸡蛋包装实在太大声了。 无果。

其中之一是一个小时42分钟,从得到耳光。

它可能会发生更快。 这以后可能发生的事情。 但它的发生。

我坐在在得来速与我的脚在刹车上,凝视着在郊区的小头在我面前的背影,不知道这其中便。

我知道肯定鸣喇叭我的角是指那些一个孩子是越来越耳光?

当然不是。

我真的很负责,如果前者导致了后者?

不,那是荒谬的。

伊什。

如果少了些和她的36兄弟姐妹都生长在这里打耳光发生的环境中,会发生掌掴,无论他们怎样悄悄地吃他们的早餐。 无论司机鸣喇叭的爸爸有多少避免,手心会遇到的脸颊。

保证。

但我不希望在这一个环节。

所以,我还是我的手指在方向盘上,让我的喇叭unhonked。 我会等待额外的5分钟,我的早晨咖啡。 我让爸爸 - 仍然笑着,顺便说一句 - 拉动着回升的窗口时,他的好,准备好了。

我无所谓。

当他做我跟随身后,在5英里每小时移动很好。 当我停下旁边的薪酬窗口,我刹车这样轻轻的我几乎不能告诉我刹车都没有。 或者说,我永远感动。

我有我的账单和详细的变化做好准备。 4.34美元。 我对你们紧握的拳头朝着窗口,因为它滑开,露出一个ponytailed小将在麦当劳的遮阳板和褪皮大衣。 她歉意地笑了,在我面前点头向郊区。 耸耸肩。 说:“很抱歉的等待。 那家伙永远了,是吧?“

温特沃斯·米勒

出生于英国,在纽约布鲁克林,和普林斯顿大学的毕业生提出,温特沃斯·米勒是一个引人注目的,并广受好评的年轻演员,其作品跨越两个电视专题片。 了解更多关于温特沃斯·米勒在IMDB 米勒是美国的人类工程,洛杉矶社区的一员。

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拥抱不好的经验,就像一个战士

由肖恩·罗德斯

我印象最深刻的是第一次有人尝试把我的生活是多么好水品尝。

那是2004年的春天,而我是在一个货运车辆全步兵机枪兵。 我们出发去保护作为补给路线巴格达一座立交桥。 它被经常被当地警察圣战炮轰。 大,笨重的车辆驶下桥,我们等待进一步的命令。 显然,这是一个坏主意,停放的车辆在现场敌人有丰富的经验打。 我们立刻开始接收传入的迫击炮火。

听说要放弃车辆,而我是从后舱门两个人。 最接近后面的男子跳下12英尺的卡车床上到地上,滚到路面上跑的封面作为回合下雨他身边。 第二个男子尾随,并穿插了弹片沿右侧他的身体。 该轮排在半秒的增量,而当他们撞地在我们身边,它像间歇泉打开。 烟雾,砂石,钢材等件喷了出来,并像黑色的蒸汽喷嘴。 我从汽车上跳下,迫击炮爆炸了我下面。

接下来的事情我记得是从巨大的卡车的后部挡板摆动,因为它蹒跚前行。 一手握钢,而我的其他拍着身边对保险杠。 我放弃了在地上,检查自己 - 没有伤口。 当我们终于落户在晚上,我意识到我从来没有这么渴。 这不冷不热,不新鲜,氯化味道像它的水都来自瑞士的阿尔卑斯山。

我同意这个故事,是因为我想唤起你的记忆。 我要你记住,来自生存的兴高采烈。 更重要的是,我想与大家分享生活与Shoshin,初学者的心生活的一个重要原则:

最好的时刻,当你把自己(或推)超越你认为你能处理发生。 这不过是你做的那场胜利,定义你的余生。

创伤是大家公认的古自己带来的东西,我们认为我们可以处理的边缘的方式。 如果有人生存,它永远改变了他们。 很多我打了都还需要方面与他们经历过战场上的老兵。 这些人都是身体肯定比我强了,大多数人更聪明,而我们的训练脱敏我们所有的暴力。 那么,为什么我们有些人回这些经验重新致力于实现我们人生的目的后,而这么多的离开自己生活中的激情,在沙漠?

人伤害了我们。 其他人则采取为时尚早。 我们怎样处理内部的空虚呼应呢? 该解决方案可能会让你大吃一惊 - 这不是原谅和忘记,它肯定不是假装它​​没有​​发生。 如果在生活中的事件挑战你的理由尽可能充分地活,拿起战士的衣钵了。 即使你从来没有想过自己作为一个战士,服务的精神生命在你们心里。 这是你的人的话,这是一个方式去拥抱生命中的挑战。

想在你的生命中最痛苦的事件,以及所涉及的细节。 记住事物的感觉或气味。 它记录在一张纸上。 如果这些记忆不觉得像一个伤口不愈,你已经做了精神战士的治疗工作,或者你的人生幸好是无创伤的。

你想邀请回到你的生活? 嬉闹? 肆无忌惮的喜悦? 信任? 把它写下来。 如果它绊倒你,问朋友或家人谁知道你之前和之后的事件发现任何变化。

在你的心中如果事件再次发挥自己每隔一小时(和它对于某些人来说,不是吗?),你会怎样做,使内存可以忍受? 这是假设你已经厌倦避免了内存并准备夺回你失去了。
勇士被称为活的卓越的生活。 努力满足既带来了胜利和失败的教训。 什么分开的受害者战士是他们选择这样做与他们的生活休息的。 像所有的生活问题,你跑的快,快,他们追求的目标。 勇士不要跑,躲在酒精,药物,或假装什么都没有发生。 一个战士做什么,他们的爱情 - 他们玩他们的生活战场陶醉。

当然,塑造我们的活动不再只是在过去,在我们的记忆存在。 你看,这个地方的勇士夺回失去的部分本身是他们此时此刻的范围内。 它的存在,我们走的路径。 请记住,一个战士是谁提供更高的要求。 如果你正在读这篇文章,你又活了你生命的创伤性事件,它可以安全地说,你要充分利用您现在的时刻。 你更高的目标,你的激情,你的电话住用自己的初学者的心脏是通过你呼应到空出的空间,让您可以在它采取行动。 你值得过一个很好的生活。

那么,如何才能使我们失去了什么回到我们的生活? 任何武术家都会告诉你,一旦你学会了“技术难度”这是一个额头打耳光的经验,当你觉得你是多么艰难地进行这么简单的东西。

但该技术,那失落的一角,而生活中你梦想永远不会实现,除非你开始练习。 你送出去,你想使你的生活是什么。 现在开始。 嘲笑每一个机会。 信托以小增量,直到你可以把你的生活回到了宇宙。 实践给别人你缺少的东西,体味回归,因为它流回你的生活。 抓住那些时刻,品尝他们; 喝深刻。

由于约翰图图罗为O哥,你在哪儿说:

“来吧孩子们,水是好的。”

肖恩·罗德斯

作为一个屡获殊荣的海洋战地记者,肖恩·罗德斯前往二十多个国家并肩作战的美国海军陆战队。 他的故事和照片,除了各大通讯社都被刊登在时间,CNN和MSNBC。 他是一个顶级的战斗记者在军事和国会与公众分享战士的生活方式的认可。 然后,他生活和训练在日本武术庙会,学习如何战士的心态,可用于胜利的战斗和会议室。 目前,他是一个成功的演讲者和教练,教人要获得成功和幸福,他利用来自世界各地的勇士们学到的方法。 他开始在2013年十月的NWTA了解更多关于肖恩·罗德在他的网站: Shoshin咨询

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决议? 变化? 的新作? 记住这...

类别: 男人和使命

游客发表:由帕特里夏Clason

思考“增长”的一些目标,做一些改变,开始新的东西? 无论您正在为越来越多的企业或有一个更满意的个人生活的变化,你可能需要记住这个故事。

想要填补他的院子里有紫丁香的气味,有人栽了一些灌木在他的花园。 几个星期后,他很沮丧,因为他们没有开花结果,他拉起来,并重新种植在花园的另一部分。 “也许他们会得到更多的阳光在这里,然后开花结果,”他想。 一个月后,他们仍然没有开花。

于是,他拉起来,并重新种植在花园的另一区域,比以往这个时候愤怒。 到了秋天,草丛里还没有开花,所以他拉出来,并把他们带走!

及时行乐。 美国社会被编程为它 - 一丸带走头痛,即时能量直板,信用卡,所以你可以买到你想要的现在。 我们想要的,我们想要的,我们想要它的时候,我们想要的。

我们忘了,这个世界是由周期和过程。 需要一个赛季的丁香花丛定居地里送落地生根。 大自然给予我们的种子需要建立根系它们发芽地上前,长成他们的意思是工厂的很好的例子。

在您的企业或个人生活,你一直拉了根,改种什么,你认为可能是阳光的斑点,才发现,你没有得到你渴望的花朵? 也许,如果需要培育根系的时间将是最好的。

得到接地。 浏览过的书籍和讲座为您提供的可能性和潜力。 确保你没有经营出焦虑,沮丧,愤怒,紧张或疲劳。 让我们在情感的时候的选择往往不能很好地通过我们的“根系统”进行处理,因此通常不反映关于我们的意思是。 相反,这些选择反映了风暴的混乱我们身边的事情。 让暴风雨来移动。 刚刚看到的情绪,感受他们的时刻。 有没有必要采取行动,除了保护自己,如果有必要的,可能是危险的,你的元素。 当风暴过去,平静安定英寸查看发生了什么事。

在作出决定萌芽到新的业务,关系,家中或任何新的你在选择方向,记得中国竹,毛竹,需要几年的时间来构建它的根系统之前曾经出现在地面上。 然而,它的根​​系是如此强大,它会增长到60至75英尺高在五年以下它的外观。 竹子将增长到一个强而有力的直径8英寸。

GIB库珀是竹加德纳。 他提供了这句话让我们深思......。 第一年,他们的睡眠。 他们悄悄的第二年。 第三年,他们的飞跃!

当你接近一个新的尝试,你应该好好考虑摩梭加德纳的智慧。 花时间去种植和培育新的努力的种子,做出明智的选择,你想成为,然后看着你的权力和力量按比例给你开发了根系生长的植物。 放弃即时满足的长期快乐,满意度和强度摩梭人的森林!

一个专业的音箱自1975年以来,帕特里夏已经创造了超过50车间,演讲,主题演讲强调情商的技能。 主机为电台和电视采访节目十年,在商业和教育的广泛背景,帕特里夏让来自私有,公共和非营利部门的组织,以及社团的参与者紧密的联系。 情绪智力是她的所有工作的核心,帮助人们发展他们的自我意识和社会意识的技能,建立有效的协作关系,个人和专业。 她的网站上提供了更多详细信息和联系方式。

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感情上关闭关:治疗疼痛和学习爱

类别: 男人和爱情

由贡萨洛·萨利纳斯

孙 在微小的佛网站,我发现了一个惊人的文章乔安娜华威,一个作家和一个治疗师谁写的爱,情感和关系。 这篇文章谈到了打开你的心脏的勇敢行动,即使生活教你关闭它。 大阅读!

放手就什么好像眼泪和难以估计的愤怒的海洋,我大喊,尖叫,咒骂,祈祷,谈吐,和身体来冲我的床上; 但渐渐的光开始蠕动英寸

点击这里阅读“ 感情上封闭:治疗疼痛和学习爱 。”尽情享受吧!

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“人最多”和超越......马利克华盛顿

塔里克华盛顿

马利克华盛顿

由百胜霍奇森

当马利克华盛顿参加了“ 人向上 ”节目在霍华德大学的新生,那是因为他想确保他有什么,他需要的成功。 人最多 ”是一个空间,马利克和其他许多年轻人都喜欢他,可下车胸前事情可能被成功的在他们的研究中转移他们的注意力。

对于许多男人,这会产生很大的差异。 当马利克开始在霍华德有人预计,近一半的年轻的非裔美国男性谁是开始上学的话还没说完。 而往往它不是碍事的学者,它的加入校外强调推动许多年轻人辍学。

人最多 ”是一个地方处理这些额外的压力,并从导师和同行的支持。 随着新的战士 ,为圆的格式似乎很熟悉,有一定的相似性,以我们的I-组。

现在,仅仅几年之后,华盛顿正在利用一些他在那些人的圈子中了解到,和他后来的MKP经验,打破暴力和贫穷的社区循环遍布东北部的首席执行官威廉·Kellibrew基金会

从Kellibrew基金会的网站:
威廉Kellibrew基金会是一个倡导者,桥梁和社区驱动的合作伙伴,致力于打破暴力和贫穷的循环。 该WKF线束,并通过预防,干预,教育和推广提供资源,以受害者和同样注重机构。 通过共享幸存者的故事,我们给声音的受害者,提高社区意识和使人们努力重建他们的生活,家庭和社区。  

华盛顿现在管理,并为男性和女性群体,重点是到大型网络,在华盛顿地区,提供创伤知情照顾和需要的服务。 He is also traveling to other cities in the northeast to setup similar programs. William Kellibrew's story is intense, heart-breaking and hopeful .

Congratulations to this Peaceful Warrior – on living a powerful mission of service in the world.

The Howard University 'Man Up' program has had deep involvement from a number of New Warriors in the Greater Washington DC community including Lincoln Brown Jr. and former DC Center Director Darryl Moment.

百胜霍奇森

百胜霍奇森是通信和营销总监人类工程美国,一个非盈利性的指导和培训机构,提供了强大的机会,在人生的任何阶段,男性的个人成长。 百胜接受了他的荣誉学士学位,从美国马萨诸塞大学阿默斯特分校,完成2年设计课程的康奈尔大学之后。 他一直在帮助公司和个人设计的,他们希望看到在世界15年的变化。 他是一个专用的丈夫。

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Mission is not “mine” – releasing the power of mission

Category: Men and Mission

By Stephen Simmer

You never go away from us, yet we have difficulty in returning to you. Come, stir us up and call us back. Kindle and seize us. Be our fire and our sweetness. Let us love. Let us run. –Augustine

 
Too late I came to love you, both so ancient and so new! Too late I came to love you – and you were with me all the time .
–Augustine
 
 
The spirit is so near that you can't see it!
But reach for it. .don't be a jar
Full of water, whose rim is always dry.
Don't be the rider who gallops all night
And never sees the horse that is beneath him.
–Rumi

We stand up in a circle and say, “My mission is. .” But to me there's something wrong about calling it my mission, like it's a possession that belongs to me. My mission is not my possession, like my car or my I-phone. It possesses me , like spirit possession. My mission is greater than me. I belong to it . It grabs me by the neck. The etymology of the word mission connects it to the word smite. It is something that smacks me and knocks me down, refuses to be ignored, makes me change my life.

When I speak my mission for the first time, I may have a sense of deja vu, as if I am saying something I have known all along. Like Augustine says, “Too late I came to love you, and you were with me all the time.” It is as if mission has been whispering in my ear my entire life, but I hadn't been listening. It is as if I have had a companion from the beginning, but I was turned the other way.

When I form a mission statement with a vision and an action, in my opinion it's like trying to cage the Wild Man in the Iron Hans story. When I recite it, I put my mission on display, and pretend that I've captured it and put it in the zoo. But that caged creature isn't the real Mission. It tricks its way out of my definition. It needs to be on the move, alive and changing.

The Latin word missionem means “sending, releasing, setting at liberty.” If there's no movement or sense of freedom in it, it's not really Mission. It scoops us up on its back and carries us into the forest, like in the story. When I ride on mission's back, it's deciding where we go, carrying me to places I've never been. As Augustine says, “Be our fire and our sweetness. Let us love. Let us run.”

If I let Mission carry me, it takes me to a place where all things glisten with golden beauty. My life makes sense, there's value in what I do. In the Iron Hans story, the wild man carries the boy to a pool that changes everything to gold, and the boy sticks his wounded finger in the pool. Even my wounds have gold in them, become an essential part of my mission work. Before, I hid my wounds out of shame, or out of fear that the pain would start again. Now, my wounds glisten with gold. No, I don't wait for them to heal before I begin my mission work. My wounds as they are become my bridge of compassion, my connection to the wounded world. Then my wound is not must mine, it becomes the place where I can feel the pain of the world.

Stephen Simmer

Steve Simmer, for those of us privileged to know him, lives his life in the midst of the constant stream and theme of mission. 适当的是,他的正式使命陈述的是,他的职业是心理治疗师“,鼓励男性与我有勇气做的一切,他们可以和将所有他们能做的。创造一个自由的世界”,他不断的给激发人积极寻找并参与在这个世界上自己的使命。 煨博士完成了新战士训练的冒险早在2001年,由于从来没有同一个男人。
To learn more about Steve and his work you can visit his website

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Message from your Inner Warrior

by Gonzalo Salinas

Dear Warrior:

You don't work on your mission to get things. You don't work on your mission to get a desired outcome: Not fame or fortune, not a brand new car, nor the girl. You don't condition your mission to an outcome.

What if you work in your mission to get things and when you finish, you don't get the thing? Or even worse, you achieve the goal, you get the thing but you don't get the fulfillment? ......

You know better than that.

Deep in your heart, this is what you really know: You work on your mission because this is Who You Are. 期。 You know that your mission will either saves someone's life or will make this planet a better place to live. So you wake up, you work on your mission, no matter the amount of time as long as you do something related to your mission today.

And then you realize that the little amount of work you put on your mission today, is enough reason to authorize yourself to be happy right now. Tomorrow will be another day.

爱,

Your Inner Warrior

贡萨洛照片

Gonzalo Salinas is an Assistant Editor for the ManKind Project Journal, a publication of the ManKind Project, a nonprofit mentoring and training organization offering powerful opportunities for men's personal growth at any stage of life. Salinas studied Literature in Lima, Peru at San Marcos University, and has been living in the United States since 2003. He lives in Miami, FL. Salinas is committed to his own personal development, and to spreading the word about the vision and mission of the Mankind Project .

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Mensaje de tu Guerrero Interior

Category: Men and Mission

por Gonzalo Salinas

Querido Guerrero:

Tú no trabajas en tu misión para obtener cosas. Tú no trabajas en tu misión para obtener ningún resultado. No por fama o fortuna, ni por un carro nuevo ni para conseguir una mujer. Tú no condicionas tu misión a un resultado.

¿Qué pasaría si trabajas en tu misión y al final no obtienes el resultado que esperas? O peor aún, ¿Qué pasaría si luego de trabajar en tu misión, obtienes la cosa y ello no te llena como esperabas?… Tú eres mejor que eso.

En un lugar profundo en tu corazón, esto es lo que sabes: Tú trabajas en tu misión porque eso es quien TÚ eres. Así de simple. Tú sabes que tu misión salvará la vida de alguien o que hará que este planeta sea un mejor lugar donde vivir. Entonces te despiertas, trabajas en tu misión, sin importar el tiempo que le dediques tan pronto como hagas algo por tu misión el día de hoy.

Y luego te das cuenta, que ese pequeño monto de trabajo que pusiste hoy en tu misión, es razón suficiente para autorizarte a ser feliz ahora mismo. Mañana será otro día.

Con Amor,

Tu Guerrero Interior

贡萨洛照片

Gonzalo Salinas is an Assistant Editor for the ManKind Project Journal, a publication of the ManKind Project, a nonprofit mentoring and training organization offering powerful opportunities for men's personal growth at any stage of life. Salinas studied Literature in Lima, Peru at San Marcos University, and has been living in the United States since 2003. He lives in Miami, FL. Salinas is committed to his own personal development, and to spreading the word about the vision and mission of the Mankind Project .

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The Legacy Letters, powerful lessons for living

好人

好人


EDITOR'S NOTE by Boysen Hodgson : Barry Friedman emailed me to tell me that I HAD TO get this book, The Legacy Letters by Carew Papritz, and read it immediately. He felt this was an important book for New Warriors, a book that speaks to our values as conscious men, and to the importance of taking action now to make sure that the important things we have to say are said.

I suggested that Barry get in touch with Carew, and reached out to make the connection … and as usual … Barry jumped right in and OVER-PERFORMED … putting together a great interview with Carew including a special reading by his son of a particularly poignant section of the book.

It's a powerful story, full of wisdom, wonder, gratitude, and blessings. Listen to the interview, read the excerpt below – and order yourself a copy of this incredible book . Carew is sure to become a big name. He's already out on the road doing book signings across the country.

Interview by Barry Friedman

Click for the Interview.

Excerpts from the letter: On My Boy Becoming A Man

for The Mankind Project

(from The Legacy Letters by Carew Papritz)

My Son,

As your papa, I have so much to tell you, to show you, of what it means to become a man. Trying to answer all your curious-boy questions about the day's mysteries and wonders with the perfect papa-given mix of accuracy, simplicity, and clarity. Watching you fall and stand and then fall again as all boys must do with such ferocity and perpetuity, to occasionally pick you up but not too often. Leading you through the long fire that is baptism of my son becoming a man. And somehow I must do all of this through the mortality of my words.

By your mom's grace and nearness, your sister will learn her mother wisdom. In one way or another, my Son, I must find a way to be next to you. Flying across a massive canyon of memory and time, hoping with all the strength, clarity, and love I can forgather as your father, I hope these words will wisely guide you toward someday becoming your own man.

Somehow, my Son, in our breakneck lust for the future of now, we got it into our heads that, like pushing a button or dialing a number, becoming a man is easy. Just devour a few dozen man-becomes-hero movies, pick-up a fast-looking car, make out with a girl or girls, pocket a few bucks, and do whatever you want whenever you want—easy. As a consequence, we turn out the perfect someone who looks like a man, talks like a man, and even sounds like a man but somehow acts like a Jack Sprat Billy-boy stunted at the pinnacle of his manly maturation, somewhere between the hormonal apex of twelve to twenty-three, who has no want, inclination, or motivation to earn his stripes and become a full-fledged, grown-up, thinking, thoughtful, good man. Now I'm not saying you have to be the Pope's boy scout or John Wayne's muleskinner, but if you're not learning or wanting to someday become a man, then you're forever practicing to remain a boy.

************************************************** *********

So when do you become a man, my Son?

Do you become a man by running around buck-naked in the wilderness for a week, waiting for some god-vision of three crows riding bareback on a bull elk at sun's rising? Do you become a man by going to war to bludgeon, shoot, bayonet, or shish-kabob some dumb kid your own age on the other side who also thought going to war would make him a man? Do you become a man by souping up the latest Chevy with a 327 under the hood and whipping some poor sod in a midnight street drag?

No, you become a man when you first decide to put away the things of childhood, the talk of childhood, and the thoughts of childhood. You decide because you cannot be treated as both a man and a boy. Because you are either one or the other, but you are not both. And it doesn't matter your age—you can be a child at fifteen or forty. Only when you as a boy decide you're done waiting for the man you want to be and start being the man you want to become, do you begin to become a man.

When do you become a man?

When you become your own man.

When other men trust you to do a man's work. Trust you with their name, their reputation, their thoughts. Trust you to watch their backs and trust you with their lives.

To become a man is to carry out your word because you gave your word. And your word is you as a man.

You become a man the moment you understand that responsibility is a real and vital commitment to yourself and others, and not some lazy-dog, all-agreeing grunt.

Becoming a man means doing the right thing even though it may be hard or difficult. Boys do what is easiest. A man does what is right, whether easy or not.

************************************************** *********

And what type of man should you be, my Son?

一个好人。 Above all else, strive to be a good man.

And you do not become a good man overnight. Much like a big, solid Douglas fir you must learn to withstand all manner of wind, rain, lightening, sun, and even fire—year after year after year—and still stand tall and true.

A good man, in your papa's book, is a great man. One who constantly strives to be the best of men, to himself and to others. Because the world can never have enough good men.

And what makes a good man, my Son.

A good man is being fair. In both your words and your actions.

When you admit being wrong. And then right that wrong.

A good man knows when he's been humbled, and learns from his humility.

Being a good man means to speak with sincerity, and love with certainty.

A good man will try to act wisely by thinking first and then acting.

A good man tells the truth.

A good man lives for the joy in life and the happiness of being alive, not shackled to the wants of the future or the regrets of the past.

A good man defends those that cannot defend themselves.

And a good man knows the difficulty of being a man, knowing the fall from grace is always near at hand, and thus is always striving to make himself a better man.

And as I quickly grow older, my Son, I see that the becoming a man and the being a man are eventually and truly one in the same, and the tests and the testing never end. I know in my father heart, and in all the other places I cannot go to at this moment, that I believe in you with all my love, even as time now disappears before me. And I know someday you will become a man to make your papa proud—your own man. Walking true to your own beliefs, carrying your name proudly, ever loyal to a valiant heart, and believing that being a good man in this life is a great endeavor. And on that day, I will somehow be with you. And somehow, I will have been your father. 我爱你。

爸爸

FINAL NOTE!

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The Twin Brothers, The Horse Twins

Category: Poetry

by Rebecca

The Twin Brothers, The Horse Twins

该Ashvino
The Horse Twins
The Twin Brothers
Tall, strong,
长长的黑发流
They are the Ashvino
Call to your brothers,
And they will lead you on your way.

Nobody knows where the Ashvino Twins live.
他们让参观的村庄
当他们自由徜徉。
When they enter a town,
孩子们是第一个知道。
They go running on their little feet
Pattering, laughing, spilling with delight.
该Ashvino双胞胎,
glowing softly bright like the afternoon sun,
Brown eyes bright,
Play with them, laugh with them.
They pick the children up to their shoulders, and hold them tight.
They speak true words to them,
Speaking to them,
never above them or below them,
As children always want to be spoken to.
世界各地的儿童给他们打电话,
Our Big Brothers.

They enter into homes
在下午晚些时候
当太阳高,黄金,
当妇女烤面包
与制作晚饭。
The women always welcome them in
Because they know what the Ashvino are.
They love them,
In a way different from their husbands,
In a way different than their sons.
The Ashvino bring their children with them.
They bring a quiet, strong joy that lasts long.
他们离开后,
在土墙讲多久,他们都走了之后,
A deep vibration,
Soothing, saying things that words could never speak.
In a house where the Ashvino have sat,
病会不会提出
而长,持久的幸福的运气会来的。
The Twin Brothers bring a warm, contented, deep peace.
他们带来了财富,金钱和财富
永远无法带来。
女人知道这一点。
They know about the Ashvino
They know about the Twins.
这就是为什么
The women are always happy to let the Twin Brothers in.

No one knows where the home of the Ashvino is.
After they pass through a village,
They walk past the outskirts
Out into the rolling plains,
And the Two Brothers
Change into Horses.
他们自由奔跑的草,
在世界的宽阔。
在雷雨天气,
They revel in the pounding rain
它们的蹄子像雷霆
而他们的速度是闪电。
其黑色的鬃毛是风。

In their bodies runs the strength of a horse.
他们知道这是什么感觉就像是猎物
but they have the mind of a good human king.
They've felt the spikes of fear in their own bodies,
And they are sensitive as horses—
they are gentle because of it.
And they know sensitive assertiveness
is better than timid kindness—
they know without it,
the heard falls into fear and strife.
They know what it is to be a predator,
And that as men they are only animal on earth
有一个关于它的选择。
They are a horse and a man in one,
两全其美。
它们是Ashvino。

女人总是爱他们。
But what men think of them
取决于人。
A jealous man says,
“滚出我的房子! 停止与我的女人搞乱!“
An insecure man sees the Twins' easy, warm confidence,
and feels empty.
à男人谁认为自己强,
but only makes an image of strength on the outside, judges and says,
“他们是不是真正的强者。 They are too gentle, too kind.”

但是,一个人谁努力成为自由,野性,善良,坚强,
His heart yearns after them
From deep in his soul.
He wants to be like them.
他想自由奔跑像他们一样。
He wants to be strong like them.
He wants to be kind like them.

Call to the Ashvino
And the Horse Twins will come running
Quicker than the lightning
隆隆深又长的像打雷的地球
With the easy warmth of the afternoon sun,
With the heart of a Horse
And the mind of a Man,
他们会来
As your Brothers
And lead you
On the way you yearn to go.

Rebecca is a woman who heartily supports the Men's Movement. On her words: ” We need it now more than ever. 我深入到荣格的研究,我每天都努力的生活负责,全面的,有意识的生命。 I have written this piece in the place where men's and women's journeys intersect. We often do the same thing in our inner life, while looking at it from slightly different angles. 该Ashvino马双胞胎,我想带活到我们的世界又是一个古老的印欧语的传统。“
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All/You/I, a poem

Category: Poetry

by Dave Klaus

All/You/I

不给我一个间距
don't tell me a story
don't serve me pie in the sky

tell me the truth

the dark parts
硬盘部分
the parts that don't want to be told, the parts that hide from the sun
(toothy little things, hungry for blood, hungry for love, hungry, hungry…)

tell me the sad parts, the parts where you're afraid, really afraid. Trapped in Amber.

tell me the parts when you gave up, just gave up,
because you were tired, and it was too much

你想的部件是不同的

I want to see the shadows.

I want to see them, bold and stretchy, looming and translucent.

反式/朗讯

because behind those shadows is a shining light
and though I can't look straight at it (like the sun, you know)

我知道你

我觉得圣光照耀通过

我觉得它那里,它温暖了我,我很安全,
and it adds to my light:

with your light my shadows

fade,

了一下,

flickering,

沉思。

我想看到的阴影,因为在他们里面我看到了你的休息,

inside them I see the All of you.

inside them

I/All/you.

I have no exit strategy, no plan for the door, no escape route in mind

我在这里。 与你。

我没有理由怀疑,
no reasonable doubt
(well a few, maybe; a few, more than that; ok yeah, I got doubts)

但毫无疑问,我/你可以拿着我/你得到了,

because I/you am large and I/you contain multitudes

I/You

I have a willingness to suspend disbelief, a willingness to be-lieve

我有信心,踹水超过50,000噚,

head above it, mostly,

but not always, sometimes under

we will tread together and I'll brush the wet hair from your eyes.

And when its time I'll mop your brow,
and I will sit with you,

just sit,

和握住你的手,

I/you.

only so many breaths.

只有这么多。

so don't give me a pitch.
and don't tell me a story.
and don't serve me pie in the sky.

我想在座的各位。

I/All/you

所有

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Dave Klaus completed the New Warrior Training Adventure in June 2010 in the NorCal Center, and things have gotten better and better for him ever since. He is a senior supervisor in the Alameda County Public Defenders Office, where over the last 17 years he has represented thousands of clients in cases ranging from petty theft to special circumstance murder. He is married and has two awesome kids. 在业余时间,他领导着一个大的火人营地( www.bEEcHARGE.com ),并启动一个先进集体。 This is his first completed poem.

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Healing from wounds

Category: Poetry

by Michael Kullik

Healing from wounds

Wounded Child

Crying in Corner

几年间失去了

Crying out Silently
No One Comes
No One Hears

沉默的监狱
Surrounds Me,
Into an Early Grave.

How do I start
呼吸一次?
Am I Someone's Slave?

A Wounded Child
grows, As Does
一个受伤的人。

The Wound Becomes My Sword.
Like Tempered Steel,
I am strong again, Oh my Lord.

一个受伤的人坐在
Crying Lost
Within his Years.

Silence at last was Broken
破碎的伤口转身
Into a River of Tears.

A Sword of Anger Broke me out,
As I Yelled
Screamed and Roared.

The Prison wasn't
Mine at Last
It Was Yours.

迈克尔Kullik是一名教师,教授,歌手,出版诗人。 He was first published in 2000 in a book edited by Jill Kuhn called “In Cabin Six”. 他经营的写作和击鼓工作坊和务虚的abuse.He男性幸存者也自告奋勇他的时间运行一组幸存者1999至2004年。
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Dallas Chief Eagle – Lakota on the ManKind Project

“MKP has proven to be our most effective allies in eradicating genocide since the Cheyenne were to the Lakota 150 years ago.” ~ Dallas Chief Eagle

Dallas Chief Eagle

Dallas Chief Eagle

兄弟,

Dallas Chief Eagle blessed us at the Gathering last week.

He declared that after 100 years of no allies, the Lakota now have allies.

We, the men of the (Central Plains) ManKind Project, are those allies.

When he shared that with the circle, I felt as if the roof split open, a beam of light filled the room, and hearts were opened wide. A shift in the Universe occurred.

After a century of no allies, now there are allies.

I encourage each of us to look into Dallas' deep insight. What does this word, ALLIES, mean for you?
Who are your allies? What alliances do you/we need to make?

How might our worlds shift if we saw the world in this way – a world of potential allies and alliances?

I know I will never be the same.

Gratitude to Dallas for speaking his truth.

Gratitude to Steve Ramm for calling this Gathering of the Central Plains so we can connect in common cause through the power of the circle.

Checking in humbled and deeply honored to be a part of this magnificent community of men,

Dan Pecaut

Member of the Mankind Project

EDITOR'S NOTE:

There is a growing community of New Warrior Lakota men on the Pine Ridge Reservation who are now holding the intention of bringing the NWTA to Pine Ridge. MKP Colorado, MKP Central Plains, and the ManKind Project USA, through the MKP USA Diversity Scholarship Fund , have provided financial and logistical support to help Lakota men attend the NWTA.

For more information about the role of men's community on the reservation, see this story: Native Sun News: The Men's Oyate – Going from pain to healing

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Mission: Just say Yes.

by Stephen Simmer

An MIT linguistics professor was lecturing his class. “In English,” he said, “a double negative forms a positive. However, in some languages, such as Russian, a double negative remains a negative. But there isn't a single language, not one, in which a double positive can express a negative.” A voice from the back of the room piped up, “Yeah, right.”

I spend a good portion of my life fortified behind a wall of Nos, sticking out from my soul like quills from a porcupine. Even if I don't speak them, people can sense the Nos bristling from me when I walk into a room. No, I'm too busy. No, I don't see a clear benefit to that. No, that doesn't line up exactly enough with my values. No, I don't want to get too depleted. No, I'm not the right man for that. No, he would probably use the dollar to buy crack. No, I would probably fuck that up if I tried it. No, if I help she'll only want more.

As I walk down the street, running the gauntlet of all those who represent the needs of the world, I can sense that these quills have two points. One wards others off, defends me from the risk of Yes. The other point presses into my soul, tightening me, scarring me, shriveling me. I may use my kids and family as my excuse—I'll save my life energy for those in my immediate circle, those I love. But my painful truth is, my quills of No bristle at home, too. No, I can't make the game. No, you can't stay up late. No, I can't love you the way you want to be loved. No, I can't be fully present for you.

Years ago, Nancy Reagan started her famous Just Say No campaign to drugs. In this, I've overachieved—I've learned to Just Say No by default to nearly everything: insurance salesmen, telemarketers, yes. But also needy street people, my dogs, unfamiliar options, my kids, friends, new experiences, even my partner Rebecca. I walk through life a shriveled Scrooge clutching my life-energy parsimoniously, doling it out carefully by the penny, and then regretting that I gave any away at all.

The result is that I live life moving backwards, my path determined more by what I refuse or avoid than what I affirm. The job I stay in is more determined by the possibilities I have refuted and rejected than what I have passionately chosen. The assembly of relationships I end up with is the consequence more of chance than choice, as if we have each backed into this corner together by accident. I amputate possibilities so routinely that I end up where I am, in a partial life that I haven't chosen with intention.

I'm not talking here about the conscious, passionate, powerful No that I may use like a sword. This passionate No can be an indispensable part of a powerful Yes—more about that later. Here I'm talking about the No-program that boots up almost automatically when I open my eyes in the morning and runs in the background of my life all day. I'm talking about the No that is the vestige of my fear, shame, and inadequacy, that keeps me closed to anything new, that stops me from leaving home, that pinches off possibility, that stops me from striding towards risk, that isolates me from the world. I'm talking about the No that—in the name of safety—is the silent killer that stops me from living and loving passionately.

A yes-program is not the answer. In my opinion, this can be as toxic as the reflex no. Yes, I'll do the job. Yes, I'll fund-raise for the team, I'll help you move the piano, I'll co-chair the committee, I'll re-sod the lawn, I'll help you move the fieldstones. I become a yes-man, where the Yes is perfunctory, and I never truly decide where to put my energies. Then I get spread so thin that I don't follow through, don't show up completely, or leave the job unfinished. Or I take on so much that I become the lead sled dog, carrying the full weight, including the weight of the other dogs. I don't trust that others might help, might sometimes carry me. Or I place a bet on every horse in the race, so I never really lose, but never really win. As a result, there is no form to my character—no one really knows who I am or what I want. And I may not know who I am or what I want, either.

My mission is a powerful sword that has always been buried in the stone of who I am.

In the Arthur story, the sword comes out easily, with the flick of the wrist. But for some, (and I count myself among these) extracting the sword of mission is a slow process, needing a lot of patient work and ingenuity. Some of the alchemists spent their whole lives trying to extract precious metals from the dark matter, using thousands of different processes. But—fast or slow—if I can pull this sword out, my life suddenly has a point and I'm living on the cutting edge.

Forming a mission and living it means saying Yes—consciously, passionately, with commitment. I know my purpose, and can stride towards it.

Thich Nhat Hanh says that when an enlightened person looks at flowers, he will also see through the flowers to the garbage that the flowers will become. And when he looks at garbage, he looks through the garbage to the flowers that might eventually grow from this waste. The sword has 2 edges. In living mission, I say a joyous and passionate Yes. But at the same time I say No in a way that defines me. The sword is the point of convergence of this Yes and No, and in the end, mysteriously, these two are the same, so that when I shout Yes, the echo comes back No, and when I shout No, the echo is an unmistakable Yes.

Stephen Simmer

Steve Simmer, for those of us privileged to know him, lives his life in the midst of the constant stream and theme of mission. 适当的是,他的正式使命陈述的是,他的职业是心理治疗师“,鼓励男性与我有勇气做的一切,他们可以和将所有他们能做的。创造一个自由的世界”,他不断的给激发人积极寻找并参与在这个世界上自己的使命。 煨博士完成了新战士训练的冒险早在2001年,由于从来没有同一个男人。
To learn more about Steve and his work you can visit his website

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Men: From the Inside

Guest post: by Garry Gilfoy

I was recently asked to deliver professional development to some therapists on the topic of 'men's issues.' I left my son's football game to do so and found a gathering of about 60 people. The ten or so men attending were sitting on the periphery of the room.

我热起来读一首诗叫雨不知从何处被穆雷哈廷。 它讲述了一个男人与一个年轻的家庭。 我们抓到他,他打算结束自己的生命的那一天。 经过多年的干旱,他看不出有任何的方式来留住家庭农场。 就在同一天,他收到来自他的父亲告诉艰难的时刻,他已经对农场,有多么重要它是挂在那里,他的妻子和孩子对他的一封信。 一切都会好起来,保证了他的父亲。 这是一个令人心碎的诗句。 没有眼泪滚滚而下我的脸,我不能读它。 整个房间哭了我。 当我再一次由我自己,我问究竟是什么了感动他们的诗句。 那是,可以预见,在父子关系。

于是我就问大家简要考虑一些的话,他们会用来形容神。 然后,要考虑他们的父亲同样的问题。

我还没来得及去,一颗璀璨的火花开了口说神的描述和他们的父亲都是一样的。 其他人附和他们的同意。 一些扢女性接近前说了一些可爱的话,如“无条件的爱”,“接受”和“支持”我感谢这些妇女,提出了我的眼睛看向远方,说:“人”走出这倒 - “。?遥远,愤怒,不存在,判断“。对比是鲜明的。

我一直要求发言,以该组部分原因是因为我训练的治疗师自己,但也因为我共同主持定期的男人的周末。 他们是强大的事件 - 不喝酒或吸毒,没有专家讲下来的人,没有任何的理论,没有治疗,也没有倾诉的人。 我们开诚布公地对我们自己的生活经验发言。 我们欢迎沉默。 眼泪和欢笑都连声道谢。 在几个小时内,拥抱是家常便饭。 在周末结束时,我们做的肯定仪式上,我们每个人要说什么是我们看重对别人。 这是所有的最难的事情 - 被确认为我们带来给他人。

当这些事件开始,我们认为这是我们的责任,创建主题,引导周末。 我们不必打扰。 不管是什么,我们认为可能是有益的 - 关系,我们的工作生活,改变角色 - 一次又一次的话题回到了父子关系。

而且有些事情我发现这些年来重温这悲伤的取之不尽,用之不竭的井。 一次又一次,我被深深地受到这些勇敢的男人谁愿意说哭的,他们往往以前从来没有见过的人面前情绪。 我自己的父亲,早就死了,是在情感上最好的分离。 然而,他是不是暴力,不是不负责任,不酗酒,也没有情感虐待。 关于父亲的许多谈话是不是真的适合我,但他们发现了一个很深刻的共鸣之内我。 我开始认识到这一点,我们如何感受的原型。 这些故事去比此生我们的个人关系,我们的父亲更深。

There is a very profound father-son archetype that lies at the root of our relationship to our own God, or higher self, or whatever you deem to be the part of us that needs desperately to shine but so often cannot. Rather than the popular Jungian struggle for dominance between father and son, I'd suggest the higher archetype can be found in the Biblical phrase, “This is my Beloved Son in whom I am well pleased.” It's about recognition and acceptance. And the damage or neglect that came from our own fathers is reflected strongly in this relationship with our higher self. We know deeply that this is not how it's supposed to be. At some level we experience that great being of light at the core of our own self, and long for its expression in our lives. When we struggle, we do so against the backdrop of unconditional love that we sense awaits us, yet is never quite attainable.

By the end of my talk I felt I had to affirm the many female therapists in the room. They struggle with their male clients, and many with the men in their private lives. I could only applaud them for caring so much and continuing to try. They know men are worth it, whether they see much evidence of this or not. Women are very often the first port of call for men who finally muster the courage to ask for help. Yet, in the end, I think that men need to make meaningful contact with other men. It's only here that we can redeem our Gods and our demons.

Garry Gilfoy was raised in Canada and lives in South Australia. His formal education includes Theology, Education, Social Science (Counseling) and is currently a PhD candidate. Garry trains counselor's, is author of The BIG Picture: Insights from the Spiritual World, contributes to The Huffington Post and co-hosts regular men's weekends. His website is http://www.garrygilfoy.com .
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New Warrior Training Adventure: My first staffing

Category: Men and Initiation

by Gonzalo Salinas

A few weeks ago, I had the chance to participate as staff for the first time on the New Warrior Training Adventure.

I had completed my own weekend in Central Florida in April 2013. I remember the feelings in my heart right before it started. Fear, excitement, anger, happiness, more … every moment was a discovery and I remember going through every emotion I've ever felt in my life.

I had similar feelings on my first staffing. The staff arrives one day before the participants, to prepare the site, get staffing directions, and for a first-time staffer like me, to see the “behind the scenes” of the Weekend. I witnessed the huge amount of work that close to 40 other men were putting in as volunteers to help the men who would be arriving on Friday (often called initiates) have a flawless experience: Men of Service, Elders, the Certified Leader Team, the Lodge team, in general every member from the staff adding his gifts to accomplish the main goal: to offer a group of men what could be one of the most powerful weekends of their lives.

This time I was the one on the other side of the wall. On my weekend I was discovering and living my experience, but this time I was more concerned for every man in front of me going trough their process. Something that I couldn't avoid, almost immediately I began to care profoundly for every man going through the weekend.

lover magician warrior king Talking with one of the elders about why I was feeling my staffing experience in a more heartfelt way than my own initiation, he said to me with a big smile:

“Now you have the privilege of being in service to your brothers.”

One by one, I saw men breaking through. Understanding the importance of accountability in their lives, seeing how every action, no matter how small, has an impact on our families, on our society, and on the world. Seeing how they had set themselves up, and seeing the way through to a new way of being as a man.

At the end of the weekend, driving back to South Florida, with fresh memories of the men going through their process, a thought hit me, and I fully realized what happened on the weekend:

“The cycle has been fully completed,” I thought, “some other men voluntarily did the same thing for me on my weekend, and now I'm doing the same, so other men can realize they are complete, whole men, great men, strong and loving men that can exercise power and compassion, love and accountability in every act. Now they know what I only learned less than a year ago.”

The words of the writer Sam Keen were resonating in my heart:

“A man must go on a quest
to discover the sacred fire
in the sanctuary of his own belly,
to ignite the flame in his heart
to fuel the blaze in the hearth
to rekindle his ardor for the earth”

After arriving in Fort Lauderdale, I went to my girlfriend's house,

“How was your weekend?” she said, excited to see me, giving me the most tender hug.

I hugged her dearly (a long and a very strong hug), and the words came from my heart:

“My love, the cycle has been fully completed.”

She smiled and continued hugging me. Now I can return to the “real world” satisfied that I've witnessed many miracles on the weekend.

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Gonzalo Salinas is the MKP Journal assistant Editor for the ManKind Project USA, a nonprofit mentoring and training organization that offers powerful opportunities for men's personal growth at any stage of life. 萨利纳斯文学研究在秘鲁首都利马的圣马科斯大学,并一直住在美国自2003年以来他住在迈阿密,佛罗里达州,并致力于发展自己的组织和人类工程的消息的传播。

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Man Up – Jonathan Martin, Richie Incognito and the measure of a “Warrior”

痞子 Are you strong?

How do you measure your strength?

What does the idea of Warrior Culture mean to you?

What about within the context of American Football? In my time, I have stood with men I consider Warriors. Men I have met through the Mankind Project and outside of it. Men I consider strong for their trust in me and the people around them, and their ability to stand in vulnerability and be a mirror for my own choices. I love this article for how it speaks to the complexity of what it means to be a man, and a warrior, in today's society.

I found “ Man Up – Declaring a war on warrior culture in the wake of the Miami Dolphins bullying scandal ” via Patton Oswalt's sharing of this article by Brian Phillips with his fans on Facebook. Share what you think in the comments.

http://www.grantland.com/story/_/id/9939308/richie-incognito-jonathan-martin-miami-dolphins-bullying-scandal

Alex Bender was initiated in Santa Barbara, CA in September 2007. He currently lives outside St. Paul, MN with his wife and their menagerie of cats and greyhounds. He sits on the local MKP Board as Vice President and works for growth in personal mission and community leadership.

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Turning Weapons into Instruments

Category: Multicultural , Opinion

Editors note: by Gonzalo Salinas

“I believe that the purpose of Art is to come up with ways to transform the most negative instincts, into creative instincts.” ~ Pedro Reyes, a Mexican artist who came up with the idea of transforming guns into musical instruments in a powerful project called “Disarm”.

In a previous installation, “Shovels for Guns,” the people in Culiacan, a violent city in Mexico, donated weapons and after melting them they created more than 1500 shovels used to reforest the city.

The project you'll see on the video is breathtaking. Faith in Humanity: Restored.

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Gonzalo Salinas is an Assistant Editor for the ManKind Project Journal, a publication of the ManKind Project, a nonprofit mentoring and training organization offering powerful opportunities for men's personal growth at any stage of life. Salinas studied Literature in Lima, Peru at San Marcos University, and has been living in the United States since 2003. He lives in Miami, FL. Salinas is committed to his own personal development, and to spreading the word about the vision and mission of the Mankind Project .

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