詩-私は外傷を知っています

カテゴリー: 男性と影

レ·ゲインズによる

否定の海の中で眠っているかのように、自分の影を嫌悪、
非常に多くのマイルに沿って、私と私の忠実な友人。
私は、フロントドアを越えてステッピングの壊滅的恐怖を知っています。
より良い生活のためにその希望は最高無視放置しました。

私は外傷を知っています。

私が来る疑問を知っています
間違った皆が右のようであるとき、
すべては右間違っているようです。
すべてのアームが、ときに鉱山が強い見えます。

私は何かのように感じるしようとしているの無力を知って、
私の脳は絶叫しながら、私は何もしないことです。

私は外傷を知っています。

ファントム手、サウンド、および香りの侵入
それは危険が非常に切迫した感じさせる時間のギャップを横切ります。
彼らはと呼ばれるているフラッシュバック、
無傷のメモリを歩く人によって。
私はパニックが続くことができるだけでどのくらい知っています。

しかし、私はまた、善と生命の力を知っています
それは戦いの中で最も悪質で兵士を遮蔽します。
私は生き残るために準備ができた手の強さを、知っています。

分かりますか、
私が繁栄する方法を知っています。
心の無限のリソースを検索する方法、
無罪を復元恥のチェーンロックを解除し、
私は取り残さ思いました。

私は自由のための憧れの力を知っています
それは私が私のクロールから立ってなされたものであり、
「自由のために - すべての。」、読んでその玄関マットを捨てます

これは私の人生です!
そして、それは私が変更時間です
その古い虐待ゲームのルール
その正当な場所に私の自己の各断片を復元します。

私は私が誰言いますよ、
愛、人生、そして自由。
私は選択しています。 私はリアルです。
私はここにいる...癒すために勇気をもって。

レゲインズ

PTSDを無効の勝利を獲得した後、レゲインズはヒーラー、コーチ、スピーカー、および小児期の外傷の無効生存者の擁護者としての彼の任務に戻ります。 彼は、認定された形而上学的ヒーラー、およびユダヤ/キリスト教神秘主義、およびシャーマニズムの熱心な学生です。 レは詩、芸術、音楽への愛情を通して癒しとエンパワーメントの彼の旅を共有したいと考えています。 レは、2012年8月に新戦士訓練冒険を完了し、MDにBWOEののigroupの感謝メンバーです。

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負傷LEADERS:書評

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ピーター服地屋によるゲスト記事

傷ついたリーダー:英国エリート主義とエンタイトルメントのイリュージョン 、「ニックDuffellによる。

まず、ここアメリカでは、私たちには無関係である。この本のサブタイトルから、または当社のリーダーシップを想定していません。 これは、重要な関連性が、全く彼のターゲットの特異性を問題ではありません。 ニックDuffellのタイトルは、アメリカで過去数十年を生き抜いたと、アクションまたは、より正確に不作為を私たち自身の負傷の指導者を見たことのある人のための共鳴を持つことになります。 そうは言っ-、我々はこの-彼の中心引数に戻ってくるである英国の寄宿学校教育を受けた支配エリートは自身が無意識のうちに早い年齢で家族から離れて送信された経験が負担持続傷によって支配されていること、彼らは敵対的な外の世界から身を守ることを学ぶする軍国環境に置かれました。

私はこれに話すことができます。 私はDuffellが適切に寄宿学校サバイバーというものです。 練習心理士として、彼は戻って自分の感情的見当識障害および分離から、そのような人々をもたらすように設計され、長年の練習をしています。 私はずっと前に、彼のサービスを使用しますが、この迷路を自分の道を発見しなければならなかったかもしれません。 私は7歳の時に離れて学校に送られた、と私は18歳の時に自由に逃げ時点で、私は顕著ヘッド志向の教育を受けたが、私は多くの場合、感情的な不自由のように記述するもの残っていました。 私は回避し、感情的な不死身のコストがかかり、危険な芸術を学びました。 セブン - または8歳のように、私は何もしますが、私の仲間のボーダーからの攻撃に私を開くことになる感情を抑制するために余裕がなかった:恐怖、怒り、悲しみ、悲しみ、親から分離されているのひどい痛み誰が、彼らはそれが愛され、まだ、家族からの愛の軌跡を追放されたのパラドックスを理解することが困難であったと言っていていても愛している私を保証しました。

私の優れた教育の結果は、私が育ったことがないということでした。 むしろ、それは私がシェルで亀のように生きていると間違って何かがあった実現し、他の三十年前に連れて行ってくれました。 Duffellは、それらを説明するよう寄宿学校の生存者は、彼らは彼らの心から切断残るので、自分の頭に巻き込ま個人を発育を妨げています。 私は、その下の行彼らが熱心に彼らの歪んだに焦点を当てましょうので、英国の支配エリート、寄宿学校とオックスブリッジ教育を受けたが、私たちの二十一世紀の世界でリードする最高に修飾されていないということである彼の深く十分な情報と微妙な引数を、単純化彼らは人間のニーズの全体像を(無敵)不浸透性のままで、国や地球規模の問題の合理的なビジョン。 彼らは自分自身と自分の種類よりも、他の人と共感すること、聞くことができません。 これらは、清廉潔白の独自の感覚の確信によって導かれています。 心の変化を持っているために、質問には、疑うするには脆弱であることがあり、この脆弱性は、彼らが自分自身を許可することができ、世界で最後のものです。 (Duffellの最後の章では、間違いで、特に雄弁とオンターゲットです。)

私はDuffellの議論のより多くの技術的側面を評価することが明らかに修飾されていないと思います。 このリーダーに、彼は印象的知識と最新の脳科学や学術心理学の最新の発見と思われます。 彼は合理主義と批判、抑圧と反乱の相殺社会運動の哲学的発展の幅広い理解した上で描画し、その歴史的な視点で彼の議論をcontextualizes。 私たちの現代的な時代では、彼の手本は、態度や行動に深くアンドあるDuffellのビュー誤っ反動で元首相トニー·ブレア、イギリスの現在の首相デビッドキャメロン、ロンドン市長ボリス·ジョンソン、の同類は、主です。 彼がそれを見ているように、彼らはいじめや無駄な軍事行動と既に特権や富裕層を豊かにし、貧しい人々の継続的な貧困化に貢献する社会的なプログラムに反対し過ぎて自分の道を空威張り。 イングランドは、彼は説明も不思議では怒っている国はありません。

後期の本の中で、Duffellはアメリカの指導者のある特定の簡単な言及を含むこと題するエリートの彼のビジョンを展開し、もちろん、ジョージ·W·ブッシュ、delusory執着のその盲目と無謀な追求は真っ逆さまにイラクとの戦争に私たちを急ぎました。 悲惨な結果は後を絶たない混乱の中で、中東の形で、今日です。 アメリカを見てみると、今日、英国I'dとして確実のような怒っている人の国民がDuffellはエンタイトルメントのイリュージョンは英国のエリート主義に限定されるものではないと呼んでいるものと主張しています。 私たちの指導者たちはまた、負傷の間でカウントされている必要があります。 当社のリーダーシップが彼らに同意しない人から自分自身と自分の領土を守る必要性を越えて成長したことがない男の子の口論によって支配されています。 私たちの政治的な問題はDuffellが彼の国で説明したものと同じである:軍国主義、見当違いや偏見合理主義、貧しい人々や恵まれないための共感の欠如、審問なしに他のビューを拒否清廉潔白を想定、疑問や見直しの怒りの拒否の以前のビューを開催しました。

エンタイトルメントは、私が主張したい、英国のエリートの独占的財産ではありません。 私自身は、それは、より広く、また歴史的な男性の特権、家父長的伝統の要因だと考えています。 女性は不合理として知覚(米国男性のあまりに多くの目には、まだ)であるが、可能な実用的な事象の制御では、合理的な人間としての男性を見ている私たちの文化の中で永続的な神話は感情ではなく、理由によって導かれ、そこにあります、したがって、指導的な立場ではあまり有能。 Duffellはミドルパス、どちらの理由も感情を最小化するために情熱的に主張しているが、思いやりと共感と感情的な商、心と頭は、その理由と知能指数のバランスをとります。 私は種として、我々はそのバランスを見つけることができない限り、私たちは先に危険な時代のためにあることを、彼に同意します。 彼の本は、基本的な方法で「私たちの心を変更する」、と心の強力な-で実用的な、知恵に自分自身を開く必要のタイムリーで重要な思い出させてくれます。 私は心からこの本は、彼が書き込むの母国を超えて読者を見つけることを願っています。 その洞察が深く、地球全体で、どこでも必要とされています。

英国紳士男性のセクシュアリティについてのピーター洋服店の今後の小説のために見て、「巡礼者のスタッフ "(ペニスの古い婉曲表現。)これは、2人の語り手によって語らだ、現代的な図形の画家、と18世紀。 フランクセックスシーンと営利目的の粗悪な作品の興奮! ピーターは1994 NWTAで、一回のアクティブ儀式エルダー、よく知られた芸術ライターを開始します。 最新の著書、「ルッキング·スロー:アートに見るのアートは、「熟考と瞑想の値を探ります。 ピーターで彼を書くために自由に感じclothier@mac.com

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男性のサークル

カテゴリー: 男性とリーダーシップ

レ·ゲインズによる

私は男性の円に座っ
内の移動する準備ができている人、
その目は、変装したダイヤモンドのよう切り開きます
そしてその体決意を持って構えています。

妥協したくありません、
ホーニング装置として巧妙な心を使用して、
兄弟はに耳を傾けます。
影と疑問のうめき声とうめき声のため
その全くの、「私はより少ないです。」

男性のこのサークルでは、
我々は前に見てきた希望の痕跡を見つけ、
子供の頃のドアの後ろに隠れて
痛みを喚起我々が探求しなければなりません。

そして、その旅で私たちは人生の使命を見つけます
許可を求めることなく、我々が誰であるかであることを。
善良な人たちがいつもやっていることを行うには、
であることをいとわない「One。」

男性のこのサークルでは、
戦士は機会に上昇し、
彼が作った世界を見るために
それを変更するには彼の力を主張しています。

ここではドラム上に打つ手、
そして、男性のうなり声は、私たちの歌を形成し、
四方、天と地を呼び出します
と祖先の肩に私たちは私たちの仕事を取ります。

男性のこのサークルでは、
鋼に鉱石をオンにする力があり、
妨げるあらゆる幻想を溶解します
実数で生活をして。

男性のこのサークルでは、
真実は、突起にあり
男は彼自身の黄金の反射を検出したときと癒しの。

レゲインズ

PTSDを無効の勝利を獲得した後、レゲインズはヒーラー、コーチ、スピーカー、および小児期の外傷の無効生存者の擁護者としての彼の任務に戻ります。 彼は、認定された形而上学的ヒーラー、およびユダヤ/キリスト教神秘主義、およびシャーマニズムの熱心な学生です。 レは詩、芸術、音楽への愛情を通して癒しとエンパワーメントの彼の旅を共有したいと考えています。 レは、2012年8月に新戦士訓練冒険を完了し、MDにBWOEののigroupの感謝メンバーです。

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基本的な善のライジング-グローバル社会における実施例

カテゴリ:

コーリング二カラスによる

まず、私たちの自我の自己を厳しく見ていました
私たちは愛、仕事と平和な世界に何を望むかの私たちの気持ちを話します
その何私たちのダイアドで、私たちの瞑想で発見
内訳ではそれほど頻繁にあったために、私たちは、憧れ
「ストール」起きていません。

私たちは錯覚、詐欺に住んでいる、私たち自身の自己破壊行為を見て、
微妙な消費者や家族に巻き込ま、他人を非難
ドラマ。 偽造の私達のリスト、ホームヒット繭特性
として延々と落胆。 私たちのために、それほど頻繁に「格好良いです」
ただ善さ​​れかけて獲得しました。

座って、私たちは私たち自身の「乱雑」と深く接続しました
私達は私達の生命の風の馬になる前に、当社のカートを置いていました。
私たちは、仏の最後の言葉から住んでいませんでした
「自分かれランプう」

どのような良い幸運ダルマは、我々の疑い、恐れを克服し、
臆病。 私たちは、はるかに強力なエネルギーによって救出されました
と支配的な文化の繰り返しのストーリーラインよりも広大な。

私たちの練習は、私たちの意志を先鋭化し、私たちの心を拡大しました。
私たちの先生は、私たちは私たちに真実と愛を-breathing触発しました。

ある日、あなたは最終的に完全かつ深い「YES」と述べました
あなたは、あなた自身の心にささやきました。 "OK。 私はあることの疲れ
病気とすべての私の心を持った半対策の疲れ。」

あなたは、あなたの心と心を語りました。 "私はそれをすべて取るために準備ができています」。

私は私の中に社会の痛みと心痛を取る準備ができています
自身の入札、広大な、広々としたハート。

そして、あなたは歴史の壮大なステージの前に進み出
あなたはリルケは結局正しかった詩人を実現しました:

「どのような質問、愛が答えです。 "

飢餓は、粒腐敗しながら、アフリカ、中東に広がります
私たちの中西部の穀物貯蔵準備金の。 より多くの愛が必要。 37,000
乳幼児の死亡汚染された水からの毎日。 私の愛の詳細が必要。

母親とシリアの幼児の表面上は無限死亡。
より多くの愛が必要。 子供のためのきれいな水? 私からより多くの愛。
人身売買や奴隷の恐怖を壊しますか?
私からより多くの愛。

私たちは風に身を乗り出しました。 嵐の中へ。 暗闇の中に
私たちの現在の年齢の。 私たちは、善の進歩に喜びました。

私たちは、ダルマは、私たちの盾、私たちの剣がわかりました。 私たちのライト。
私たちは、骨の中に感じた「これは私のmoment.Thisが私たちの瞬間です。」

それで各呼吸で、私たちは痛みに広い心を開いて
そしてこの世界の苦しみ。

時間の経過とともに行動の私達の分野はますます拡大しました。 神聖な戦士
基本的な善の我々の側に現れました。 私たちは、ワンネスになりました。

一緒に私の兄弟姉妹
我々は、この広大な世界を横切って出て行きます
風に肥沃な種子
啓発協会が可能となります。
シャンバラ! シャンバラ!

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カテゴリ: 回顧録男性とセックスレビュー

エドモンド·マニングによって

どのような権利によって白人は黒人男性の話をするのですか? その男の闘争、彼が直面している生涯の課題、白中心の文化に住んでいるの苦難を説明して?

私はこの質問を何度も自分自身を求めています。

9月には、私の「行方不明王のシリーズの3番目の本は、バタフライキングが掲載されました。 前提は、それぞれの本の中で同じである:ゲイ、中西部の自動車修理工は、一緒に週末を過ごすために、他の人を招待します。 彼は「約束...あなたはすべての単一の方法で提出した場合、私はあなたの王権を思い出すのに役立ちます。 私はあなたが常にあることを意味していた男を思い出すのに役立つでしょう。」

聞き覚え?

それはNWTAの週末の転訛です。 まあ、ちょっと。 そこには所属は絶対にしないか、新規にMKPの言及します。 巧み「LKP。」いや、名前を変更架空の組織はありません。 いいえクロスオーバー活動はありません。 なし。 自動車修理工のナレーターは、それぞれの人が彼のユニークな天才を発見するのに役立ち体験を作成するために、ジョセフ·キャンベルと男性的なアーキタイプに依存しています。 おとぎ話の物語、感情的な操作、およびマン·オン·マンのセックスの健全なスクープと組み合わせることで、これらの書籍は、その革新的な男性的な精神を見て、すべての人が王である可能性のために注目されています。

私は男性の異なる種類について書くに喜んでました。 父若くして死んだ(最初の本、キング·ペリー)のマニュアルに生涯結果、愛とどのようにくだらない彼に裏切られて感じている怒っている男:私の背の高い物語は人の力、彼らの苦境を含んでいる男性の美しさを、祝います人生は(第2本、キング舞)が判明し、最も最近の本は、私の第三は、彼の家族の世話をするために彼自身の未来を犠牲にニューヨーク市で黒人男性を扱っています。

バタフライキング。

しかし、どのような権利によって白人は黒人男性の話をするのですか?

右はありません。

私は好奇心旺盛で困難な立場に自分自身を見つけます。 私が興味深い人々と魅力的な生活について書きたいです。 それは私が推測する、作家は何をすべきかです。 しかし、どのように色の男の頭の中に取得するためのペースト状ホワイト、中流階級の人の試みをあえて? 私はおそらく彼が育っおよび成人期を通して経験した偏見の状況を知ることができません。 それは共感を描写する私の試みは、恩着せが病気な情報、および横柄として出くわす非常に可能性があります。 私はこのことを心配します。 それは夜に私を覚醒し続けます。

好奇心の並列は私の小説のジャンルに存在します。

今のところ、男性の愛ある男性について書かれた本のほとんどは異性愛者の女性によって書かれています。 私は冗談ではありませんよ。 彼らは、作家と読者の両方の市場の最大のシェアを構成しています。 いくつかは、より良い受け入れのための男の名前を採用しているか、自分の身元を隠すために、バックラッシュを恐れて。 ほとんどがオープンし、その書き込みの腕前を誇りに思っています。 実際には、ゲイの男性は現在、女性はそう、このフィールドを支配し、自分の好みは、業界の伝統になっていることが困難な彼らの物語 - 正直なツーゲイであること - 男性を愛する - 男性のための物語を、公開することを見つけます。 ゲイの男性は、公開された取得するか、疎外され、これらの業界標準に準拠する必要があります。

ハァッ。

議論がブロゴスフィアに年3回以上をアップします。 どのような権利によって女性がでステップやゲイの男性の話をしますか? どんな権利ましたか? 彼らはあっても右のジャンクを持っていない、ゲイバッシング、同性愛スラー、と地獄を経験しません。

それなのに、彼らは記しています。 彼らはあえて。

理由は私を魅了します。 彼らはと呼ばれる感じ。 物語は愛についてであるからです。 それはそれらの既知の世界では、男女の関係について書くよりも面白いので。 これらの女性の中には、ゲイの子供たちは、ゲイの友人、ゲイのガレージ力学を持っており、彼らが世界をより安全、より受け入れるようにしたいです。 どのような彼らの理由から、彼らはあえて。

これ大好き。 彼らはあえて。

我々はまた、あえてしないでください?

MKPの男性として、私たちは自分自身とは異なる人を愛することを敢えてしないのですか? 我々は、異なる色の、様々な年齢の人を愛するように私たちの快適なスキンの外にステップしないでください? 彼らは失われた結婚の上に泣かないよう共和党時々クレードル民主党のですか? あなたはそれがその人の王権を尊重するのにかかるものは何でもやって、いくつかのグラノーラ、ヒッピーリーダー愛の若い企業のやり手を見ていませんか? 私はあなたが知っています。

私も、それを見てきました。

それはそうするために私たちの権利ですので、私たちはお互いの生活の中で干渉しません。 私たちは兄弟のように、男性のようにお互いを愛することを敢えてので、我々はそれを行います。

私は完全にこの本を研究しました。 私は2000年代を通じて、1950年代からニューヨークへとから民族の移行をシフトについて読みます。 私はレースについての本を読みました。 私は黒の文字を書き込もうと白の作家についての記事を読みます。 私は、支配的な文化とどのように狡猾な、排他的な方法で現れるブラインドスポットについてのブログを読んでください。 私はこの研究を行なったうれしいが、それのどれも私に書き込むための権利を付与するものではありません。

しかし、私はあえて。

私は色の人を愛しているので、私は色の男性について書きます。 私は、彼らは私に自分の腕の中で泣いていると。 私たちは悲しい物語を告げたし、互いの男性の癒しを感じました。 スタッフの週末に、私たちはお互いの汗と涙を拭いていると、確かに多くの頑丈なリフレッシュバックカーペットにはないに行きました。 次の悲しい物語を負担することがより容易。

当社は、これらの物語、常に通知する私たちではないストーリーを伝えることでお互いを祝います。

私のI-グループがその夜は私の出てくる話を共有することであった私の仕事を決めたとき、私はずっと前に夜を覚えています。 私は肩をすくめました。 私はそれが原因となっている生涯estrangementsを訴えていたが、私はそれが本当に関連していないと感じました。 二十年以上前に起こりました。 私は同性愛者だった両親を伝える経験を語ったように、私のグループでストレートの男性の二人は泣きました。 別の男性は「私に聞くあなたにこれを繰り返します。」と述べました。

私は彼の口から来て自分の話を聞いたとき、私はsurprise-は悲しかった、ストーリー-surpriseので、自分自身を叫びました。 彼は間違っていくつかの詳細を繰り返しているが、彼は聞いて、物語の精神を光栄。 どうやら私は悲しみを認識するために他の誰かからそれを聞いていました。
私はこの最新の小説について考えるとき、私は大きなプロジェクトをしようとしているとき、私たちのほとんどのように、私は時々性交、ので、私はいくつかの場所でめちゃくちゃ確信しています。 それは私約話です。 ここで私はMKPと協力して学習した別の話です:私は途方もなく大胆、また栄光と私は小説を入力したとき、私は私の指先から発泡性、輝く愛を放射します。 私はどのようにゴージャス明らかにする力を持って、美しい男性はどのようにすることができます。

私は私たちを祝います。

だから、私はあえて。

バタフライキング

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私の「すること」リストに取り組んで

MKP USAミッションサークルコーディネーター-スティーブン煮ることにより、

私はそれらをスキャンし、電子メールを読んでいません。 減速や思想に完全に存在滞在のアイデアは、私にとって非常に外国の、非常に困難です。 あなたが私に似ている場合、あなたは、この電子メールを介して急いで煮るが作っているポイントをつかむために、可能な将来の使用のために、意味の銀行に預金し、次に移動を通知、今、永続的な声に気づくかもしれません電子メールは受信トレイに待機しています。 あなたが私に似ている場合は、今、あなたは "私はそれを得た"、自分自身に言って、あなたが取得する必要がありそれ以上はありますかどうかを確認するために次の段落を取得する語句や文章の上にハードリングしています。 あなたが私に似ている場合、あなたは価値の物事のカップルのための店を略奪しているかのようにあなたが必要な意味を略奪、読んでいません。

また、私は、私はたぶん気に私の人生の多くの部分とその方法だと承知しています。 私はの速さの方法のうち歩行を得るために、私の犬と道を急いで、私は私が移動することができますので、彼女がポイントになります望んで、イライラ妻に耳を傾け、半分に私の子供に耳を聞きます私はので、私はまた介して急いですることができますいくつかの他のタスクに取得することができます。

私は任務により作業を考えるとき、きっぱりと言う私の中で声があり、「私はこれ以上をする時間がありません。「コンベヤベルトは、すでにあまりにも高速です。 私は、仕事ゴミを袋、ガレージに戻ってエアコンのラグ、パティオのための石を注文、処方箋をピックアップする必要があります。 ミッション? 多分私は私の息子のサッカーの試合の間にいくつかの世界的に変換火曜日のスケジュールを設定してハンバーガーを焼くことができます。 私はそこにそれを挟むことができない場合、私はそれを次の寿命、またはそれ以降のものになるでしょう。 私の使命は、徐々に私が残して何を、私のO-使命となります。

これは、すべて間違っています。 私は、ミッションステートメントは、ビジョンとアクションを持っていたことを何年も前に私の訓練に教えられました。 アクション:私は私の無限のto-doリストに別のタスクとしてそれを見ました。 しかし、どのようなミッションが仕事ではない場合は? 何それは本当に存在なら? それは壮大で、あまり行うには課題は何か? それが意味する場合は何をして、減速この普通、素晴らしい瞬間に完全に存在することがコミット? ミッションが意味する場合、私は自分が人間であることをコミットすることを-ることではなく、人間の行う-INGは何? 忙しいらしさは本当に重要なものの回避の症状はどのようなものですか?

ゲームが遅くなるとき選手は特別な時代の話を、多分使命はモーメントが重大になるように人生を減速へのコミットメントについては本当にです。 これらは、ミハイCsikszentmihalyが識別されたフローの瞬間です。 学校外で私の息子とのこの貴重な瞬間私たちが歩いて、彼は静かに私の手を取ります。 CVSの店員とのこの出会い。 雨の中で私の犬との散歩これは、私達の両方が道をリードし、私の前に彼はおそらくいくつかの手順、死にます。 私は私のto-doリストを捨てるとする-なるリストを始めています。 ドアに答え、待っている訪問者を歓迎する:そして、何私には衝撃的なことは、リスト上の一つだけが存在することです。

Stephen Simmer

スティーブ煮るには、彼を知っている特権たちのもののために、一定の流れとミッションのテーマの中で彼の人生を生きます。 適切なことに、彼の正式なミッション·ステートメントの1は、彼が「彼らがすることができ、彼らが行うことができるすべてであることが、そのすべてを行うには、私の勇気を持つ男性を奨励することにより、自由な世界を作成します。」ということである職業心理、彼はに連続的に動作します積極的に検索し、この世界では、自分の使命に従事する男たちを鼓舞。 博士煮るは2001年に戻って新たな戦士訓練冒険を完了し、以来、同じ人間ではありませんでした。
スティーブと彼の仕事についての詳細を学ぶためにあなたが彼の訪問することができ、ウェブサイトを

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私の詩310:会議の知恵

私の詩310:会議の知恵

シャーマンは、これらのノイズを知っています...
彼らは、時には狩りを邪魔...彼ら
時には狩りの結果です...
あなたは、シャーマンが保たれており、参照してください。
彼のルーツに、シャーマンが好きではありません
リードフルート、から切断されました
その根、その探査があります
壊れた心の哀歌
これはシャーマンが知っているが、彼
また癒さ心を知っています...
アイシーgragsを知っていて、影に
バレスは...曲の知っているになってきて...
音符間の空隙の間
撮影した息の間の歌詞、
で、そこに...追放息
彼は知恵の知っている見つけました...
そこに、彼は彼女の...母ソフィアは満たしています

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補遺のI54:オスカー·ワイルドは言いました、

"ああ! あなたは私と一緒に同意言ってはいけません。 いつ
人々は、私はいつも私が間違っている必要があることを感じて私と一緒に同意します。」

私たちの詩を持っていますか
皆を喜ばせるために?
私たちが持っていますか
挑発的なことする責任?

うん! MEN!
私たちはその責任があります!

もちろん! 我々は、責任を持っています!
ワイルドはそれを言いました! ワイルドはそれを住んでいました!
私たちの「近代的な」状況がそれを要求します...
どのように我々はできませんでした...しかし、別のヒトラーを招待します...

ガイアは、母なる地球はそれを要求しています!
大規模な嵐の後の作成嵐
私たちの経験を超えて...

私はそれを要求しています! ...の
私ブラザーズ&シスターズの私!

コー​​ルが行われました! それは国際的です!
草が呼び出し、根ざしたが時に歩きました...
呼び出し空気中に戻って湧き...
やはりCALLING ...あらゆる社会...すべてのハート
母と母親はどこでも呼んでいます...
父親はあなたの意識から戦争をドロップします。
それはそれは未来を生むない...何の未来がありません...

しかし...それ自体!
と土の地獄は結果であり、...
何度も...何度も何度も...

MEN! 何よりの証拠がそのgoriestよりも描かれる必要があります
栄光の20世紀...?

私たちは「T見ることができるものですMEN ...
ALLこの光の中で??? !!!

Wali Qutbuddin Loren Ruh Smith
August 6, 2014

Qutbuddin Loren Ruh Smith: I'm 75 years old, born in Tacoma, WA and went to high school in Arcata, CA. I served in the US Army, met my first wife and had our first son in France. I started writing poetry in my first college English class in 1961. I've published a book called The Path to The Beloved and I have several books ready to publish. I lived in the Sierras in Grass Valley for 30 years before moving to Albuquerque, NM, in 2012. My book about fathers and sons called This Child and His Tree will be going to the publishers shortly.

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BOYHOOD: Not Exactly a Film Review

GUEST POST: by Peter Clothier

Originally published at the Buddha Diaries

(for Luka, a bit later in his life)

I woke this morning thinking about Barack Obama, and how perfectly he fits the model of manhood proposed by Rudyard Kipling in his unjustly maligned and frequently parodied poem “If.” In case you don't remember it, here's how it starts out:

If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or being lied about, don't deal in lies,
Or being hated, don't give way to hating,
And yet don't look too good, nor talk too wise…

Doesn't that sound like Obama?

First, though, Boyhood, which provoked these thoughts. We finally got to see this beautiful and profoundly moving film last night. I loved the twelve-year journey of these skillful and committed actors, playing out the emotional development of fictional characters engaged in a fictional narrative as they themselves physically aged. I loved the “truth” of the story itself, of a family struggling with the realities of life—the failed and failing marriages, the financial woes, the abuse of alcohol and drugs, sibling love and feuding, school and the relationships with classmates, the pain of the teenage years, and so on. All along, start to finish, the story had the convincing “feel” of life as most of us experience it.

And the film is true to its title. It is about boyhood. Even at the end, the young boy, Mason, whose life we have been following from elementary school to college has not yet emerged fully into manhood. The last shot shows him, literally high in the beautiful natural surroundings of the mountains, and high on the mushroom fed him by his brand new college roommate. With a lovely young woman at his side—they sit still shyly side by side and not in some false, premature embrace—he gazes out in ecstasy into the landscape as though into a future filled with allure. But it is abundantly clear that he is still a boy. Boyhood still glows in his face; he's all promise, no completion.

Which should not surprise us. He had no models of real manhood as he was growing up. Mason's biological father is a charming rogue in his early years, unable to accept the responsibilities of marriage, job, and family. The subsequent relationships his mother forms are with men whose manhood is as questionable as his father's: a smooth academic whose insecurities lead him to drunken tyranny; a former military man whose immaturity is revealed in his insensitivity and inflexibility. With one notable exception—a photography teacher who attempts to move our Mason beyond his obstinate, lethargic adolescence—the strong, mature figures who surround the growing boy are women. The men are simply grown-up little boys.

Which leads me to reflect, beyond the parameters of the movie, upon this question: what are the qualities of manhood? We find what I think of as a real man all too infrequently in our contemporary world. We are surrounded everywhere by ungrown men: the drunks, the abusers, the workaholics; priests and teachers who take advantage of their positions of trust and exploit the vulnerabilities of children; lovers who take what they need and reject responsibility; politicians who lack the spine to govern and capitulate too easily to those who would manipulate them; gun-toting idiots who insist so stridently on their “rights” and are quick to spurn the rights of others; sports heroes pumped up with illicit drugs and phony testosterone; spoiled cultural idols, many of them scarcely more than teenagers.

Too often, the models of manhood we are offered are characterized by a false notion of strength. To return to the President and his current predicament, surrounded as he is by well-meaning progressives to the left and fanatics blinded by their own rectitude on the right, all nipping at his heels and demanding displays of strength. They fail to understand that the qualities of true strength are not intellectual inflexibility and rash, foolhardy action (the former President and his enablers come inevitably to mind) but the maturity to step back and take the longer view, the wisdom to listen and, when necessary, to change. Even to bend. That too is strength. They have not learned the ancient lesson of the oak tree and the reed .

The qualities of manhood, in my view, are these: integrity, a sense of mission, a devotion to service. We know how to teach these qualities. We do it with our military men in boot camp (women, too, these days, of course, but I'm concerned here with men.) While I'm not a fan of militarism in any form, I'll concede that in most cases even this crass form of initiation can produce admirable men—men who have not only strength and skills, but a sense of purpose greater than themselves. Our armed forces are worthy of the respect that they receive. What turns boys to men is this kind of ritualized initiation—a process that's significantly lacking in the development of the youngster who's portrayed in “Boyhood,” as it is to the majority of us today. Of myself, if I'm to be honest, I must acknowledge that I reached some measure of manhood only in my fifties. For genuine initiation in our culture we have substituted such tepid rituals as Christian confirmations and bar mitvahs.

They don't do the trick. In traditional cultures, the transition was a far more dangerous journey, involving genuine threat to life and limb as boys were sent out into wilderness or jungle to temper the vulnerability and fearfulness of boyhood into the steel they would need to function as a man. We in the modern Western world have no wild animals to deal with, unless we count those within. We forget that these are powerful enough to rule our lives if we don't learn to acknowledge and confront them. The early myth of initiation for us is the ordeal of the knight apprentice, who rides out into the forest to test his mettle against the dark knight—or the dragon—and returns prepared to serve his queen.

What is integrity? In simple terms, it is the fortitude to say fearlessly exactly what I mean, and do exactly what I say. Which implies, of course, a clear vision about who I am and what I am given to do. If I'm in doubt or confusion, I lack resolve. I dither. The answer lies not in denying doubt and confusion—they are a part of being human. No one escapes them. In denying them I risk precipitous and futile action, when what I need first is to consult the inner wisdom that I've wrestled with myself to find, and rediscover the clarity before I act. A man of integrity is a man who “has his act together,” in the sense that his actions are in full congruence with his words. He has “integrated” the four mainstays of his being: mind and body, feeling and spirit, and they are properly in balance. Action that is not backed by all four of these in unison–action that lacks thought, or heart, or energy, or purpose–is as ineffectual as the failure to act at all.

Inseparable from a man's integrity, then, is the understanding that he has left behind the innocence of boyhood, along with the freedom that accompanied it. He lives in a world of accountability to others and acknowledges his duty (yes, sorry, a quaint, old-fashioned concept!) to serve others than himself. Sadly, it's true that most of us fail to live up to this ideal. We look around us, searching vainly for the most part for our Mahatma Gandhis, our Nelson Mandelas, our Martin Luther Kings—men who were certainly not lacking in the failings that made them human, but who managed to be magnificently greater than their weaknesses, and of spectacular, historical service to their fellow human beings.

We cannot all be men like these, but we can be men. Without the challenge of traditional initiation rites, we are required to find, or invent, our own journey from boyhood into manhood. It is no easy task to face the darkness and the inner demons that, without our awareness, can control our destinies. All of us need some form of support as we make that journey: a church, perhaps, a spiritual guide, a trained therapist… And the journey, for most of us, is never ending. Who can sit back on his laurels and say with certainty: I have reached the fullness of my manhood? Even in, at best, my last quarter here among the living, I still struggle with my own.

So we leave our young protagonist, in “Boyhood,” with the journey into manhood still ahead of him. He may already have been initiated into sex and drugs, into the drudgery of work and now, finally, the college dormitory, but none of these has opened the door to the real, deep, inner work he will have to do if he is to become the man he needs to be if he is to fulfill his life's destiny. And that is yet to come…

Watch for Peter Clothier's forthcoming novel about masculine sexuality, “The Pilgrim's Staff” (an old euphemism for the penis.) It's told by two narrators, a contemporary figure painter and and 18th century English gentleman. Frank sex scenes and potboiler excitement! Peter is a 1994 NWTA initiate, a one-time active Ritual Elder, and a well-known art writer. His latest book, “Slow Looking: The Art of Looking at Art,” explores the values of contemplation and meditation. Feel free to write him at peter clothier@mac.com .

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The Transformational Power of Daily Rituals

By Gonzalo Salinas

According to Charles Duhigg author of The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business , approximately 40% of what we do every day, we do unconsciously. We have formed a habit that we tend to repeat every day, and it's making our choices for us.

So, think about all the things you do every day. Some of them probably don't serve your highest purpose but still, you repeat them religiously … even knowing specific behaviors are putting you away of the reality you want to live. Duhigg explains that every time you repeat those habits your brain reinforces them … so it craves, later on, this repetition. Even if is not beneficial, you get a neuro-chemical reward in your brain that not only will create some sort of addiction but also reinforces the identity you have created for yourself.

I have tried many times to change bad habits and create new ones. With a sincere heart I must confess that I have failed more times than I have succeeded. But I noticed something happened every time I was succeeding; the positive new habits were daily rituals.

はい。 I do have rituals. Ritual – “a series of actions or type of behavior regularly and invariably followed by someone.” I repeat certain rituals every day, and believe me dear reader of the MKP Journal, to repeat an action every day, is not an easy task, especially when I am trying to create a new self.

Let me share some daily rituals hoping that this will inspire action to enhance lives.

I do my rituals first thing in the morning: I wake up and I go for a run. The running part is simple. I already told myself that as soon as I hear the alarm I must jump out of the bed. At the beginning it was hard, now is automatic. My recommendation is to avoid dealing with ANY logistics – so your sportswear must be ready next to the bed from the previous night.

rising-sun

A second ritual is: I carry in my wallet one handwritten page. One side of the page is divided in two: on the left side I have a few statements: my flaws or weaknesses to become aware of what I want to change, and on the right side my good qualities and virtues to remind myself the tools I have for my own growth. Deliberately this second list is bigger than the first one. On the other side of the paper I've written a brief composition about who I want to be. I've included goals and projects and a description of how I see myself in the next three years.

I read this paper three times a day. As soon as I wake up, at lunch time, and before I go to sleep. It takes me two minutes each reading. When I read it I focus on staying present: just reading.

Third: In the morning I also do a brief visualization … right before I come back from running I stop and I visualize: It takes me three to five minutes. I visualize the same three goals I have written on the paper I carry on my wallet.

Finally, is my gratitude time. On a notebook I got specifically for gratitude, right before I go to sleep, I write three things that I'm grateful for that day. It doesn't matter if it's as simple as “the kid I saw having some ice cream at Lincoln road in South Beach.” If I feel like writing it, I write it. Then I say a brief prayer, and I go to sleep.

These four rituals have changed my life   dramatically in the last two years. Have I been 100% consistent with them?… absolutely not. I used to give to myself a guilt trip, this usually led me to abandon my regular practice for a while. If for some reason I miss my rituals now, instead of the self punishment, I just carry on.

それでおしまい。 Just a couple of thing before I finish: You may notice that my rituals are very simple; they are simple because when I create a complex plan, I find I'm planning to fail. Start small and keep going; it is a great exercise of self love.

And lastly, be creative with your rituals! Some people create a vision boards with images, others do mantras or incantations, others meditate or do breathing exercises. The rituals become habits because of repetition, and the daily practice causes transformation.

I've got more from my 2 years of rituals than from my entire previous life without them. Use them and then you tell me!

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Gonzalo Salinas is an Assistant Editor for the ManKind Project Journal, a publication of the ManKind Project, a nonprofit mentoring and training organization offering powerful opportunities for men's personal growth at any stage of life. Salinas studied Literature in Lima, Peru at San Marcos University, and has been living in the United States since 2003. He lives in Miami, FL. Salinas is committed to his own personal development, and to spreading the word about the vision and mission of the Mankind Project .

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Your Distraction Vortex – Purpose Block #3

by Chris Kyle

If you missed the special Live Q&A call on April 15 for the Man on Purpose Course and want to listen to the audio, go to the Man on Purpose Course web site to listen.

Over the last week, I've shared with you the first two core Purpose Blocks which are:

Purpose Block #1 = the Fear Triad
Purpose Block #2 = the Doubting Voice

Now it's time to explore the third of the 3 Purpose Blocks. Purpose Block #3 is the Distraction Vortex .

In our modern, media-saturated and technology-driven culture we have a never-ending list of things we can do in our daily lives to keep us busy and our schedules extremely full.

The daily choices are mind-boggling … TV shows, books, internet surfing, sports, phone calls, porn, email, movies, hobbies — and on and on and on. And all of this is in addition to our daily work (that hopefully pays the bills).

All these possible activities make up the Distraction Vortex: a swirling pool of constant and seemingly endless things TO DO … that can suck up all of our precious time.

None of these activities, in and of themselves, are inherently “good” or “bad.” However, if we are spending much of our time in the Distraction Vortex — there is a good chance that we are also distracting ourselves from what we might want most in our lives: deeper connection, greater joy, more meaning, and a clearer sense of purpose.

And because the journey into these states can be more subtle and unclear, it's frankly easier and likely more soothing to numb-out or check-out with a juicy distraction like a TV show, a series of YouTube videos, or a trashy novel.

The challenge and question is, “How do I consciously navigate this Distraction Vortex, so it doesn't suck up all of my time — and instead frees up my time for focusing on living more fully into my purpose?”

Here are three steps you can take to help set you free from the Distraction Vortex.

1. Slow Down and Observe Your Activity
The first step is to use whatever stillness practice you have, like meditation or mindfulness, to slow yourself down each day (and if you don't have one, then start one), and begin to observe what pulls your attention toward what you would consider unhealthy distractions.

Then take on a one week “distraction awareness practice” by tracking where you are spending your time in the activities that you consider distractions. This brings to conscious awareness what activities YOU use as distractions to not face something else in your life.

2. Notice What You're Avoiding
The second step is to notice what you may be avoiding in your life that the distractions helps you not have to face. It is typically something you don't want to look at, and which makes you uncomfortable… something that you struggle with in your life.

Being more conscious of the activity, feeling or the energy that you're avoiding helps to burst the bubble on your distraction patterns. Now you have the awareness to make a new choice about whether to engage the specific distractions or not.

3. Recommit with Support
As you see more clearly how your particular distractions don't serve you, you can now recommit yourself to the actions and activities that truly support and serve you — your own growth and your purpose.

By declaring your commitment to the activities that feed your passions and purpose to another person close to you helps you stay accountable to not slipping back into the unhealthy distractions. This support is key to breaking out of the Distraction Vortex.

In the Man on Purpose Course, starting tomorrow (April 17, 2014), we spend two of the 7 weeks on looking at the patterns and habits that take us out of the fuller expression of our authentic power, creativity and purpose. This helps clear the way to bringing more energy and power to our purpose.

To your distraction-free purpose,
クリス

PS The Man on Purpose Course starts tomorrow, April 17th, and there's still time to register and lock in your seat in the course. Go here to register for the course. One man who took the course last year said:

“The course opened me up to the desire and passion to start living as a man who lives to be more of service in all aspects of life. Not “what is my purpose?” but rather how to LIVE with purpose!” — Edward Werger

Chris Kyle

Chris has trained and coached hundreds of individuals to achieve greater success in their businesses and their lives. In partnership with The ManKind Project® USA, he recently created The Power of Purpose Summit and the Man On Purpose online course. He is also the co-creator, with Amy Ahlers, of the ongoing tele-series, New Man, New Woman, New Life.

In addition to his leadership development work, Chris has spent over 24 years as an executive, entrepreneur, consultant and business coach, working in Fortune 500 companies and owning his own eco-adventure travel company. Chris graduated from Stanford University where he studied Political Science. He lives with his wife in Northern California.

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Curious about Why you are Here? Special Q&A Call!

Special Q&A Call Tonight & Important Announcement

We've received a lot of great questions over the last week around the topic of purpose and wanting to know more about our upcoming course — Man On Purpose: The Essential 7-Week Online Course for Men which starts on April 17th.

As I mentioned in my last post, George Daranyi and I will be hosting a special interactive Q&A call tonight – Tuesday April 15th. We will be answering some of the most frequently asked questions about the course, and also about how you can access your hidden power to activate your passions and purpose in the world.

If you have any lingering questions about the course, please join this special Q&A call TONIGHT, MARCH 15TH at 5:30 pm Pacific Time to get the answers you need.

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Here's how to access the Q&A Session with George and me:

TONIGHT at 5:30 pm Pacific / 8:30 pm Eastern / 12:30 am+1 UTC

To listen by webcast online, go to:

http://InstantTeleseminar.com/?eventid=54169320

To listen by phone dial:
Number: (425) 440-5100
Access code: 405934#

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A number of men who have experienced the work with us were eager to share how it had improved and changed their lives:

“They showed me how I had been asleep for most of my life, and how I needed to “awaken” and take charge of my life, to take responsibility and be accountable for my actions. In the program, I received the tools to get back into integrity with my family, my friends, and mainly with myself… I learned that it in order to make a difference in this world, to live into my purpose, I first had to change myself.” — Joe A.

“Chris' approach helped me to see where I'm not showing up fully in my life and the shadows that were holding me back. His intuition and awareness guided me to confront these shadows and helped me stay present, even when it was uncomfortable. With Chris's help, I found my growing edge and learned how to take what I experienced in the sessions into my professional and social life, my intimate relations and most of all, my inner journey. By experiencing this place of “deep knowingness”, purpose and fierce love, I experienced the essence of my true nature.” — Tim C.

I also wanted to let you know that our 3-payment option ends this Friday. So if you're planning to register for the course and would benefit from the option of spreading the payments over three months, be sure to register by tomorrow to take advantage of this opportunity.

To learn more and register visit the course information page.

To living your purpose,
Chris Kyle & George Daranyi

Chris Kyle

Chris has trained and coached hundreds of individuals to achieve greater success in their businesses and their lives. In partnership with The ManKind Project® USA, he recently created The Power of Purpose Summit and the Man On Purpose online course. He is also the co-creator, with Amy Ahlers, of the ongoing tele-series, New Man, New Woman, New Life.

In addition to his leadership development work, Chris has spent over 24 years as an executive, entrepreneur, consultant and business coach, working in Fortune 500 companies and owning his own eco-adventure travel company. Chris graduated from Stanford University where he studied Political Science. He lives with his wife in Northern California.

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What is your Doubting Voice keeping you from? – Purpose Block #2

If you missed the first post: here are the 3 Purpose Blocks:
The Fear Triad
The Doubting Voice
The Distraction Vortex

As we move further along our purpose journey path we're likely to run into the second purpose block: The Doubting Voice.

This Doubting Voice inside you might sound like this:

  • Do you really think you can live your purpose — what about making enough money for the family?
  • It sounds too risky to shift careers now… why would you want to do that?
  • Where will you get the support to take on this new project?
  • What happens if it doesn't work out?
  • Do you think you have the talent to write your book, it's really difficult…

Essentially, this inner voice is that part of our thought pattern that is negatively questioning everything we say or do.

And the problem is that when your Doubting Voice collides with your Calling, your unfolding purpose, then it wants to find all the ways to keep you from going to the “unknown edge” — to the places that you'll have to extend yourself, to risk, and to grow in likely uncomfortable ways.

The Doubting Voice's mission is to eliminate risk, keep things the “safe”, and to NOT be uncomfortable. This obviously puts you at odds with yourself at times, and why it is a core block to living your purpose.

So, how do we work with and neutralize our Doubting Voice?

I have found that the best way to work with the Doubting Voice is to make friends with it.

I know, easier said than done. But here's my process of be-friending, or said another way, integrating my inner Doubter.

Start with naming the Doubting Voice in you. You might call it: Doubting Dude, or Cantankerous Cathy, or simply Mr. Doubter. What this does is twofold:

Brings lightness and humor to that part of ourselves that is pretty heavy and a limiter to our full, authentic expression
Allows the witnessing part of yourself to arrive so you can see the bigger perspective beyond your fearful, doubting ego-mind thoughts/voices.

Then it's time to have a brief dialogue with your Doubter. It flows like this:

“Mr. Doubter, do you have some true wisdom for me that I should know about?” Here you're investigating for important information that might be in the doubting voice. A grain of truth that you feel may be important to the issue at hand. Listen to what comes back.

Then say to yourself: “Thank you for sharing. I don't need you at this time. I'm now going to make room for a choice that is for my highest good – my empowered choice.”

And now there is space for you to make a new choice toward your purpose, toward that which brings you more alive.

In the Man on Purpose Course , George Daranyi and I will speak on how to turn your negative inner voices (what we call Inner Bullies) into allies for your growth and expansion. So, I encourage you to let your Doubting Voice be the new fuel for your growth, for a deeper self-acceptance, that will bring more energy and clarity to your purpose work.

To your purpose adventure,
クリス

PS George and I are hosting a special live Q&A Call on Tuesday, April 15th at 5:30 pm PT / 8:30 pm ET to answer all your questions about the upcoming Man on Purpose Course , which starts on April 17th. Mark you calendars now and we'll be sending out Access Details on Monday. Go here to learn more and register for the course.

Chris Kyle

Chris has trained and coached hundreds of individuals to achieve greater success in their businesses and their lives. In partnership with The ManKind Project® USA, he recently created The Power of Purpose Summit and the Man On Purpose online course. He is also the co-creator, with Amy Ahlers, of the ongoing tele-series, New Man, New Woman, New Life.

In addition to his leadership development work, Chris has spent over 24 years as an executive, entrepreneur, consultant and business coach, working in Fortune 500 companies and owning his own eco-adventure travel company. Chris graduated from Stanford University where he studied Political Science. He lives with his wife in Northern California.

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What stops you from claiming or more fully living your purpose?

The challenge I see constantly with people who want clarity of purpose, or want to bring more energy or focus to it, is that there's at least one BIG block   (if not several) in their life that's keeping them from being fully engaged and lit up by their purpose.

I'd like to share with you the top 3 Purpose Blocks   that I've discovered through the purpose work I've done with hundreds of people over the years; and then how to move through these blocks. Today I'll focus on Purpose Block #1.

Here are the 3 Purpose Blocks:

  1. The Fear Triad
  2. The Doubting Voice
  3. The Distraction Vortex

Purpose Block #1 is the Fear Triad . I have consistently found three specific fears that people face when diving into discovering their purpose, OR when they are trying to put the vision of their purpose into action in the world. The three core purpose fears are:

  • Fear of Survival (mostly financial)
  • Fear of Failure
  • Fear of Ridicule

The survival instinct is deeply rooted in our old brain, the reptilian brain, and is now, in our modern culture, mostly connected with our financial resources.

So the Fear of Survival   unfolds like this: If you choose to go after your purpose, living it fully, then it may drain ALL your resources and/or not be sustainable in the future, and you won't “make it” — you won't survive. You won't be able to pay the bills and feed your family. So, it's just easier to avoid the question about purpose altogether than to face the possibility that you might not survive by living the “fantasy” of your purpose.

The Fear of Failure inside our purpose exploration can become more pronounced because the call of our purpose may stretch us into unknown areas, or test us with new approaches or concepts.

It may unfold like this: If you go for what you really want, your purpose, and fail; then you've failed on the really BIG one in life — living your purpose.” This would not just be failing on a project or a task, but may have the sense of a “whole-person failure” — the message being: “I am a failure in my life.”
The Fear of Ridicule unfolds like this: if your purpose is calling you to do something different in your life, to take on a new vision for your life with a new set of actions, you may find yourself misunderstood by family, friends, colleagues and maybe even your partner.

This exposes you to people's reactions, their own fear and their ridicule. The fear may arise that you'll be laughed, belittled or rejected because your ideas seem non-conventional or simply strange to others.
So, here is the 3-step flow of how to work with these natural fears in the Fear Triad:

> Awareness of the Fear
Notice and acknowledge the fear. It is important to pause yourself and take a deeper look inside at what these fears are for you. Name them in your OWN way and in your words. Bringing them out of the shadow and into the light of your conscious mind is the first step.

> Allow and Embrace
Once you are aware of your unique flavor of the fear, then you're ready to embrace this fear as simply a part of you and a mechanism that your ego-mind uses to keep you safe.

This means accepting the fear with self-compassion and seeing it as a natural part of your growth and evolution as a human being. It's important for you to watch your tendency to push the fear away, to deny it or pretend it's not there.

> Open to a New Choice
As you allow and embrace your fear, it begins to lose its hold and power over you. It may still be there, but it's been seen, named and embraced. So, now it's time to make a new choice that supports your highest growth and calling in the moment.

What you thought was just not possible before because of one of these fears, now may seem possible. Make a NEW choice that serves you and your passionate, creative expression.

In the Man on Purpose 7-Week Online Course we teach you a powerful tool called the Reframing Process that will help you reframe your fear messages and shift them to new possibilities and new choices.
Go to our course information page to learn more.

Chris Kyle

Chris has trained and coached hundreds of individuals to achieve greater success in their businesses and their lives. In partnership with The ManKind Project® USA, he recently created The Power of Purpose Summit and the Man On Purpose online course. He is also the co-creator, with Amy Ahlers, of the ongoing tele-series, New Man, New Woman, New Life.

In addition to his leadership development work, Chris has spent over 24 years as an executive, entrepreneur, consultant and business coach, working in Fortune 500 companies and owning his own eco-adventure travel company. Chris graduated from Stanford University where he studied Political Science. He lives with his wife in Northern California.

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Wake up call

Category: Memoir

by Gonzalo Salinas

Every morning after my run on the beach and my morning rituals, as I drive to work, I see the kids from the South Beach Elementary crossing the street, I see the cuban windows full of people buying their morning cafe cubano , I see the many yoga fans carrying their mat to their morning practice and I see the magic atmosphere of the beach waking up and starting the day.

I cross the MacArthur causeway admiring the breathtaking view, with the Miami skyline and the port of Miami on one side and the mansions in front of the ocean and the Miami bay on the other one. I take the I95, my usual shortcut to the roads in Coral Way to get to my office.

I'm grateful for all the things I get to see every morning. なぜでしょうか? Because everything I get to see every day is a blessing. I know it firsthand…

south beach

When I was a kid, I absolutely loved to play. I was always organizing the games. I remember always playing with my older brothers, with my friends or my cousins. Inventing games, running, jumping, screaming … one of my favorites was playing soccer with a paper ball covered in duct tape. I was always busy being a kid.

Sometimes at school, the bell rang earlier than usual. I was very happy because I had the chance to go home and play, but, at that young age, I wasn't aware of how dangerous the reason was of why they were sending us home hours before the end of the school day.

My grade school was threatened by the terrorist movements of Shining Path or the Tupac Amaru Revolutionary Movement. Both terrorist groups that had taken my city, Lima, and were destroying everything they touched. When they threatened the school, the only solution was sending everyone home for the day. Most of the time, these were false alarms, somebody calling for no reason, but in the rest of the city, you couldn't go to a cafe or a restaurant because the terrorist were bombing the commercial areas, public offices, banks, private companies and every public place you could possibly imagine, spreading chaos and terror all over Lima and the rest of the country.

I grew up on that environment, without being aware of the constant risk that was just walking on the streets of my city. In 12 years of horror from 1980 to 1992, the result was approximately 70 thousand people killed. Fortunately the Peruvian government was able to bring the terror to an end.

There are many places in the world right now, like Pakistan, Iraq or Somalia where terrorism is part of the daily life. I feel so blessed to live where I live now. And I am awake – awake to the reality that not everyone experiences the world I live in. And I am also responsible for staying awake.

So every morning, I am grateful for what I see on my way to work. Gratitude, for me, is the opposite of fear. Be grateful for what you have and send your positive energies or say a prayer for those places where terror is the reality. I pray for a world where all the kids can go to the streets, and play.

Gonzalo photo

Gonzalo Salinas is an Assistant Editor for the ManKind Project Journal, a publication of the ManKind Project, a nonprofit mentoring and training organization offering powerful opportunities for men's personal growth at any stage of life. Salinas studied Literature in Lima, Peru at San Marcos University, and has been living in the United States since 2003. He lives in Miami, FL. Salinas is committed to his own personal development, and to spreading the word about the vision and mission of the Mankind Project .

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Lighting the Darkness – Lumos

Guest Post

New Warrior Brother Michael Marlin from Hawaii will enlighten audiences with his stage production of LUMA: Art in Darkness during a ten-city tour at performing art centers across the country beginning March 28th.

A top comedy juggler who played Las Vegas and opened for the likes of Jay Leno, Jerry Seinfeld, George Carlin, and REM, Marlin walked away from his successful solo career in 1986. He sold his house in Redondo Beach, CA and moved to the island of Hawaii to co-found an alternative community while building and living in a tree house with no electricity.

In 1989 while standing on an active lava flow he noticed the hypnotic effect it had on people and had the epiphany, “All life is drawn to light.”

This was the genesis of LUMA, a show that has now appeared in 15 countries, 44 states and has been touring since 1998. LUMA, with a cast of seven, is a show about the subject of light that combines all manner of physical disciplines from rhythmic gymnastics, puppetry, magic, dance, acrobatics, physics and experimental methods.

Fused with a myriad of light technology from incandescent to bioluminescent, from LEDs to lasers, the tour will take it from Arizona to Massachusetts over a five-week period.

“Three years ago Marlin came to Houston and opened with his juggling act,” Sonny Elliot, a ManKind Project ritual elder recalls, “[LUMA] was a brilliant and over-the-top performance. With the 'visual' music and 'technical' dancing, along with the crowd's enthusiasm, it was a home run.”

In manifesting his vision of LUMA, Marlin encountered a lot of skepticism. He has stayed true to his brainchild, expanding the show and building on new technology as it has evolved, watching as other artists have recently flirted with some of the theatrical light elements he has pioneered, popularizing it on shows like “America's Got Talent”.

Marlin has long been a pioneer and visionary. His work in the field of comedy and juggling back in the 70's and early 80's influenced a generation of jugglers who followed. Barry Friedman from the ManKind Project in Northern California and half of the juggling duo “The Raspini Brothers”, reports, “I remember standing in our family kitchen when I was 18 years old and seeing Michael Marlin on a TV show called Real People.”

“It showed me a bigger picture of what was possible if I stuck with juggling: the possibility of having fun and making people laugh. Marlin has continued to raise the bar both artistically and professionally. His show LUMA has brilliantly merged the visual appeal of juggling with the mind-boggling technology of electronically controlled lighting.”

COME SEE LUMOS

Come see LUMOS this spring.

“The journey to take a vision bigger than one person can pull off and turn it into a physical manifestation with so many moving parts was daunting,” says Marlin. “The work I have done in the ManKind Project has helped me in an incalculable way in my ability to lead others in a clean way and not pull my hair out, (or theirs) when things don't go as planned.”

“I have no doubt that the ripples Marlin is making in the lives of both his audiences and the members of his cast will spread out and touch millions of lives,” said Friedman.

Ticket information and videos of LUMA can be found online at http://www.lumatheater.com .

Show Schedule:

March 26th Gilbert, AZ – Higley Center
April 4th Ft. Collins, CO – Lincoln Center
April 6th Santa Fe, NM – Lensic Theater
April 7th Las Vegas, NM – University of New Mexico Highland Center
April 11th Chippewa Falls, WI – Heyde Center
April 12th Madison, WI – Barrymore Theater
April 13th Schaumberg, IL – Prairie Performing Arts Center
April 20/21st Roanoke, VA – Jefferson Center
April 27th Storrs, CT – University of Connecticut Jorgensen Center
April 29th Queens, NY – Queens College
May 2nd Worcester, MA – Hanover Theater

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Video: “The Revolution is Love” with Charles Eisenstein

shared by Chris Kyle

This powerful 4-minute video features Charles Eisenstein, author of Sacred Economics , from a documentary about the Occupy Movement. Charles will be a featured speaker at the ManKind Project USA's upcoming Power of Purpose Online Summit in March 2014 (more details are coming soon).

I love Charles' last line of this video clip: “…Everybody has a unique calling and it's really time to listen to that. That's what the future is going to be. It's time to get ready for it, and contribute to it, and help make it happen.”

Charles Eisenstein is a teacher, speaker, and writer focusing on themes of civilization, consciousness, money, and human cultural evolution. He is the author of 6 books includingSacred Economics, The Ascent of Humanity and The More Beautiful World Our Hearts Know Is Possible.

“Remember that self-doubt is as self-centered as self-inflation. Your obligation is to reach as deeply as you can and offer your unique and authentic gifts as bravely and beautifully as you're able.”
— Bill Plotkin, author of Soulcraft*

* Bill is also speaking at the Power of Purpose Summit in March.

Chris Kyle

Chris has trained and coached hundreds of individuals to achieve greater success in their businesses and their lives. In partnership with The ManKind Project® USA, he recently created The Power of Purpose Summit and the Man On Purpose online course. He is also the co-creator, with Amy Ahlers, of the ongoing tele-series, New Man, New Woman, New Life.

In addition to his leadership development work, Chris has spent over 24 years as an executive, entrepreneur, consultant and business coach, working in Fortune 500 companies and owning his own eco-adventure travel company. Chris graduated from Stanford University where he studied Political Science. He lives with his wife in Northern California.

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My Elder Soul ~ a poem

Category: Men as Elders , Poetry

by Reuel Czach

Elders, we are losing our Soul.
We are so caught up individually in petty offenses
and bickering and wounded-ness,
that we are letting our civilization and our planet die.
But most importantly,
we are letting our souls die.

When I chose to be wounded,
and walk through life withdrawn in my cave,
or I choose to be over-armored,
to the point of being weighed down,
with such heavy baggage,
nothing else matters,
…..my soul is lost.

I chose to take a step toward claiming,
my lost soul,
when I chose to meet with men in an honest, open circle.

I choose my soul,
when I decide to be so humble,
that no one can offend me.

I choose my soul,
when I chose wisdom,
over being right.

I choose my soul,
when I chose service,
over selfishness.

I choose my soul,
when I chose looking within,
to find all the evil I see outside myself.

I choose my soul,
when I walk the path of life,
where I am nothing,
and I am everything,
in sacred balance.
My choices mean everything,
my offenses mean nothing.

My offenses mean I still have inner work to do
and for the sake of generations to come,
I better get it done as quickly as possible.

My choices mean I have the power to save myself,
my loved ones, my friends, and possibly many more people,
from a mean, selfishness and a lonely death.

I feel great sadness and sorrow,
for all that is being lost.

While the distractions of hurt,
wounded-ness and bickering,
suck so much energy out of my soul,
…..and the soul of my people.

Every hurt and wound and chance to be right,
is a mirror of my soul,
and an opportunity to heal.

Do it! Choose healing.
Then choose wisdom and kindness,
and be the Elder you were meant to be.

Distractions are my enemy,
anything that tries to pull me off,
my narrow mission.

I just need to let Spirit control my life,
where my spirit joins and serves,
a much bigger wisdom,
than I could ever fully understand.

I am asked this day to request of myself,
and men who call themselves Elders.
A humble request,
that we focus on the wisdom to light a path,
for those who come after us.
Humble man, Jan 2014

Reuel Czach

Reuel Czach is a 60 year old, Christian man with a wonderful wife and two sons, a daughter and a stepson. He has lived in San Luis Obispo County, California for over 30 years and practiced architecture for most of those years. Czach is an I-Group Coordinator for the Swallow Creek Coastal Circle in Cayucos. He actively supports and builds the Elder community in San Luis Obispo and is the Co-Elder Chair of the MKP Santa Barbara Community. Czach leads a weekly men's circle in my church and is a leader in the men's ministry.

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My Purpose Over My Relationship?

by Chris Kyle

I came across this quote from David Deida (author of Way of the Superior Man ) a couple of days ago:

“Admit to yourself that if you had to choose one or the other, the perfect intimate relationship or achieving your highest purpose in life, you would choose to succeed at your purpose. Just this self-knowledge often relieves much pressure a man feels to prioritize his relationship when, in fact, it is not his highest priority.”

I have to say right off the bat, that when I first read this quote I thought to myself… do I have to choose one OVER the other?

And then another part of me stood up (in my head, of course) and said “that's right, achieving my highest purpose would definitely rock!”

Clearly there's a conflict running inside me regarding how I prioritize living my purpose as a man, and where I place my relationship.

So, as I look at my own life to investigate this question of the priority of purpose, I do see that I am most alive, engaged and passionate when I'm doing what I love, giving my gifts and bringing my purpose forward to serve others.

And if I decided to choose my relationship OVER living fully into my purpose, I think a part of me would shrivel up. And I know that my power and confidence would be diminished in the world.

And at the end of the day, I don't want living my purpose to hurt or damage my relationship with my wife. I know that I can give my full presence and heart to my relationship without sacrificing my purpose.

But real juice and fire in our relationship comes from me making bold choices to follow my heart and gut, and give my gifts, my purpose with passion and without apology. And my wife finds this super sexy and is proud of me even during the times I am putting my purpose work above our relationship time.

The twist here is that in my experience living boldly into my purpose, with all the triumphs and failures that goes with that, my relationship thrives.

And of course, my purpose as I shared it above applies to my wife as well (she's a “being” too), and so I can be in my purpose through supporting her on her path of growth.

What I hear from many men that I work with is that they are trying so hard to make their relationship work or to please their partner so they can have a more harmonious and “easy” life.

The challenge of putting their relationship above the full expression of their purpose, is that it diminishes the energy, fire and confidence in themselves that could infuse the relationship with much needed passion or juiciness.

So here's how I have learned to hold this priority tension between relationship and purpose. I give my full presence, attention and heart to my relationship whenever we are together. I am not half-there or checked out because I'm thinking about work, or half-listening to her because my purpose work is invading my thoughts and it's THE PRIORITY.

Rather, when I'm engaged in my purpose work, I'm there fully and making that a priority in my life even if it means making some difficult choices about the time I spend with my wife.

I find that the natural balance arises when I am passionately engaged in my purpose AND I bring that juice and fire into my relationship with full presence and an open heart — regardless of how much time we have with each other (days or minutes).

And you know, I still reserve the right to make my relationship the focus of my purpose at any given time if it needs it and demands more of me for a period of time. How's that for a slick caveat — and it's been true at specific times in my life.

Keep working your purpose edge, bring full presence to each moment, keep your heart open and you'll see your life soar… in both your purpose AND your relationship.

CK

PS What do you think? コメントを残します!

Chris Kyle

Chris has trained and coached hundreds of individuals to achieve greater success in their businesses and their lives. In partnership with The ManKind Project® USA, he recently created The Power of Purpose Summit and the Man On Purpose online course. He is also the co-creator, with Amy Ahlers, of the ongoing tele-series, New Man, New Woman, New Life.

In addition to his leadership development work, Chris has spent over 24 years as an executive, entrepreneur, consultant and business coach, working in Fortune 500 companies and owning his own eco-adventure travel company. Chris graduated from Stanford University where he studied Political Science. He lives with his wife in Northern California.

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The World Needs More Elders

By Donald Clerc

What's the difference between being an Elder and being elderly? I never really thought about that question until joining the ManKind Project two years ago.

I'm 57, have three grown children, one young grandchild, and own my own business. So I've “been around the block” a few times and have learned a thing or two along the way. But no one had challenged me on what I can do with that experience and wisdom in this second half of my life.

What are the characteristics of an Elder? We all know of older people who do not behave in an Elder way. And we also know of younger people who already exhibit Elder-like qualities. Here's what I see are some of the qualities and behaviors of an Elder:

• Speaking the truth with authority and wisdom.
• Speaking with kindness and a fierce authenticity at the same time.
• Having a gracious and open heart.
• Standing for higher values and strong standards of behavior.
• Drawing the line against counterproductive behavior.
• Giving, serving, honoring and blessing others.
• Standing in responsible support of leaders.
• Knowing when all you need to do is be present and listen.

Old-People Being an Elder is not the same as being elderly. Just because you are older doesn't make you wise. And if you don't share that hard-won wisdom with others, then you are not benefiting society as an Elder.

Being an Elder is not the same as being a leader. The Elder looks out for the leaders and the lead alike. The Elder uses his wisdom and experience for the good of everyone. His honesty and values help the young to mature and help the already mature to stay in touch with their core values.

Many other societies honor their Elders. It seems like our materialistic society only honors those people (young or old) who buy things, make things, or do things. How does one get honored for being and sharing wisdom? Elders can help the younger generations focus on developing their core values and stop being overly focused on material things.

Where can today's Elders practice their craft? I grew up in a Presbyterian church, which is run by Elders by design. But outside of organized religion, schools and businesses, where else can Elders give of their gifts? If our communities can learn to utilize all of this elder wisdom in an organized way, everyone benefits.

What stops older people from stepping into the role of the Elder? The first obstacle to overcome is the assumption or lack of awareness that one is already an Elder simply because one has already experienced a half-century or more of life. The second obstacle is a lack of training on Elder-like behaviors. These behaviors are not difficult to learn – what most people need to learn are how to undo the negative habits that inhibit or cover their natural Elder qualities from coming out.

In conclusion, young people need more Elders in their lives. They grow up easier and with more maturity. I think it's time for older people need to step into their roles as Elders. This gives them a greater sense of fulfillment and contribution to society than continuing the consumerist behaviors of when they were younger.

What we still need are a way to train more people in the second half of their life to embrace their inner Elder. And we need to develop more avenues in society where Elders can give of their gifts to others.

Donald Clerc is a computer technologist and entrepreneur. He has over 30 years experience working with computers, and started his own computer consulting company 16 years ago. Before that he was an associate school psychologist. Donald is married (for over 35 years), has three grown children and one grandchild. He completed the New Warrior Training Adventure in 2011 and is a declared Elder in the Houston MKP Community.
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How we feel emotions in our Body

by Boysen Hodgson

from Discover Magazine

Research done by a group of scientists, recently published in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences reveals some interesting facts about how human beings experience emotions in their bodies. For men involved in the ManKind Project, it was a nice affirmation of what we've been teaching and practicing for nearly 30 years.

In the ManKind Project, we see and hear men struggle to describe or name what they're feeling. Mad? Sad? Glad? Afraid? Ashamed? They frequently have an easy time saying what they think, or making statements that express judgment about what is happening around them, but when asked to name the emotional state they're experiencing … many men are stumped. For most of us, this is a result of being raised in families and in a culture that doesn't teach or model emotional literacy.

To help men learn what they are feeling and be able to name it; without expectation of changing it or shame for feeling it, we teach men to look their bodies for clues.

“What sensations are you feeling?”
“Where are the sensations in your body?”
“What color (shape, size, texture) might it have?”
and finally …
“If you were to give it a name … mad, sad, glad, afraid, ashamed … what would you call it?”

This basic template for exploration begins to tease apart the stories and narratives in our minds from the raw physical experience we are having in our bodies. Often this is the first step in decoupling habits of reaction so that men can make changes in their behaviors and beliefs about themselves and the world.

Emotion – the felt sense, the hormonal and neurological chain-reaction set into motion by thoughts and experiences of the world – is one of the most powerful sources of information we can harness to improve ourselves and have a positive impact on the world. Many of us create habits of denial, repression, and avoidance of our emotions that have wide ranging personal, interpersonal, and cultural impacts in our communities.

This is a great time to bear witness to the cultural awakening that is underway.

Men's Work – the difficult and fantastic process of waking up, growing up, and showing up in the world for the benefit of humanity – is main-stream. As soon as this article was published, ManKind Project men from around the world were sharing it with quips about printing it out as a quick reference guide for men beginning the exhilarating process of connecting 'head' and 'heart.'

Here is the link to the article:
How we feel emotions in our body

Boysen Hodgson

Boysen Hodgson is the Communications and Marketing Director for the ManKind Project USA, a nonprofit mentoring and training organization that offers powerful opportunities for men's personal growth at any stage of life. Boysen received his BA with Honors from the University of Massachusetts at Amherst, after completing 2 years of Design coursework at Cornell University. He has been helping companies and individuals design the change they wish to see in the world for 15 years. He's a dedicated husband.

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