Din Distraktion Vortex - Formål Block # 3

af Chris Kyle

Hvis du gik glip af særlige live Q & A call den 15. april til den Mand på Purpose Course og ønsker at lytte til lyden, skal du gå til Mand på Purpose Kursus hjemmeside for at lytte.

Over den sidste uge, har jeg delt med dig de første to centrale formål blokke, som er:

Formål Block # 1 = den Fear Triad
Formål Block # 2 = den tvivlende Voice

Nu er det tid til at udforske den tredje af de 3 Formål Blocks. Formål Block # 3 er den Distraktion Vortex.

I vores moderne, medie-mættede og teknologi-drevet kultur har vi en uendelig liste over ting, vi kan gøre i vores hverdag at holde os travlt og vores tidsplaner meget fuld.

De daglige valg er svimlende ... tv-shows, bøger, internet surfing, sport, telefonopkald, porno, e-mail, film, hobbyer - og på og på og på. Og alt dette er i tillæg til vores daglige arbejde (som forhåbentlig betaler regningerne).

Alle disse mulige aktiviteter udgør Distraktion Vortex: en hvirvlende pulje af konstante og tilsyneladende endeløse ting at gøre ... der kan suge op alle vores dyrebare tid.

Ingen af disse aktiviteter, i sig selv, er i sagens natur "god" eller Men hvis vi bruger meget af vores tid i Distraktion Vortex "dårlige". - Der er en god chance for, at vi også er distraherende os fra det, vi måske ønsker mest i vores liv: dybere forbindelse, større glæde, mere mening, og en klarere fornemmelse af formål.

Og fordi rejsen ind i disse tilstande kan være mere subtile og uklar, er det helt ærligt lettere og sandsynligvis mere beroligende til følelsesløs-out eller udtjekning med en saftig distraktion som en tv-udsendelse, en række YouTube-videoer, eller en trashy roman.

Udfordringen og spørgsmål er: "Hvordan kan jeg bevidst navigere denne Distraktion Vortex, så det ikke suger op alle min tid -? Og i stedet frigør min tid til at fokusere på at leve bedre i mit formål"

Her er tre trin, du kan tage for at hjælpe dig fri fra Distraktion Vortex.

1. Slow Down og observere din aktivitet
Det første skridt er at bruge, hvad stilheden praksis du har, ligesom meditation eller mindfulness, at bremse dig ned hver dag (og hvis du ikke har en, så starter en), og begynder at observere, hvad der trækker din opmærksomhed mod, hvad du ville overveje usunde distraktioner.

Så tage på en uges "distraktion bevidsthed praksis" ved at spore, hvor du bruger din tid på de aktiviteter, som du anser for distraktioner. Dette bringer bevidst opmærksomhed, hvilke aktiviteter du bruger som distraktioner for ikke står noget andet i dit liv.

2. Meddelelse hvad du undgå
Det andet skridt er at lægge mærke til, hvad du kan undgå i dit liv, at de distraktioner hjælper dig ikke til at stå. Det er typisk noget, du ikke ønsker at se på, og som gør dig utilpas ... noget, som du kæmper med i dit liv.

At være mere bevidst om aktiviteten, følelse eller den energi, du undgår med til at sprænge boblen på dine distraktion mønstre. Nu har du kendskab til at foretage en ny valg om, hvorvidt at engagere de specifikke distraktioner eller ej.

3. igen forpligter med Support
Som du mere tydeligt, hvordan dine særlige distraktioner ikke tjener du ser, kan du nu igen forpligter dig selv til de aktioner og aktiviteter, der virkelig støtter og tjene dig - din egen vækst og dit formål.

Ved at erklære din engagement i aktiviteter, der sætter dine passioner og formål til en anden person tæt på dig hjælper dig med at holde regnskab over for ikke glider tilbage i de usunde distraktioner. Denne støtte er afgørende for at bryde ud af Distraktion Vortex.

I Man on Purpose Course, der starter i morgen (April 17, 2014), bruger vi to af de 7 uger med at se på de mønstre og vaner, der tager os ud af fyldigere udtryk for vores autentiske magt, kreativitet og formål. Dette hjælper rydde vejen til at bringe mere energi og kraft til vores formål.

Til din distraktion-fri formål,
Chris

. PS Man on Purpose Course starter i morgen, 17. april og der er stadig tid til at registrere og låse i din plads i løbet . Klik her for at tilmelde dig kurset En mand, der tog kurset sidste år sagde:

"Kurset åbnede mig op til ønsket og lidenskab for at begynde at leve som en mand, der lever for at være mere af service i alle aspekter af livet. Ikke "hvad er mit formål?", Men snarere at leve med formål "-! Edward Werger

Chris Kyle

Chris har trænet og coachet hundredvis af enkeltpersoner til at opnå større succes i deres virksomheder og deres liv. I samarbejde med menneskeheden PROJECT® USA, han for nylig skabte The Power of Purpose topmødet og Man On Purpose online kursus. Han er også medskaber, med Amy Ahlers, af den igangværende tele-serie, New Man, New Woman, New Life.

Ud over hans lederskab udviklingsarbejde, har Chris tilbragt over 24 år som en udøvende, iværksætter, konsulent og business coach, der arbejder i Fortune 500 virksomheder og eje sin egen øko-eventyr rejse selskab. Chris er uddannet fra Stanford University, hvor han studerede statskundskab. Han bor sammen med sin kone i det nordlige Californien.

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Nysgerrig om, hvorfor du er her? Special Q & A Call!

Special Q & A Call Tonight & Vigtig meddelelse

Vi har fået en masse gode spørgsmål i løbet af den sidste uge omkring emnet formål og ønsker at vide mere om vores kommende kursus - Man On Formål: The Essential 7-Week Online Kursus for mænd som starter den 17. april.

Som jeg nævnte i mit sidste indlæg, vil George Daranyi og jeg være vært for en særlig interaktiv Q & A call i aften - tirsdag den 15. April. Vi vil besvare nogle af de oftest stillede spørgsmål om kurset, og også om, hvordan du kan få adgang til skjulte magt til at aktivere dine passioner og formål i verden.

Hvis du har hængende spørgsmål om kurset, så tilmeld dig denne særlige Q & A call aften, 15. marts 5:30 PM Pacific Time for at få de svar, du har brug for.

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En række mænd, der har oplevet arbejdet med os var ivrig efter at fortælle, hvordan det havde forbedret og ændret deres liv:

"De viste mig, hvordan jeg havde sovet det meste af mit liv, og hvordan jeg havde brug for at" vække "og tage ansvaret for mit liv, at tage ansvar og stå til ansvar for mine handlinger. I programmet, fik jeg værktøjerne til at komme tilbage i integritet med min familie, mine venner, og hovedsagelig med mig selv ... Jeg lærte, at det for at gøre en forskel i denne verden, for at leve i mit formål, jeg først nødt til at ændre mig selv. "- Joe A.

"Chris 'tilgang hjalp mig til at se, hvor jeg ikke viser op helt i mit liv, og de skygger, der holdt mig tilbage. Hans intuition og bevidsthed guidede mig til at konfrontere disse skygger og hjalp mig med at holde til stede, selv når det var ubehageligt. Med Chris hjælp, fandt jeg min voksende kant og lærte at tage, hvad jeg oplevede i sessionerne i mit professionelle og sociale liv, mine intime relationer og mest af alt, min indre rejse. Ved at opleve dette sted af "dyb knowingness", formål og hård kærlighed, oplevede jeg essensen af ​​min sande natur. "- Tim C.

Jeg ønskede også at lade dig vide, at vores 3-betalingsmulighed slutter denne fredag. Så hvis du planlægger at tilmelde dig kurset og ville drage fordel af muligheden for at sprede betalingerne over tre måneder skal du sørge for at registrere i morgen til at udnytte denne mulighed.

Hvis du vil vide mere og tilmeld dig besøge kurset informationssiden.

Til at leve dit formål,
Chris Kyle & George Daranyi

Chris Kyle

Chris har trænet og coachet hundredvis af enkeltpersoner til at opnå større succes i deres virksomheder og deres liv. I samarbejde med menneskeheden PROJECT® USA, han for nylig skabte The Power of Purpose topmødet og mand på Purpose online kursus. Han er også medskaber, med Amy Ahlers, af den igangværende tele-serie, New Man, New Woman, New Life.

Ud over hans lederskab udviklingsarbejde, har Chris tilbragt over 24 år som en udøvende, iværksætter, konsulent og business coach, der arbejder i Fortune 500 virksomheder og eje sin egen øko-eventyr rejse selskab. Chris er uddannet fra Stanford University, hvor han studerede statskundskab. Han bor sammen med sin kone i det nordlige Californien.

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Hvad er dit tvivlende Voice holde dig fra? - Formål Block # 2

Hvis du gik glip af første indlæg: her er de 3 Formål blokke:
The Fear Triad
Den tvivlende Voice
Distraktion Vortex

Som vi bevæger os videre langs vores formål rejse sti vi er tilbøjelige til at løbe ind i den anden formål blok: The tvivlende Voice.

Dette tvivlende Voice inde i dig kan lyde sådan her:

  • Tror du virkelig, du kan leve dit formål - hvad med at tjene penge nok til familien?
  • Det lyder for risikabelt at skifte karriere nu ... hvorfor skulle du ønsker at gøre det?
  • Hvor vil du få støtte til at påtage sig dette nye projekt?
  • Hvad sker der, hvis det ikke virker ud?
  • Tror du, du har talent for at skrive din bog, det er virkelig svært ...

Væsentlige, denne indre stemme er, at en del af vores tankemønster der er negativt spørgsmålstegn alt, hvad vi siger eller gør.

Og problemet er, at når din tvivlende Voice kolliderer med din Calling, din udfoldelse formål, så det vil finde alle de måder at holde dig fra at gå til "ukendt kant" - til de steder, som du bliver nødt til at udvide dig selv, at risikere, og til at vokse i sandsynlige ubehagelige måder.

Den tvivlende Voice mission er at eliminere risikoen, holde tingene den "sikre", og til ikke at blive ubehageligt. Dette sætter naturligvis dig på kant med dig selv på tidspunkter, og hvorfor det er en central blok til at leve dit formål.

Så hvordan kan vi arbejde med og neutralisere vores tvivlende Voice?

Jeg har fundet, at den bedste måde at arbejde med tvivlende Voice er at gøre venner med den.

Jeg ved, lettere sagt end gjort. Men her er min proces i BE-friending eller sagt på en anden måde, at integrere min indre tvivler.

Start med at navngive tvivlende Voice i dig. Du kan kalde det: tvivlende Dude, eller Cantankerous Cathy, eller blot Mr. tvivler. Hvad det betyder er dobbelt:

Bringer lethed og humor til den del af os selv, som er temmelig tung, og en limiter til vores fulde, autentisk udtryk
Tillader vidne del af dig selv at ankomme, så du kan se det større perspektiv ud over din frygtsomme, tvivle ego-sind tanker / stemmer.

Så er det tid til at have en kort dialog med din tvivler. Det flyder ud:

"Mr. Tvivleren, har du nogle sande visdom for mig, at jeg bør vide om? «Her du undersøge for at få vigtige oplysninger, der kan være i den tvivlende stemme. Et gran af sandhed, som du føler kan være vigtigt at spørgsmålet ved hånden. Lyt til, hvad der kommer tilbage.

Så sige til dig selv: "Tak for deling. Jeg har ikke brug for dig på dette tidspunkt. Jeg vil nu gøre plads til et valg, der er for min højeste gode -. Mit beføjet valg "

Og nu er der plads til at foretage et nyt valg i retning af dit formål, mod det, som bringer dig mere levende.

I Man on Purpose Course , vil George Daranyi og jeg taler om, hvordan du slå dine negative indre stemmer (det vi kalder Inner Bullies) til allierede til din vækst og ekspansion. Så jeg opfordre dig til at lade din tvivlende Voice være det nye brændstof til din vækst, for en dybere selvaccept, som vil bringe mere energi og klarhed til dit formål arbejde.

Til dit formål eventyr,
Chris

PS George og jeg er vært for en særlig levende Q & A Call på Tirsdag 15 apr 5:30 PM PT / 20:30 ET at besvare alle dine spørgsmål om den kommende Man on Purpose Course , som starter den 17. april. Mark du kalendere nu, og vi vil sende Access Detaljer mandag. Gå her for at lære mere og tilmelde dig kurset.

Chris Kyle

Chris har trænet og coachet hundredvis af enkeltpersoner til at opnå større succes i deres virksomheder og deres liv. I samarbejde med menneskeheden PROJECT® USA, han for nylig skabte The Power of Purpose topmødet og Man On Purpose online kursus. Han er også medskaber, med Amy Ahlers, af den igangværende tele-serie, New Man, New Woman, New Life.

Ud over hans lederskab udviklingsarbejde, har Chris tilbragt over 24 år som en udøvende, iværksætter, konsulent og business coach, der arbejder i Fortune 500 virksomheder og eje sin egen øko-eventyr rejse selskab. Chris er uddannet fra Stanford University, hvor han studerede statskundskab. Han bor sammen med sin kone i det nordlige Californien.

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Hvad stopper dig fra at hævde eller mere fuldstændigt leve dit formål?

Den udfordring, jeg ser hele tiden med mennesker, der ønsker klarhed omkring formål, eller ønsker at bringe mere energi eller fokus til det, er, at der er mindst én stor blok   (Hvis ikke flere) i deres liv, der holder dem fra at være fuldt engageret og oplyst af deres formål.

Jeg vil gerne dele med dig top 3 Formål Blokke   at jeg har opdaget gennem formål arbejde jeg har gjort med hundredvis af mennesker gennem årene; og derefter hvordan at bevæge sig gennem disse blokke. I dag vil jeg fokusere på Purpose Block # 1.

Her er de 3 Formål blokke:

  1. The Fear Triad
  2. Den tvivlende Voice
  3. Distraktion Vortex

Formål Block # 1 er den Fear Triad. Jeg har hele tiden fundet tre specifikke frygt for, at folk står overfor, når dykning i at opdage deres formål, eller når de forsøger at sætte visionen om deres formål i aktion i verden. De tre centrale formål frygt er:

  • Frygt for overlevelse (for det meste økonomisk)
  • Frygt for fiasko
  • Frygt for latterliggørelse

Overlevelsen instinkt er dybt forankret i vores gamle hjerne, reptil hjerne, og er nu i vores moderne kultur, for det meste i forbindelse med vores finansielle ressourcer.

Fear of Survival   folder sig ud som dette: Hvis du vælger at gå efter dit formål, leve det fuldt ud, så kan det dræne alle dine ressourcer og / eller ikke være bæredygtigt i fremtiden, og du vil ikke "gøre det" - du vil ikke overleve. Du vil ikke være i stand til at betale de regninger og foder din familie. Så det er bare nemmere at undgå spørgsmålet om formålet helt end til ansigt muligheden for, at du måske ikke overleve ved at leve af "fantasi" af dit formål.

Frygten for fiasko inde i vores formål udforskning kan blive mere udtalt, fordi indkaldelsen af vores formål, kan strække os ind ukendte områder, eller teste os med nye tilgange eller koncepter.

Det kan udfolde ud: Hvis du går for, hvad du virkelig ønsker, dit formål, og mislykkes; så har du ikke på de helt store en i livet - at leve dit formål "Dette ville ikke blot være mangel på et projekt eller en opgave, men kan have følelsen af ​​en" hel-persons fiasko. "- meddelelsen er:" Jeg er en fiasko i mit liv. "
Den frygt for latterliggørelse folder sig ud som dette: Hvis dit formål kalder dig til at gøre noget anderledes i dit liv, at tage på en ny vision for dit liv med et nyt sæt handlinger, kan du finde dig selv misforstået af familie, venner, kolleger og måske endda din partner.

Dette udsætter dig for folks reaktioner, deres egen frygt og deres latterliggørelse. Frygten kan opstå, at du vil blive lo, nedgjort eller afvist, fordi dine ideer synes ikke-konventionelle eller blot mærkeligt at andre.
Så her er den 3-trins strøm af hvordan man arbejder med disse naturlige frygt i Fear Triad:

> Kendskab til Fear
Læg mærke og anerkende frygten. Det er vigtigt at holde pause dig selv og tage et dybere kig ind på, hvad denne frygt er for dig. Navngiv dem på din egen måde og i dine ord. At bringe dem ud af skyggen og ind i lyset af dit bevidste sind er det første skridt.

> Tillad og Embrace
Når du er bevidst om din unikke smag af frygt, så er du klar til at omfavne denne frygt som blot en del af dig, og en mekanisme, dit ego-sind bruger til at holde dig sikker.

Det betyder at acceptere frygten med selv-medfølelse og ser det som en naturlig del af din vækst og udvikling som menneske. Det er vigtigt for dig at se din tendens til at skubbe frygten væk, at benægte det, eller lade som om det ikke er der.

> Åbn til en ny Choice
Som du tillader og omfavne din frygt, begynder det at miste sit tag og magt over dig. Det kan stadig være der, men det er blevet set, navngivet og omfavnede. Så nu er det tid til at lave en ny valg, der understøtter dit højeste vækst og kalder i øjeblikket.

Hvad du troede var bare ikke muligt før på grund af en af ​​denne frygt, nu kan synes mulig. Lav en ny valg, der tjener dig og din lidenskabelige, kreative udtryk.

I Man on Purpose 7-ugers online kursus lærer vi dig et stærkt værktøj kaldet Reframing proces, der vil hjælpe dig med at omformulere din frygt beskeder og flytte dem til nye muligheder og nye valg.
Gå til vores kursus information side for at lære mere.

Chris Kyle

Chris har trænet og coachet hundredvis af enkeltpersoner til at opnå større succes i deres virksomheder og deres liv. I samarbejde med menneskeheden PROJECT® USA, han for nylig skabte The Power of Purpose topmødet og Man On Purpose online kursus. Han er også medskaber, med Amy Ahlers, af den igangværende tele-serie, New Man, New Woman, New Life.

Ud over hans lederskab udviklingsarbejde, har Chris tilbragt over 24 år som en udøvende, iværksætter, konsulent og business coach, der arbejder i Fortune 500 virksomheder og eje sin egen øko-eventyr rejse selskab. Chris er uddannet fra Stanford University, hvor han studerede statskundskab. Han bor sammen med sin kone i det nordlige Californien.

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Wake up call

Kategori: Memoir

Gonzalo Salinas

Hver morgen efter mit løb på stranden og min morgen ritualer, som jeg kører til arbejde, jeg ser børnene fra South Beach Elementary krydser gaden, ser jeg de cubanske vinduer fulde af folk, der køber deres morgen cafe cubano, jeg ser mange yoga fans bærer deres mat til deres morgen praksis, og jeg ser den magiske atmosfære af stranden vågne op og begynde dagen.

Jeg krydser MacArthur Causeway beundre den betagende udsigt, med Miami skyline og havnen i Miami på den ene side og palæer foran havet og Miami bugten på den anden. Jeg tager I95, at min sædvanlige genvej til vejene i Coral Way komme til mit kontor.

Jeg er taknemmelig for alle de ting, jeg får at se hver morgen. Hvorfor? Fordi alt, hvad jeg får at se hver dag er en velsignelse. Jeg ved det første hånd ...

South Beach

Da jeg var barn, jeg elskede absolut at spille. Jeg var altid organisere spillene. Jeg husker altid at lege med mine ældre brødre, med mine venner eller mine fætre. Opfinde spil, løb, hoppe, skrigende ... en af ​​mine favoritter var at spille fodbold med en papir bold dækket i gaffatape. Jeg var altid travlt med at være et barn.

Nogle gange i skolen, klokken ringede tidligere end normalt. Jeg var meget glad, fordi jeg havde mulighed for at gå hjem og spille, men på den unge alder, var jeg ikke klar over, hvor farligt årsagen var, hvorfor de var at sende os hjem timer før slutningen af ​​skoledagen.

Min folkeskolen var truet af de terroristiske bevægelser Lysende Sti eller Tupac Amaru Revolutionary Movement. Begge terrorgrupper, der havde taget min by, Lima, og var at ødelægge alt, hvad de rørte ved. Da de truede skolen blev den eneste løsning at sende alle hjem for dagen. Det meste af tiden, disse var falsk alarm, nogen ringer uden grund, men i resten af ​​byen, kan du ikke gå til en cafe eller en restaurant, fordi terroristen var at bombe de kommercielle områder, offentlige kontorer, banker, private virksomheder og alle offentlige sted du kan forestille, spreder kaos og terror over hele Lima og resten af ​​landet.

Jeg voksede op på dette miljø, uden at være klar over den konstante risiko for, at bare gå på gaden i min by. I 12 års rædsel 1980-1992, var resultatet omkring 70 tusinde mennesker dræbt. Heldigvis den peruvianske regering var i stand til at bringe terror til ophør.

Der er mange steder i verden lige nu, som Pakistan, Irak eller Somalia, hvor terrorisme er en del af hverdagen. Jeg føler mig så velsignet at leve, hvor jeg bor nu. Og jeg er vågen - vågen til den virkelighed, som ikke alle oplever verden, jeg lever i, og jeg er også ansvarlig for at bo vågen..

Så hver morgen, jeg er taknemmelig for, hvad jeg ser på min vej til arbejde. Taknemmelighed, for mig, er det modsatte af frygt. Være taknemmelig for hvad du har, og sende dine positive energier eller sige en bøn for de steder, hvor terror er virkeligheden. Jeg beder for en verden, hvor alle børn kan gå på gaden og aktiviteter.

Gonzalo foto

Gonzalo Salinas er en assisterende redaktør for menneskeheden Project Journal, en offentliggørelse af menneskeheden Project, en nonprofit mentoring og uddannelse organisation, der tilbyder kraftfulde muligheder for mænds personlig vækst på ethvert tidspunkt i livet. Salinas studerede Litteratur i Lima, Peru på San Marcos University, og har boet i USA siden 2003. Han bor i Miami, FL. Salinas er forpligtet til sin egen personlige udvikling, og at sprede ordet om den vision og mission menneskeheden Project .

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Belysning mørket - Lumos

Gæst Indlæg

New Warrior Brother Michael Marlin fra Hawaii vil oplyse publikum med sin scene produktion af LUMA: Kunst i Darkness under en ti-byrundtur til at udføre kunst centre over hele landet, der begynder 28 Marts.

En top komedie jonglør der spillede Las Vegas og åbnet for folk som Jay Leno, Jerry Seinfeld, George Carlin, og REM, Marlin gik væk fra sin succesfulde solokarriere i 1986. Han solgte sit hus i Redondo Beach, Californien og flyttede til ø Hawaii til at co-fundet en alternativ samfund og samtidig bygge og leve i et træ hus med ingen elektricitet.

I 1989, mens stående på en aktiv lavastrøm bemærkede han den hypnotiske effekt det havde på folk og havde åbenbaring, "Alt liv henledes på lys."

Det var oprindelsen af ​​LUMA, et show, som nu dukkede op i 15 lande, 44 stater og har turneret siden 1998. LUMA, med en støbt af syv, er et show om emnet af lys, der kombinerer alle slags fysiske discipliner fra rytmisk gymnastik, dukketeater, magi, dans, akrobatik, fysik og eksperimentelle metoder.

Smeltet med et utal af lys teknologi fra glødelamper til bioluminiscerende, fra lysdioder til lasere, vil turen tage det fra Arizona til Massachusetts i løbet af en periode på fem uger.

"For tre år siden Marlin kom til Houston og åbnede med sin jonglørnummer," Sonny Elliot, en menneskeheden Project ritual ældste minder "[LUMA] var en strålende og over-the-top præstation. Med den "visuelle" musik og "tekniske" danse, sammen med store entusiasme, det var en home run. "

Ved at manifestere sin vision om LUMA, Marlin stødt på en masse skepsis. Han har opholdt sig tro mod sin udtænkt, udvide showet og bygger på ny teknologi, som den har udviklet sig, ser som andre kunstnere for nylig har flirtet med nogle af de teatralske lette grundstoffer han har været banebrydende, popularisere det på shows som "Amerikas Got Talent".

Marlin har længe været en pioner og visionær. Hans arbejde inden for komedie og jonglering tilbage i 70'erne og begyndelsen af ​​80'erne påvirket en generation af jonglører, der fulgte. Barry Friedman fra menneskeheden Project i det nordlige Californien og halvdelen af ​​jonglering duo "The Raspini Brothers", rapporterer, "Jeg husker stående i vores køkkenalrum, da jeg var 18 år gammel og ser Michael Marlin på et tv-show kaldet Real People."

"Det viste mig en større billede af, hvad der var muligt, hvis jeg fast med jonglering: muligheden for at have det sjovt og gøre folk til at grine. Marlin har fortsat med at hæve overliggeren både kunstnerisk og professionelt. Hans show LUMA har glimrende fusionerede den visuelle appel af jonglering med ufattelige teknologi elektronisk styret belysning. "

Kom og se Lumos

Kom og se Lumos dette forår.

"Rejsen til at tage en vision større end én person kan trække ud og gøre det til en fysisk manifestation med så mange bevægelige dele var skræmmende," siger Marlin. "Arbejdet jeg har gjort i menneskeheden Project har hjulpet mig i en uoverskuelig måde i min evne til at lede andre i en ren måde, og ikke trække mit hår ud, (eller deres), når tingene ikke går som planlagt."

"Jeg har ingen tvivl om, at krusninger Marlin udfolder i livet for både hans publikum og medlemmerne af hans cast vil sprede ud og røre millioner af liv," siger Friedman.

Ticket information og videoer af LUMA kan findes online på http://www.lumatheater.com .

Vis Skema:

26 mar Gilbert, AZ - Higley center
April 4 Ft. Collins, CO - Lincoln Center
6 april Santa Fe, NM - Lensic Theater
April 7 Las Vegas, NM - University of New Mexico Highland Center
April 11 Chippewa Falls, WI - Heyde center
April 12 Madison, WI - Barrymore Theater
13 April Schaumberg, IL - Prairie Performing Arts Center
April 20/21 Roanoke, VA - Jefferson center
April 27 Storrs, CT - University of Connecticut Jørgensen center
29 April Queens, NY - Queens College
MAJ 2 Worcester, MA - Hannover Theater

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Video: "The Revolution er kærlighed" med Charles Eisenstein

deles af Chris Kyle

Denne kraftfulde 4-minutters video funktioner Charles Eisenstein, forfatter til Sacred Economics , fra en dokumentarfilm om Occupy bevægelsen. Charles vil være en hovedtaler på menneskeheden Project USAs kommende Power of Purpose Online topmøde marts 2014 (flere detaljer kommer snart).

Jeg elsker Charles 'sidste linje dette videoklip: "... Alle har en unik kald og det er virkelig tid til at lytte til det. Det er, hvad fremtiden vil være. Det er tid at blive klar til det, og bidrage til det, og hjælpe med at gøre det ske. "

Charles Eisenstein er en lærer, taler og skribent fokuserer på temaer af civilisationen, bevidsthed, penge og menneskelige kulturelle evolution. Han er forfatter til 6 bøger includingSacred Economics, The Ascent of Humanity, og jo mere Beautiful World Vores hjerter Know er mulig.

"Husk, at selvtillid er så selvcentreret som selvstændige inflation. Your obligation is to reach as deeply as you can and offer your unique and authentic gifts as bravely and beautifully as you're able.”
— Bill Plotkin, author of Soulcraft*

* Bill is also speaking at the Power of Purpose Summit in March.

Chris Kyle

Chris has trained and coached hundreds of individuals to achieve greater success in their businesses and their lives. In partnership with The ManKind Project® USA, he recently created The Power of Purpose Summit and the Man On Purpose online course. He is also the co-creator, with Amy Ahlers, of the ongoing tele-series, New Man, New Woman, New Life.

In addition to his leadership development work, Chris has spent over 24 years as an executive, entrepreneur, consultant and business coach, working in Fortune 500 companies and owning his own eco-adventure travel company. Chris graduated from Stanford University where he studied Political Science. He lives with his wife in Northern California.

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My Elder Soul ~ a poem

Category: Men as Elders , Poetry

by Reuel Czach

Elders, we are losing our Soul.
We are so caught up individually in petty offenses
and bickering and wounded-ness,
that we are letting our civilization and our planet die.
But most importantly,
we are letting our souls die.

When I chose to be wounded,
and walk through life withdrawn in my cave,
or I choose to be over-armored,
to the point of being weighed down,
with such heavy baggage,
nothing else matters,
…..my soul is lost.

I chose to take a step toward claiming,
my lost soul,
when I chose to meet with men in an honest, open circle.

I choose my soul,
when I decide to be so humble,
that no one can offend me.

I choose my soul,
when I chose wisdom,
over being right.

I choose my soul,
when I chose service,
over selfishness.

I choose my soul,
when I chose looking within,
to find all the evil I see outside myself.

I choose my soul,
when I walk the path of life,
where I am nothing,
and I am everything,
in sacred balance.
My choices mean everything,
my offenses mean nothing.

My offenses mean I still have inner work to do
and for the sake of generations to come,
I better get it done as quickly as possible.

My choices mean I have the power to save myself,
my loved ones, my friends, and possibly many more people,
from a mean, selfishness and a lonely death.

I feel great sadness and sorrow,
for all that is being lost.

While the distractions of hurt,
wounded-ness and bickering,
suck so much energy out of my soul,
…..and the soul of my people.

Every hurt and wound and chance to be right,
is a mirror of my soul,
and an opportunity to heal.

Do it! Choose healing.
Then choose wisdom and kindness,
and be the Elder you were meant to be.

Distractions are my enemy,
anything that tries to pull me off,
my narrow mission.

I just need to let Spirit control my life,
where my spirit joins and serves,
a much bigger wisdom,
than I could ever fully understand.

I am asked this day to request of myself,
and men who call themselves Elders.
A humble request,
that we focus on the wisdom to light a path,
for those who come after us.
Humble man, Jan 2014

Reuel Czach

Reuel Czach is a 60 year old, Christian man with a wonderful wife and two sons, a daughter and a stepson. He has lived in San Luis Obispo County, California for over 30 years and practiced architecture for most of those years. Czach is an I-Group Coordinator for the Swallow Creek Coastal Circle in Cayucos. He actively supports and builds the Elder community in San Luis Obispo and is the Co-Elder Chair of the MKP Santa Barbara Community. Czach leads a weekly men's circle in my church and is a leader in the men's ministry.

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My Purpose Over My Relationship?

by Chris Kyle

I came across this quote from David Deida (author of Way of the Superior Man ) a couple of days ago:

“Admit to yourself that if you had to choose one or the other, the perfect intimate relationship or achieving your highest purpose in life, you would choose to succeed at your purpose. Just this self-knowledge often relieves much pressure a man feels to prioritize his relationship when, in fact, it is not his highest priority.”

I have to say right off the bat, that when I first read this quote I thought to myself… do I have to choose one OVER the other?

And then another part of me stood up (in my head, of course) and said “that's right, achieving my highest purpose would definitely rock!”

Clearly there's a conflict running inside me regarding how I prioritize living my purpose as a man, and where I place my relationship.

So, as I look at my own life to investigate this question of the priority of purpose, I do see that I am most alive, engaged and passionate when I'm doing what I love, giving my gifts and bringing my purpose forward to serve others.

And if I decided to choose my relationship OVER living fully into my purpose, I think a part of me would shrivel up. And I know that my power and confidence would be diminished in the world.

And at the end of the day, I don't want living my purpose to hurt or damage my relationship with my wife. I know that I can give my full presence and heart to my relationship without sacrificing my purpose.

But real juice and fire in our relationship comes from me making bold choices to follow my heart and gut, and give my gifts, my purpose with passion and without apology. And my wife finds this super sexy and is proud of me even during the times I am putting my purpose work above our relationship time.

The twist here is that in my experience living boldly into my purpose, with all the triumphs and failures that goes with that, my relationship thrives.

And of course, my purpose as I shared it above applies to my wife as well (she's a “being” too), and so I can be in my purpose through supporting her on her path of growth.

What I hear from many men that I work with is that they are trying so hard to make their relationship work or to please their partner so they can have a more harmonious and “easy” life.

The challenge of putting their relationship above the full expression of their purpose, is that it diminishes the energy, fire and confidence in themselves that could infuse the relationship with much needed passion or juiciness.

So here's how I have learned to hold this priority tension between relationship and purpose. I give my full presence, attention and heart to my relationship whenever we are together. I am not half-there or checked out because I'm thinking about work, or half-listening to her because my purpose work is invading my thoughts and it's THE PRIORITY.

Rather, when I'm engaged in my purpose work, I'm there fully and making that a priority in my life even if it means making some difficult choices about the time I spend with my wife.

I find that the natural balance arises when I am passionately engaged in my purpose AND I bring that juice and fire into my relationship with full presence and an open heart — regardless of how much time we have with each other (days or minutes).

And you know, I still reserve the right to make my relationship the focus of my purpose at any given time if it needs it and demands more of me for a period of time. How's that for a slick caveat — and it's been true at specific times in my life.

Keep working your purpose edge, bring full presence to each moment, keep your heart open and you'll see your life soar… in both your purpose AND your relationship.

CK

PS What do you think? Efterlad en kommentar!

Chris Kyle

Chris has trained and coached hundreds of individuals to achieve greater success in their businesses and their lives. In partnership with The ManKind Project® USA, he recently created The Power of Purpose Summit and the Man On Purpose online course. He is also the co-creator, with Amy Ahlers, of the ongoing tele-series, New Man, New Woman, New Life.

In addition to his leadership development work, Chris has spent over 24 years as an executive, entrepreneur, consultant and business coach, working in Fortune 500 companies and owning his own eco-adventure travel company. Chris graduated from Stanford University where he studied Political Science. He lives with his wife in Northern California.

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The World Needs More Elders

By Donald Clerc

What's the difference between being an Elder and being elderly? I never really thought about that question until joining the ManKind Project two years ago.

I'm 57, have three grown children, one young grandchild, and own my own business. So I've “been around the block” a few times and have learned a thing or two along the way. But no one had challenged me on what I can do with that experience and wisdom in this second half of my life.

What are the characteristics of an Elder? We all know of older people who do not behave in an Elder way. And we also know of younger people who already exhibit Elder-like qualities. Here's what I see are some of the qualities and behaviors of an Elder:

• Speaking the truth with authority and wisdom.
• Speaking with kindness and a fierce authenticity at the same time.
• Having a gracious and open heart.
• Standing for higher values and strong standards of behavior.
• Drawing the line against counterproductive behavior.
• Giving, serving, honoring and blessing others.
• Standing in responsible support of leaders.
• Knowing when all you need to do is be present and listen.

Old-People Being an Elder is not the same as being elderly. Just because you are older doesn't make you wise. And if you don't share that hard-won wisdom with others, then you are not benefiting society as an Elder.

Being an Elder is not the same as being a leader. The Elder looks out for the leaders and the lead alike. The Elder uses his wisdom and experience for the good of everyone. His honesty and values help the young to mature and help the already mature to stay in touch with their core values.

Many other societies honor their Elders. It seems like our materialistic society only honors those people (young or old) who buy things, make things, or do things. How does one get honored for being and sharing wisdom? Elders can help the younger generations focus on developing their core values and stop being overly focused on material things.

Where can today's Elders practice their craft? I grew up in a Presbyterian church, which is run by Elders by design. But outside of organized religion, schools and businesses, where else can Elders give of their gifts? If our communities can learn to utilize all of this elder wisdom in an organized way, everyone benefits.

What stops older people from stepping into the role of the Elder? The first obstacle to overcome is the assumption or lack of awareness that one is already an Elder simply because one has already experienced a half-century or more of life. The second obstacle is a lack of training on Elder-like behaviors. These behaviors are not difficult to learn – what most people need to learn are how to undo the negative habits that inhibit or cover their natural Elder qualities from coming out.

In conclusion, young people need more Elders in their lives. They grow up easier and with more maturity. I think it's time for older people need to step into their roles as Elders. This gives them a greater sense of fulfillment and contribution to society than continuing the consumerist behaviors of when they were younger.

What we still need are a way to train more people in the second half of their life to embrace their inner Elder. And we need to develop more avenues in society where Elders can give of their gifts to others.

Donald Clerc is a computer technologist and entrepreneur. He has over 30 years experience working with computers, and started his own computer consulting company 16 years ago. Before that he was an associate school psychologist. Donald is married (for over 35 years), has three grown children and one grandchild. He completed the New Warrior Training Adventure in 2011 and is a declared Elder in the Houston MKP Community.
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How we feel emotions in our Body

by Boysen Hodgson

from Discover Magazine

Research done by a group of scientists, recently published in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences reveals some interesting facts about how human beings experience emotions in their bodies. For men involved in the ManKind Project, it was a nice affirmation of what we've been teaching and practicing for nearly 30 years.

In the ManKind Project, we see and hear men struggle to describe or name what they're feeling. Mad? Sad? Glad? Afraid? Ashamed? They frequently have an easy time saying what they think, or making statements that express judgment about what is happening around them, but when asked to name the emotional state they're experiencing … many men are stumped. For most of us, this is a result of being raised in families and in a culture that doesn't teach or model emotional literacy.

To help men learn what they are feeling and be able to name it; without expectation of changing it or shame for feeling it, we teach men to look their bodies for clues.

“What sensations are you feeling?”
“Where are the sensations in your body?”
“What color (shape, size, texture) might it have?”
and finally …
“If you were to give it a name … mad, sad, glad, afraid, ashamed … what would you call it?”

This basic template for exploration begins to tease apart the stories and narratives in our minds from the raw physical experience we are having in our bodies. Often this is the first step in decoupling habits of reaction so that men can make changes in their behaviors and beliefs about themselves and the world.

Emotion – the felt sense, the hormonal and neurological chain-reaction set into motion by thoughts and experiences of the world – is one of the most powerful sources of information we can harness to improve ourselves and have a positive impact on the world. Many of us create habits of denial, repression, and avoidance of our emotions that have wide ranging personal, interpersonal, and cultural impacts in our communities.

This is a great time to bear witness to the cultural awakening that is underway.

Men's Work – the difficult and fantastic process of waking up, growing up, and showing up in the world for the benefit of humanity – is main-stream. As soon as this article was published, ManKind Project men from around the world were sharing it with quips about printing it out as a quick reference guide for men beginning the exhilarating process of connecting 'head' and 'heart.'

Here is the link to the article:
How we feel emotions in our body

Boysen Hodgson

Boysen Hodgson is the Communications and Marketing Director for the ManKind Project USA, a nonprofit mentoring and training organization that offers powerful opportunities for men's personal growth at any stage of life. Boysen received his BA with Honors from the University of Massachusetts at Amherst, after completing 2 years of Design coursework at Cornell University. He has been helping companies and individuals design the change they wish to see in the world for 15 years. He's a dedicated husband.

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20 Diagnostic Signs That You're Suffering From “Soul Loss” . Article by Lissa Rankin

by Gonzalo Salinas

I'm extremely grateful to Dr. Lissa Rankin. I think she saved me by helping me understand what was happening in my life. I was training for a triathlon, and I wasn't feeling good. My body couldn't take it anymore and when I went to three different doctors, they each ran some tests, and the result was the same: Everything was all right.

But I wasn't feeling good. One night as I was leaving work, checking my email, I found a video in my inbox, I can't recall now who it was from. The title was The shocking truth about your health by Dr. Lissa Rankin. It was a TED talk from 2011 (I included it below). After watching the entire video, I was hooked. I ordered her book Mind Over Medicine , and I started a healing process that was more related to a daily practice of my passion than to a pathology.

Lissa Rankin is a brave soul fighting against a system that treats our bodies like machines. Her armament to fight the battle: LOVE. She says her mission is to highlight the “ care in the health-care.” I consider her work an amazing opportunity for every doctor, healer, therapist, shaman, people involved with medicine or any kind of healing practice to learn and grow in their practice.

She is on a mission. And she is being recognized. I pray that she continues healing humankind.

Here is a link to a great article she wrote. Check it out, and consider getting involved:

20 Diagnostic Signs That You're Suffering From “Soul Loss”


Gonzalo photo

Gonzalo Salinas is an Assistant Editor for the ManKind Project Journal, a publication of the ManKind Project, a nonprofit mentoring and training organization offering powerful opportunities for men's personal growth at any stage of life. Salinas studied Literature in Lima, Peru at San Marcos University, and has been living in the United States since 2003. He lives in Miami, FL. Salinas is committed to his own personal development, and to spreading the word about the vision and mission of the Mankind Project .

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McDonald's Drive-Thru, 8:23am

Category: Fatherhood , Memoir

by Wentworth Miller

McDonald's
Williams, California
December 23, 2013
8:32 AM (approx.)

I pull into the drive-thru, empty except for the giant white Suburban ahead of me, coming abreast of the callbox, like a yacht docking. When the window rolls down I can see the driver in his side mirror. Male, bald, mid 30s.

The intercom crackles as a McDonald's employee pitches whatever it is he/she's been ordered to pitch at the top of the order. Given the season, presumably something holiday-ish. High on fructose.

My window's rolled up so I can't hear their exchange, but I can see the man's lips moving, his eyes grazing the menu. He turns away from the callbox, addresses someone inside the Suburban, asking what they'd like for breakfast. Presumably.

That's when I notice how many people he's got with him. A literal carload. I see multiple heads. Most of them small. This guy's got four or five kids in there. At least. Plus the wife. All of whom want breakfast. None of whom have ever been to a McDonald's, apparently, because the man behind the wheel is talking them through the entire fucking menu. Every last item. Apparently.

The intercom crackles again and I glance in my rearview mirror, see two cars waiting behind me, their exhaust commingling with mine as the seconds tick by.

I look back at Suburban Dad, silently willing him to hurry it up. He does not. He's smiling, taking his time, making sure he's getting everybody's order right.

I imagine his voice in my head.

“Yeah… can I get a Bacon, Egg & Cheese Biscuit? No wait – Lexie's allergic to cheese. Can I get a Bacon & Egg Biscuit no cheese? No wait – can you make that a McMuffin? Can I get a Sausage McMuffin with Egg? No cheese. Lexie can't have cheese.” (McCetera.)

All I want is a large coffee with 2 creamers on the side.

Unfortunately for me, Dad, Mom, Lexie, and Lexie's thirty-six brothers and sisters are going to need several more minutes to make up their minds.

I sigh and look to my left, try to distract myself with the view outside my window. But there's nothing to see. Just a flat, dry expanse stretching to the horizon, a bleak winter vista of grays, browns and beiges in this Dust Bowl Created By Congress (if the billboards lining the 5 are to be believed).

I turn my gaze back to the Suburban, zeroing in on Dad (again), still framed in his side mirror. He's stroking his chin, looking over the menu (again). Considering His Options. I didn't know people still stroked their chins.

I look in my rearview mirror, see there are now three cars behind me. Here comes the fourth.

Several scenarios run through my head.

1st Scenario: I tap my horn twice. Beep Beep. Watch as Dad's eyes meet mine in the side mirror. His brow furrows. I smile. Shrug. Like, “Could you hurry it up, please?”

2nd Scenario: I violently stab my car horn. BLAP. Watch as Dad's eyes meet mine in the side mirror. His brow furrows. I lift my hands. Shrug. Like, “Whoops – didn't mean to hit the horn. But while I have your attention, could you hurry it up, please?”

3rd Scenario: I violently stab my car horn. And hold it. BLAAAAAAAAPPPPPPPP. Watch as Dad's eyes meet mine in the side mirror. His brow furrows. I stare him down. Like, “Yeah. You heard me.” He sticks his head out the window, looks back at me. “You gotta problem?” Maybe he actually opens his door, gets out and walks back to my car, wants to find out what my problem is face to face. (This scenario could lead to violence. Fisticuffs. A McFlurry of punches.)

4th Scenario: Someone behind me taps THEIR horn. Beep Beep. Dad's eyes meet mine in the side mirror. His brow furrows. I lift my hands. Shrug. Like, “Hey – wasn't me, buddy. But while we have your attention…”

My fingers drum the steering wheel.

Then, at last, he's done. Miracle of miracles. I sweep in behind the Suburban the second it moves forward, colonizing the space it so recently occupied. If it were a seat it would still be warm. Now it's mine. All mine. I have my window rolled down. I am breathless with impatience. Ready to order.

“Hi and welcome to McDonald's! Would you like to try our new -”

“Can I get a large black coffee with two creamers on the side?”

“Will that complete your order?”

“Yes. Thank you.”

“Your total is f – ”

I drive past the callbox and up to the first window, the window where you pay. Or at least I try to. But the Suburban's still there. Idling. Of course. I can't tell if Dad's paid and waiting for change or if he's still digging around looking for exact coinage.

I lift my weary eyes to the top of his vehicle, spot a rooftop cargo carrier. Black. Sizable. I wonder what's inside. Body parts maybe. Or Christmas presents. Body parts wrapped as Christmas presents. They're probably on their way to Grandma's house. Or a vacation cabin. ('Tis the season.)

I see movement out of the corner of my eye, catch a McDonald's employee handing Dad back his credit card and receipt. Dad says something in return (thank you?). Smiles. This guy's all fucking smiles. A regular chucklehead. Apparently.

Dad says something else to the employee (Merry Christmas?). Then, instead of driving forward and keeping the line moving, instead of showing a degree of awareness and/or respect for the fact that he/they are not alone in this drive-thru and/or world, Dad stays where he is. I see him looking down at his lap, fussing with something. His credit card maybe. He's putting it back in his wallet. THEN he'll move forward.

For fuck's sake.

One of the kids must've said something funny because now Dad is laughing, hard, head thrown back. I see gums in the side mirror, a small black gullet ringed by tiny white teeth.

The 1st Scenario pops into my head again, the one where I tap my horn twice. Beep Beep. Watch as Dad's eyes meet mine in the side mirror, brow furrowing. I smile, shrug. “Could you hurry it up, please?” Dad gives me the stink-eye but pulls forward, allowing me to pay for my coffee at the first window. A minute later I'm back on the 5, nursing my cup of joe and listening to some tunes, inner monologue re: the family in the white Suburban being rapidly replaced by thoughts re: me. And lunch. Then me again.

I mellemtiden - stadig 1st Scenario - den Suburban s tilbage på vejen så godt, men nu fars humør har forpestet. He's still thinking (brooding) about that asshole behind him at McDonald's, the one who honked his horn. The one who wanted him/them to hurry the fuck up. That honk felt personal. Like an insult. Dad thinks maybe he should've gotten out of the car and walked back there, found out what that guy's problem was face to face. Yeah. Maybe he should have. Dad knows he ought to let it slide but can't, has never been good at shrugging things off. His fingers drum the steering wheel.

Dad's wife sits next to him, tense, eyes front, shoulders climbing up to her ears. There's been a change in the weather and she knows it. She's heard this record before. She gives her husband a look, assessing the situation, finger to the wind, waiting to see where this will go. But she can guess.

Lexie and her thirty-six brothers and sisters sit behind them, subdued now. There's been a change in the weather and they know it. They eat quietly, trying not to crinkle their Sausage McMuffin with Egg wrappers too loudly. To no avail.

One of them is an hour and 42 minutes away from getting slapped.

It might happen sooner. It might happen later. But it's happening.

I sit in the drive-thru with my foot on the brake, staring at the backs of those little heads in the Suburban in front of me, wondering which of them it will be.

Do I know for sure that honking my horn means one of those kids is getting slapped?

Of course not.

Would I really be responsible if the former resulted in the latter?

No. That's absurd.

Ish.

If Lexie and her thirty-six brothers and sisters are growing up in an environment where slapping occurs, slapping will occur, no matter how quietly they eat their breakfasts. No matter how many drivers refrain from honking at Dad, palms will meet cheeks.

Guaranteed.

But I don't want to be a link in that chain.

So I still my fingers on the steering wheel and leave my horn unhonked. I will wait the extra 5 minutes for my morning coffee. I will let Dad – still chuckling, by the way – pull forward to the pick-up window when he's good and ready.

Fine by me.

When he does I follow behind, moving well under 5 mph. When I stop next to the pay window, I brake so gently I can barely tell I've braked at all. Or that I was ever moving.

I've got my bills and exact change ready. $4.34. I extend my closed fist toward the window as it slides open, revealing a ponytailed teenager in a McDonald's visor and faded parka. She smiles apologetically, nods toward the Suburban in front of me. Shrugs. Says, “Sorry about the wait. That guy took forever, huh?”

Wentworth Miller

Born in England, raised in Brooklyn, New York, and a graduate of Princeton University, Wentworth Miller is a compelling and critically acclaimed young actor whose credits span both television and feature film. Learn more about Wentworth Miller at IMdb . Miller is a member of the ManKind Project USA, Los Angeles Community.

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Embrace Bad Experiences Like a Warrior

by Shawn Rhodes

What I remember most about the first time someone tried to take my life was how good the water tasted.

It was spring of 2004, and I was in a cargo vehicle full of infantry Marines. We headed out to protect an overpass used as a supply route to Baghdad. It was being shelled regularly by the local Jihad constabulary. The big, clunky vehicle pulled under the bridge and we waited for further orders. Apparently, it's a bad idea to park a vehicle in a spot the enemy has plenty of experience hitting. We immediately began receiving incoming mortar fire.

I heard the order to abandon the vehicle, and I was two people from the rear hatch. The man closest to the back jumped the 12 feet from the truck bed to the ground, rolled on the pavement and ran for cover as the rounds rained around him. The second man followed, and was peppered by shrapnel along the right side of his body. The rounds came in half-second increments, and when they hit the pavement around us, it was like geysers opened. Smoke, gravel, and pieces of steel sprayed up and out like jets of black steam. I jumped from the vehicle and a mortar exploded underneath me.

The next thing I remember was swinging from the rear tailgate of the huge truck as it lurched forward. One hand gripping the steel while the rest of me banged around against the bumper. I dropped to the ground and checked myself – no wounds. When we finally settled in for the night, I realized I'd never been so thirsty. That lukewarm, stale, chlorinated water tasted like it had come from the Swiss alps.

I share this story because I want to jog your memory. I want you to remember the elation that comes from surviving. More importantly, I want to share with you a key principle of living a life with Shoshin, Beginner's Heart:

The best moments occur when you push yourself (or are pushed) beyond what you think you can handle. It is what you do with that victory, however, that defines the rest of your life.

Trauma is a well-recognized and ancient way of bringing oneself to the brink of what we think we can handle. If someone survives, it changes them forever. Many of the veterans I fought with are still coming to terms with what they experienced on the battlefield. These folks were certainly physically stronger than I was, most were smarter, and our training desensitized all of us to violence. So why do some of us return after these experiences re-dedicated to fulfilling our life's purpose, while so many leave their life's passions in the desert sands?

People hurt us. Others are taken too early. What do we do with the emptiness echoing within? The solution may surprise you – it's not forgiving and forgetting, and it's certainly not pretending it didn't happen. If an event in life challenges your reason for living as fully as possible, pick up the mantle of the warrior again. Even if you've never thought of yourself as a warrior, the spirit of service lives within you. It is your human calling and it's a way to embrace challenge in life.

Think of the most traumatic events in your life, and the details involved. Remember of how things felt or smelled. Record it on a piece of paper. If these memories don't feel like an unhealed wound, you've already done the healing work of a spirit-warrior or your life is blessedly free of trauma.

What do you want to invite back into your life? Playfulness? Unbridled joy? Trust? Write it down. If it's stumping you, ask friends or family who knew you before and after the event noticed any changes.

If the event re-played itself in your mind every hour (and it does for some of us, doesn't it?), what would you do to make the memory bearable? This is assuming you're tired of avoiding the memory and are ready to regain what you lost.
Warriors are called to live a life of excellence. Striving to be fulfilled brings lessons of both victories and defeats. What separates a warrior from a victim is what they choose to do with the rest of their lives. Like all life-issues, the faster you run, the faster they pursue. Warriors don't run, hiding behind alcohol, drugs, or pretending something didn't happen. A warrior does what they love – they revel in playing on the battlefield of their lives.

Of course, the events that shaped us no longer exist, except in the past and in our memories. You see, the place warriors reclaim lost parts of themselves is within their present moments. It's there we walk the path. Remember, a warrior is one who serves a higher calling. If you're reading this and you've survived the traumatic events of your life, it's safe to say you want to make the most of your present moments. Your higher purpose, your passion, your call to live with your own beginner's heart is echoing through you into your empty spaces so that you can act on it. You deserve to live an excellent life.

So how do we bring what we're missing back into our lives? As any martial artist will tell you, once you learn a 'difficult technique' it's a forehead-slapping experience when you think of how much you struggled to perform something so simple.

But that technique, that missing piece and that life you dream about will never materialize unless you begin practicing. You have to send out what you want to bring into your life. Start now. Laugh at every opportunity. Trust in small increments until you can turn your life back over to the universe. Practice giving others the things you're missing and savor the return as it flows back into your life. Seize those moments and taste them; drink deeply.

As John Turturro said in O Brother, Where Art Thou:

“Come on in boys, the water is fine.”

Shawn Rhodes

As an award-winning Marine war correspondent, Shawn Rhodes traveled to more than two dozen countries fighting alongside US Marines. His stories and photos have been featured in TIME , CNN and MSNBC in addition to major wire services. He was a top combat reporter in the military and recognized by Congress for sharing the warrior's lifestyle with the public. He then lived and trained at a martial arts temple in Japan, learning how the warrior's mindset could be used for victory in battles and boardrooms. Currently he is a successful speaker and coach, teaching people to achieve success and happiness using the methods he learned from warriors around the world. He was initiated at the NWTA in October of 2013. Find out more about Shawn Rhodes at his web site: Shoshin Consulting

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Resolutions? Changes? A New Endeavor? Remember this…

Category: Men and Mission

guest post: by Patricia Clason

Thinking about “growing” some goals, making some changes, starting something new? Whether you are making changes for growing your business or a having a more satisfying personal life, you may want to remember this story.

Wanting to fill his yard with the smell of lilacs, the man planted several bushes in his garden. After a few weeks, he was frustrated because they hadn't blossomed and he pulled them up and replanted them in another part of the garden. “Perhaps they'll get more sun here and then blossom,” he thought. A month later, they still hadn't blossomed.

So he pulled them up and replanted in another area of the garden, this time angrier than before. In the fall, the bushes still hadn't blossomed so he pulled them out and threw them away!

Immediate gratification. American society is programmed for it – a pill to take away the headache, a candy bar for instant energy, a credit card so you can buy what you want right now. We want what we want and we want it when we want it.

We forget that the world is made of cycles and processes. The lilac bushes needed a season to settle into the earth and send down roots. Nature gives us the wonderful example of seeds needing to build root systems before they sprout above ground and grow into the plant they were meant to be.

In your business or personal life, have you been pulling up the roots, replanting in what you thought might be sunnier spots, only to find that you aren't getting the blossoms you yearn for? Perhaps it would be best if take the time to nurture a root system.

Get grounded. Explore through books and seminars the possibilities and potentials available to you. Make sure that you are not operating out of anxiousness, frustration, anger, stress or fatigue. The choices we make at emotional times are often not well processed through our “root system” and therefore don't usually reflect Who We Were Meant To Be. Instead those choices reflect the chaos of the storm going on around us. Allow the storm front to move through. Just notice the emotions, feel them at the moment. There is no need to take action, other than to protect yourself if necessary from the elements that might be dangerous to you. When the storm has passed, the calm settles in. Review what has happened.

Before making decisions to sprout into the new business, relationship, home or whatever new directions you are choosing, remember the Chinese bamboo, Moso, takes several years to build it's root system before ever appearing above ground. However, it's root system is so strong that it will grow to 60 to 75 feet tall in the five years following it's appearance. The bamboo will grow to a strong and powerful eight inches in diameter.

Gib Cooper is a bamboo gardner. He offers this saying for us to ponder…. The first year they sleep. The second year they creep. The third year they leap!

When you approach a new endeavor, you would do well to consider the wisdom of the Moso gardner. Take the time to plant and nurture the seeds of your new endeavor, choose wisely the plant you wish to become and then watch as your power and strength grow in proportion to the root system you have developed. Give up immediate gratification for the long term pleasure, satisfaction, and strength of the moso forest!

A professional speaker since 1975, Patricia has created over fifty workshops, speeches, and keynote presentations highlighting the skills of Emotional Intelligence. A host for both radio and television interview shows for ten years with an extensive background in business and education, Patricia makes strong connections with participants from private, public and non-profit sector organizations, as well as associations. Emotional Intelligence is at the core of all of her work, helping people develop their self-awareness and social awareness skills to build effective, collaborative relationships personally and professionally. Her website gives more details and contact information.

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Emotionally Closed Off: Healing Pain and Learning to Love

Category: Men and Love

By Gonzalo Salinas

Sol On the Tiny Buddha site, I found an amazing article by Joanna Warwick, a writer and a therapist who writes about Love, Emotions and Relationships. The article talks about the brave action of opening your heart, even when life has taught you to close it. Great reading!

Letting go came with what seemed like an ocean of tears and unchartered anger, which I shouted, screamed, swore, prayed, talked, and physically used to punch my bed; but gradually the light started to creep in.

Click Here to read “ Emotionally Closed Off: Healing Pain and Learning to Love. ” Enjoy!

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'Man Up' and Beyond … Malik Washington

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Malik Washington

by Boysen Hodgson

When Malik Washington joined the “ Man Up ” program at Howard University as a freshmen, it was because he wanted to make sure he had what he needed to succeed. “ Man Up ” was a space where Malik, and many other young men like him, could get things off their chests that might distract them from being successful in their studies.

For many men, this makes a big difference. When Malik started at Howard it was expected that nearly half of the young African American men who were starting school wouldn't finish. And often it's not academics that get in the way, it's added stresses outside of school that push many young men to drop out.

Man Up ” is a place to deal with those extra stresses and get support from mentors and peers. As New Warriors , the format for the circles would seem very familiar, with some similarities to our I-Groups.

Now, only a few years later, Washington is using some of what he learned in those men's circles, and his subsequent MKP experience, to break the cycles of violence and poverty in communities all over the northeast as the CEO of the William Kellibrew Foundation .

From the Kellibrew Foundation's website:
The William Kellibrew Foundation is an advocate, bridge and community driven partner dedicated to breaking the cycles of violence and poverty. The WKF harnesses and provides resources to both victims and similarly focused organizations through prevention, intervention, education and outreach. By sharing the stories of survivors we give voice to victims, raise community awareness and empower people working to rebuild their lives, families and communities.  

Washington now manages and creates groups for both men and women, with a focus on providing trauma informed care and needed services to a large network in the DC area. He is also traveling to other cities in the northeast to setup similar programs. William Kellibrew's story is intense, heart-breaking and hopeful .

Congratulations to this Peaceful Warrior – on living a powerful mission of service in the world.

The Howard University 'Man Up' program has had deep involvement from a number of New Warriors in the Greater Washington DC community including Lincoln Brown Jr. and former DC Center Director Darryl Moment.

Boysen Hodgson

Boysen Hodgson is the Communications and Marketing Director for the ManKind Project USA, a nonprofit mentoring and training organization that offers powerful opportunities for men's personal growth at any stage of life. Boysen received his BA with Honors from the University of Massachusetts at Amherst, after completing 2 years of Design coursework at Cornell University. He has been helping companies and individuals design the change they wish to see in the world for 15 years. He's a dedicated husband.

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Mission is not “mine” – releasing the power of mission

Category: Men and Mission

By Stephen Simmer

You never go away from us, yet we have difficulty in returning to you. Come, stir us up and call us back. Kindle and seize us. Be our fire and our sweetness. Let us love. Let us run. –Augustine

 
Too late I came to love you, both so ancient and so new! Too late I came to love you – and you were with me all the time . . .
–Augustine
 
 
The spirit is so near that you can't see it!
But reach for it. . .don't be a jar
Full of water, whose rim is always dry.
Don't be the rider who gallops all night
And never sees the horse that is beneath him.
–Rumi

We stand up in a circle and say, “My mission is. . .” But to me there's something wrong about calling it my mission, like it's a possession that belongs to me. My mission is not my possession, like my car or my I-phone. It possesses me , like spirit possession. My mission is greater than me. I belong to it . It grabs me by the neck. The etymology of the word mission connects it to the word smite. It is something that smacks me and knocks me down, refuses to be ignored, makes me change my life.

When I speak my mission for the first time, I may have a sense of deja vu, as if I am saying something I have known all along. Like Augustine says, “Too late I came to love you, and you were with me all the time.” It is as if mission has been whispering in my ear my entire life, but I hadn't been listening. It is as if I have had a companion from the beginning, but I was turned the other way.

When I form a mission statement with a vision and an action, in my opinion it's like trying to cage the Wild Man in the Iron Hans story. When I recite it, I put my mission on display, and pretend that I've captured it and put it in the zoo. But that caged creature isn't the real Mission. It tricks its way out of my definition. It needs to be on the move, alive and changing.

The Latin word missionem means “sending, releasing, setting at liberty.” If there's no movement or sense of freedom in it, it's not really Mission. It scoops us up on its back and carries us into the forest, like in the story. When I ride on mission's back, it's deciding where we go, carrying me to places I've never been. As Augustine says, “Be our fire and our sweetness. Let us love. Let us run.”

If I let Mission carry me, it takes me to a place where all things glisten with golden beauty. My life makes sense, there's value in what I do. In the Iron Hans story, the wild man carries the boy to a pool that changes everything to gold, and the boy sticks his wounded finger in the pool. Even my wounds have gold in them, become an essential part of my mission work. Before, I hid my wounds out of shame, or out of fear that the pain would start again. Now, my wounds glisten with gold. No, I don't wait for them to heal before I begin my mission work. My wounds as they are become my bridge of compassion, my connection to the wounded world. Then my wound is not must mine, it becomes the place where I can feel the pain of the world.

Stephen Simmer

Steve Simmer, for those of us privileged to know him, lives his life in the midst of the constant stream and theme of mission. Appropriately enough, one of his formal mission statements is that he “creates a world of freedom by encouraging men with my courage to do all that they can be and to be all that they can do.” By profession a psychotherapist, he works continuously to inspire men to actively find and engage in their own mission in this world. Dr. Simmer completed the New Warrior Training Adventure back in 2001, and has never been the same man since.
To learn more about Steve and his work you can visit his website

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Message from your Inner Warrior

by Gonzalo Salinas

Dear Warrior:

You don't work on your mission to get things. You don't work on your mission to get a desired outcome: Not fame or fortune, not a brand new car, nor the girl. You don't condition your mission to an outcome.

What if you work in your mission to get things and when you finish, you don't get the thing? Or even worse, you achieve the goal, you get the thing but you don't get the fulfillment? ...

You know better than that.

Deep in your heart, this is what you really know: You work on your mission because this is Who You Are. Period. You know that your mission will either saves someone's life or will make this planet a better place to live. So you wake up, you work on your mission, no matter the amount of time as long as you do something related to your mission today.

And then you realize that the little amount of work you put on your mission today, is enough reason to authorize yourself to be happy right now. Tomorrow will be another day.

Love,

Your Inner Warrior

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Gonzalo Salinas is an Assistant Editor for the ManKind Project Journal, a publication of the ManKind Project, a nonprofit mentoring and training organization offering powerful opportunities for men's personal growth at any stage of life. Salinas studied Literature in Lima, Peru at San Marcos University, and has been living in the United States since 2003. He lives in Miami, FL. Salinas is committed to his own personal development, and to spreading the word about the vision and mission of the Mankind Project .

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Mensaje de tu Guerrero Interior

Category: Men and Mission

por Gonzalo Salinas

Querido Guerrero:

Tú no trabajas en tu misión para obtener cosas. Tú no trabajas en tu misión para obtener ningún resultado. No por fama o fortuna, ni por un carro nuevo ni para conseguir una mujer. Tú no condicionas tu misión a un resultado.

¿Qué pasaría si trabajas en tu misión y al final no obtienes el resultado que esperas? O peor aún, ¿Qué pasaría si luego de trabajar en tu misión, obtienes la cosa y ello no te llena como esperabas?… Tú eres mejor que eso.

En un lugar profundo en tu corazón, esto es lo que sabes: Tú trabajas en tu misión porque eso es quien TÚ eres. Así de simple. Tú sabes que tu misión salvará la vida de alguien o que hará que este planeta sea un mejor lugar donde vivir. Entonces te despiertas, trabajas en tu misión, sin importar el tiempo que le dediques tan pronto como hagas algo por tu misión el día de hoy.

Y luego te das cuenta, que ese pequeño monto de trabajo que pusiste hoy en tu misión, es razón suficiente para autorizarte a ser feliz ahora mismo. Mañana será otro día.

Con Amor,

Tu Guerrero Interior

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Gonzalo Salinas is an Assistant Editor for the ManKind Project Journal, a publication of the ManKind Project, a nonprofit mentoring and training organization offering powerful opportunities for men's personal growth at any stage of life. Salinas studied Literature in Lima, Peru at San Marcos University, and has been living in the United States since 2003. He lives in Miami, FL. Salinas is committed to his own personal development, and to spreading the word about the vision and mission of the Mankind Project .

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