Women in Men’s Groups?
Oct13

Women in Men’s Groups?

(or) Why Men’s Groups Need Women Guest post by Erin Brandt Bottom Line: Because AFTER men get tremendously powerful support from other men in digging through their deepest shit and celebrating their biggest wins, what’s crucial is practicing integrating your new skills… directly with women… – *with* the support and guidance of your brothers – with women specially chosen because of their love of, respect of and skill with...

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Slow Way, Way Down for Extraordinary Intimacy
Mar01

Slow Way, Way Down for Extraordinary Intimacy

– – – See the author’s TEDx Talk on Creating Extraordinary Intimacy in a Shut Down World – – – As I write this I’m sitting in an airport on my way to give a TEDx talk titled: Creating Extraordinary Intimacy in a Shutdown World. One of the central themes of my talk is how, as a fully impotent prostate cancer survivor, I have slowed way, way down for my female partner and what doors to truly...

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Presence vs. Performance in the Pursuit of Extraordinary Intimacy
Dec17

Presence vs. Performance in the Pursuit of Extraordinary Intimacy

The obsession with male performance in the bedroom is a misguided intimacy killer and here’s what you can do about it. – – – See the author’s TEDx Talk on Creating Extraordinary Intimacy in a Shut Down World – – – Conventional wisdom tells us that great performance in the bedroom means you’re more of a man. The main thing to remember is that women want a guy who can go at it for hours...

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Guest Post: Spice Up Your Relationship with a Blind Date
Apr10

Guest Post: Spice Up Your Relationship with a Blind Date

Want to learn and experience something new with your partner? Try going on a “blind date”. Here’s how it worked for Michael J. Russer. – – by Michael Russer, originally published at the Good Men Project  My partner and I wanted to do something different and adventurous for Valentine’s Day. So she had this idea about us going on a “blind date”. Where we would meet at a restaurant and bar as if being set up by our mutual friend “Bill”....

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Getting Lucky vs. Hooking Up – guest post
Jan20

Getting Lucky vs. Hooking Up – guest post

by Michael Russer, reprinted with permission from The Good Men Project Here’s why today’s “hook up” millennials may be our best hope yet for a shift towards true intimacy. – – – When I was the age of today’s millennial men I thought about one thing when it came to women—getting “lucky”. This was something that didn’t happen all that often, hence why the term “getting lucky” was so apropos. In our current culture getting...

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The Butterfly King – Edmond Manning on Writing and Daring
Oct05

The Butterfly King – Edmond Manning on Writing and Daring

by Edmond Manning By what right does a white man tell the story of a black man? Describe that man’s struggles, the lifelong challenges he faces, the hardships of living in a white-centric culture? I have asked myself this question many times. In September, the third book in my ‘Lost and Found Kings’ series, The Butterfly King was published. The premise is the same in each book: a gay, Midwestern car mechanic invites another man to...

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