The Blue Flame of Anger

In my world anger is expensive fuel. Despite its extraordinary cost anger is expedient when compressed and used sparingly with discretion. Caution! Storage is problematic. Anger expands when contained and pressure relief is critical. Increased levels of compression can be explosive. The popular myth that anger must be suppressed or “managed” needs serious rewriting. This strategy if adhered to rigidly can lead to toxic levels of...

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The Time Stamp

I turn 65 this summer, if not a convenient act certainly symbolic. A life of high drama is running its final lap and the flowers in my garden are a constant reminder all living things have a season. My work has taken me into the townships of South Africa and behind the walls of maximum-security prisons. I’ve had the privilege of peering deep within the souls of the world’s elite military and challenged corporate giants at their own...

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PTSD: ‘After multiple combat deployments I had no idea what I felt.’
Oct04

PTSD: ‘After multiple combat deployments I had no idea what I felt.’

— Caught by surprise the Green Beret sitting across from me grasped that all his elite training hadn’t prepared him to confront his interior landscape. “I’m master of the outer terrain, now I discover an unfamiliar interior terrain?” His stunned expression said it all. Habitual suppression compromises our ability to be effective in relationships or in society. Excessive pressure and stress will eventually trigger an implosion....

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Why I Men’s Group
Aug22

Why I Men’s Group

Embed from Getty Images When I first began teaching my son to ride a bike I anticipated a few cuts and bruises – I mean it’s inevitable. We joked how falling down was all part of the process of learning and the most important thing was to get back up (that is the moral of our life story, isn’t it?). What I didn’t anticipate was the feeling I would get watching my son be thrown off his bike moments before his six-year-old face slammed...

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My Black History

Embed from Getty Images   Note to the reader: To tell my story in the way I want it heard, this piece contains explicit accounts of physical abuse. I wasn’t born hating black men; it wasn’t something I learned from my parents either – in fact my father always taught me to ‘love everybody’. It’s a belief I created from years of abuse and my uncanny ability to project my wounds from that abuse onto every black man I met. I’m...

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Out of Our Heads – a film about Men’s Work
Feb14

Out of Our Heads – a film about Men’s Work

by Boysen Hodgson It is not easy or comfortable to overcome cultural stereotypes of masculinity. “Out of Our Heads” is a film about ‘Men’s Work’ similar to that offered by the ManKind Project. Men’s work is about reclaiming the disowned emotion, connection, spirit, and vulnerability that we, as a culture, have made taboo. Generations of rigid enforcement of male roles … the ‘guy...

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