Yeah, Dads Have Bad Days. So What?
Aug26

Yeah, Dads Have Bad Days. So What?

Embed from Getty Images By Gregory Tapler Being a dad is hard work. What the hell does that even mean? Hard work? A labor of love? A duty? A responsibility? There are times when I talk to my friends when I’m having a hard day being a dad. Often I’m met with ‘Yeah, but they’re really worth it.’ or ‘The joy outweighs the pain.’ or…well, you get the point. Don’t get me wrong, there are days when I’m on the giving end of those catch...

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Aggrieved Entitlement and Evolved Masculinity
Jun15

Aggrieved Entitlement and Evolved Masculinity

Let’s face it, together. Aggrieved Entitlement is a term I picked up from Michael Kimmel. It is the existential state of fear about having my ‘rightful place’ as a man questioned … challenged … deconstructed. Aggrieved entitlement is being told ‘No’ when the prevailing mythos of the culture has taught that I have a ‘right’ to something because of my birth (as male, as white,...

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Becoming a New Warrior Helped Me Find Music Again – by Jim Donovan
Feb27

Becoming a New Warrior Helped Me Find Music Again – by Jim Donovan

by Jim Donovan On my way home from Bedford, Indiana, I knew life would never be the same. I had just completed my NWTA Weekend and was making the eight hour drive from southern Indiana to Pittsburgh feeling elated, exhausted and WIDE OPEN. I had just undergone a profound inner transformation that had yet to settle in. It was on this drive that music unexpectedly reappeared after a decade-long absence. I had spent the previous five...

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Don’t Quit – a Message from Dad
Feb24

Don’t Quit – a Message from Dad

by Gregory Tapler My son is at an age where he likes to (and actually can) play organized sports. We decided to move him towards basketball for a number of reasons and he seems to be enjoying it very much. He’s an only child and when he’s at home playing, he commentates his own games. He changes teams, players and keeps score. It’s really enjoyable as a father to listen to his creativity and spirit. When he plays, he has this...

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The One Secret to Feeling Totally Alive
Dec15

The One Secret to Feeling Totally Alive

The way to feel totally alive is actually quite simple (but not necessarily easy) and it boils down to making just one choice… – – – I recently watched a “B” adventure / comedy that provided some unlikely hidden wisdom. While neither the acting nor story were all that great, something did catch my attention. The main character was essentially a loser limo driver with failed dreams of being an actor. A big part of his problem was how...

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Twenty-Seven Shovels
Sep08

Twenty-Seven Shovels

by Randall Rogers, Reprinted with Permission A few years ago, in 2009, I moved in with the man who raised me. It was the house I grew up in and our experience of a father/son relationship had often been strained and challenging. For me, moving in with him in the throes of my impending divorce and his deepening Cancer and Alzheimers, was both a blessing and a profound challenge. Richard was a carpenter of brilliant and impeccable...

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