The Psychology of Killing

December 23, 2010 · Category: 2010 December, Men and Shadow, Reviews 

by Michael Fogler

On Killing


On Killing: The Psychological Cost of Learning to Kill in War and Society



Revised and Updated Edition 2009 by Lt. Col. Dave Grossman; published by Back Bay Books.

Lt. Col. Dave Grossman is a former army Ranger, paratrooper, and psychology professor at West Point.   He retired from the army in 1998 to devote himself to the study of “killology” — a term he coined. Killology looks at why we humans have killed one another and the psychological toll it takes.   This book is a treatise on that study.

What it Means to Be a Man Today

December 21, 2010 · Category: 2010 December, Memoir, Men and Faith, Poetry 

by David McCalib

(Written circa 2 A.M. Sunday, 12/19/2010)

These are challenging circumstances to focus on this now, in a cold room with a migraine at 2 A.M.; I’d rather be warm under five layers or in a hot tub or gently swinging in a hammock on a tropical Pacific island paradise, but I will do my best to focus on this idea, this task that flashed out of nowhere after I was asked to write something and envisioned writing it.

A New Perspective

December 21, 2010 · Category: 2010 December, Men and Initiation, Poetry 

by Ben Easton

Plunging men into darkness, we sweep their canvases clean,
silencing their stories, but inviting their soul-searching truths.
Listening to voices hushed for too long, we create a sacred space,
surrounding men with eyes as mirrors, reflecting hopes and fears.

Stripping away trappings, we remove their obsolete masks,
revealing raw and alien identities: brothers of a kindred spirit.
Guiding men to go deep within, we show them the ancient way,
accessing wildness and mystery, and unearthing boundless courage.

We Are But Men

December 21, 2010 · Category: 2010 December, Men and Faith, Men and Shadow 

By Richard Wiener

When I was young, I searched for gods – men without fear of death, men imbued with the unassailable power I so sorely lacked.  At times I thought I had found such gods, but in the end all proved to be fallible like myself.  Much later I learned that godliness resides not on a sacred Mount Olympus, but right here, right now, within ourselves.

Five Generations: Looking Back and Forward

December 21, 2010 · Category: 2010 December, Fatherhood, Memoir, Men and Parenting 

by Steve Norcross

At 69 years of age, I am blessed with three of us living and vivid memories of two others. Now that the year is turning to yet another, the holiday time has me looking back, and looking forward.

The Gold-Light Path

December 21, 2010 · Category: Memoir, Men and Faith, Men and Shadow 

by James Hanny

In most anything a Man encounters or desires, he has a choice upon which road to traverse. And in that destination, he chooses one of two essential directions in which to flow his decisions—to release and direct his energies.

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One path taken is guided by his shadowy, dark fears.
It appears to be, and he perceives it as, the real fabric of his experiences.
This illusory path was configured from the legacy of his youth by the labors of shadow figures echoing within him; then made believable by the investment and attention of his own energy.
Through sheer mental projection, or by sheer attraction, this path is filled with ominous shadows, tricksters, and miscreants.
From his dark recesses, he may summon demons, monsters, the darkest of fellows, or wicked Sirens.

Men of Service; a poem

December 21, 2010 · Category: Men and Faith, Poetry 

by ManWoman

I ask for a vision
so clear so radiant
that it takes our breath away
with its grandeur
I ask for a vision
that heals all men
women and children

My Father’s Son; a poem

December 21, 2010 · Category: 2010 December, Fatherhood, Poetry 

by James Herlihy

Did you know what it was like
To face every day as if it were my last;
To awaken every morning in certain dread
That one or both of you would be gone?

The Third Time Through

December 21, 2010 · Category: 2010 December, Men and Faith 

by Joe Glassman

We read the first line on December 10, 2004. We read our last line, and once again the first line on October 30, 2010. This was my third time through. We start at the beginning of Exodus, read one line at a time, and talk about it. The Torah study group has been meeting every Saturday morning from 8 – 9:30 a.m. for almost fifty years.

An interview with Jun Po

December 21, 2010 · Category: 2010 December, Interviews 

Ancient Bald Eagle / The Zen Guy

Interviewed By: mj nelson / rattlesnake

mj: Jun Po, thank you for taking the time to talk to us.  I have been very excited about this interview since we first started talking about it.  It is not every day that the opportunity to interview a “Zen Master” comes along.

Jun Po: An old Zen master once replied, “I do not say there is no Zen, just that there are no masters of Zen.” A Zen master is not a master of Zen, just an excellent student.

Fathering in the 21st Century

December 21, 2010 · Category: Fatherhood, VoiceMale Magazine 

VoiceMale Magazine Summer 2010

By Donald N.S. Unger – Reprinted with Permission from VoiceMale Magazine [http://voicemalemagazine.org]

When we examine change, we often look as well at why things often don’t change. I am particularly interested in the not uncommon resistance to the notion that the quantity and the quality of the time American fathers spend with their children have changed meaningfully. Ironically, I see this resistance coming from both the right and the left.